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-taff

|It doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it's a good or a bad idea. The OP wants her to pay.

OP, if she won't pay, tell her to move out.

badmemory

I too would not take keep from a child saving for a deposit. However, the trend with some recent posts is that it is not about saving up for a deposit, it is about having a couple of hundred extra to throw away in a club with no intention to save. I would not be prepared to do that.

maman

peachyprice wrote: »

You think paying 'rent' to parents is the only way people learn to budget?

My son budgets his savings, clothing, socialising, driving lessons, travel, food etc., and is as a result totally debt free with a good amount of savings behind him. Paying me 'rent' wouldn't make a blind bit of difference to his ability to budget, it would just mean he would have less savings. So what's the point if I don't need his money?

Agreed. My DDs started learning to budget from about 13 when we gave them an allowance that covered everything but school uniform. Then they had to manage their money at university both in halls and shared houses. It's never to late to learn but I started much earlier than 22.;

maman

badmemory wrote: »

I too would not take keep from a child saving for a deposit. However, the trend with some recent posts is that it is not about saving up for a deposit, it is about having a couple of hundred extra to throw away in a club with no intention to save. I would not be prepared to do that.

Where did you read that? I must have missed it.

maman

-taff wrote: »

|It doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it's a good or a bad idea. The OP wants her to pay.

OP, if she won't pay, tell her to move out.

OP made a point of asking what everyone else thinks. That's the point of the thread.

Zeni

I think its a very reasonable amount! I'd guess she would be looking at taking home over £1500 a month so asking for £250 is not a lot of her salary considering that Im guessing covers room, water, electricity/gas and food. Be hard pressed to find anything like that in the rental market.
(I lived at home with my parents after finishing uni 8 years ago and was happy to give towards £50 board until I moved out a week)

Loz01

£250 is a bargain if she's earning 21k!!! She'll have a massive amount of disposable income compared to the average person! I wouldn't let her persuade you down to a lower amount, thats a bargain as it is.

maman

I'm not disagreeing that £250 isn't good value or that it's unaffordable. For a lodger it would be an absolute bargain. I wondered just why OP wants the money from her daughter.

barbiedoll

maman wrote: »

I'm not disagreeing that £250 isn't good value or that it's unaffordable. For a lodger it would be an absolute bargain. I wondered just why OP wants the money from her daughter.

Well, perhaps OP can't actually afford to support a free-loading adult any longer? Perhaps she wants to overpay her mortgage, for a house that her daughter will eventually expect to inherit, no doubt? Maybe she wants to cut down her working hours after years of working and bringing up children?

It's all very well, being preachy about "taking money" from your offspring, if you're wealthy enough for it not to be a problem for you. Why shouldn't adult children contribute to their home expenses? My house is my "home" too, but I still have to pay the bills.

If they want a fridge full of food, laundry services, superfast broadband and full central heating at all hours, they should help to pay for it!

svain

Is there a reason you want £250 ,,, is it because you need the money?

Forget all the "its a bargain" crowd. What does it actually cost extra to have your daughter at home??. I dont think it will cost £60-£70 a week extra.

I would lower the amount you are charging and offer to include family meals, but if she wants extra food/treats/toiletries etc of her own then she has to fund herself. If she requests anything extra (ie Sky TV or broadband upgrade) then charge her the extra.