Rights of adult kids in family home

Cakeguts

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Am now trying to rack my brains and think if I've ever known anyone over 30 that didnt own their own home (though often in conjunction, it has to be said, with a spouse or partner). Errrrm....errrrrm....there was one guy older than me that was renting a bedsit that I knew of back in my 20s - but he was of a distinctly "hippy" bent. There was another guy that fell into the same category that was living in his father house - ditto distinctly "hippy" bent.

I can't honestly think of anyone else I've known ever that was either renting or sharing with parents still after about the age of 30 - and my home area is a pretty dear one (not London).

Really the only other people that come to mind in an older age group that didnt have their own (bought) homes after about that age were those sharing the rented bedsit houses and rented public sector accommodation with me - but no-one at all that I "knew of myself" basically (apart from those 2 hippyish guys - with no fixed jobs).

EDIT; Just recalled another older hippyish guy I knew somewhat after I bought first house. He rented a one bedroom (Council) flat on his own.

Moral of the story - I simply can't think of anyone at all that lived in a houseshare over, say, mid-20s.

I can but they all have silly jobs and are still dreaming of the big break which is not now going to come. Most people grow up and get a proper job in something that pays the bills but some don't and it is these people who live in shared accommodation until they are really quite old.

agrinnall

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

How many 34 year olds do you know that live in house shares?

I did at 50, but only as a second property while I was studying for a Masters, I also owned my own home at the time, and I only shared with one guy who was offshore a lot of the time anyway.

thorsoak

Bex981 wrote: »

I'm no expert but it actually sounds like you have 'squatters rights'. You have been allowed on the premises lawfully therefore the new rules on 'squatting' don't apply. Speak with citizens advice or a free solicitor? they have drop in clinics which can be found on google.

"Squatters' rights"? No such thing! If you are both working, why are you not looking for your own accommodation? Grow up!

silvercar

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Am now trying to rack my brains and think if I've ever known anyone over 30 that didnt own their own home (though often in conjunction, it has to be said, with a spouse or partner). Errrrm....errrrrm....there was one guy older than me that was renting a bedsit that I knew of back in my 20s - but he was of a distinctly "hippy" bent. There was another guy that fell into the same category that was living in his father house - ditto distinctly "hippy" bent.

This is a newish trend, in the same way that the change in HB rules for the under 35s is newish. You can't compare how things were like back in the day.

HB58

My son is 31, lives and works in London - and shares a flat with a friend, cos that's what he can afford.

amateur_house

My three 'kids' aged mid 20s-30 can't afford to leave home, and of their circle of friends most are still living with parents. Only one or two are living independently, and those are in house shares.

amateur_house

AFF8879 wrote: »

Most mothers I know want to cling on to the apron strings for as long as possible but clearly the MSE community wants to snap them at the first opportunity:)

Most mothers I know would prefer their adult children to be independent and move out! I tell mine they best not leave it too long to move out. Once I get too old and frail to look after myself they will have missed their chance and have to stay and take care of me. They just shrug and ignore me :rotfl:

volare11512

I am in my 30s with no hope of owning my own home anytime soon. I got kicked out of the family home when I was 19 and spent time abroad sofa surfing and private rentals whilst on a low income (hotel housekeeper) as I had no education.

Throughout my mid 20s I fought and took the opportunity to go to university, worked hard and will begin my PhD next year (being paid around 14k)...hoping to go into civil engineering field.

I'd love to buy somewhere, but I don't have the bank of mum or dad, plus any bit of savings I have had been spent on privately renting, letting agents fees and moving costs. Friends of mine are also stuck privately renting through not having the opportunity to earn enough and save.

moneyistooshorttomention

silvercar wrote: »

This is a newish trend, in the same way that the change in HB rules for the under 35s is newish. You can't compare how things were like back in the day.

I'd tend to agree that this is a "newish trend". It doesn't hurt to remember how things normally are though (ie were in my time). How is society ever going to improve enough to "get back to normal" if it doesn't remember what "normal" is iyswim?

moneyistooshorttomention

amateur_house wrote: »

Most mothers I know would prefer their adult children to be independent and move out! I tell mine they best not leave it too long to move out. Once I get too old and frail to look after myself they will have missed their chance and have to stay and take care of me. They just shrug and ignore me :rotfl:

I've seen that happen more than once before now in my agegroup and just under - ie someone taking so long to move out of the parental home that they never did and landed up automatically becoming carers for aged parents.

Hmmm....that "goalpost" of 35 set for some strange arbitrary reason by the Government as the age at which they finally accept that people are adults (ie 17 years after they actually become adults) begins to look a bit "logical" set in that light. Cue for conspiracy theory time of some secretive Government body sitting there cogitating over what arbitrary age to pick before they have no option but to accept that adults are adults and saying:

"I know - lets just figure out how old a lot of people are before they have children. Many of them don't have children until they are in their 30s these days - so a 34 year old that has a child will be 69 before that child reaches 35. Most people that are going to need a carer will be starting to show some signs of it by 69 and that adult 'child' will still be living with them. Cue for said 'adult' child to just land up staying put in their parents home and being a carer to them - and we kill two birds with one stone. We can save ourselves years of paying the "child" full housing benefit AND we can save ourselves paying care home fees - as that adult "child" will still be living with aged parent and we can just pressure them into being an unpaid carer. Jolly good show - now let's all have a little drinkie-poos for thinking up such a wizard wheeze. Now we can use the money saved to award ourselves a lower rate of tax to pay on high earnings.":cool: