Does he like me does he not? opinions please!

Jacko_amz

Thats true Fireflyaway - I think perhaps aslong as i keep it purely friendship no added 'benefits' then I will protect myself from getting hurt? But yes i agree about the whole 17years thing, maybe I will just let it fizzle out

mark5

Pollycat wrote: »

You were just someone he had sex with.
Then, when someone he fancied more came along, he wasn't interested in you.

He's just not into you

I can't understand why you would even want to remain friends with someone who would treat you like that.

This.

Given the chance he would probably be up for it again though, he will leave it for you to make the first move though!

Sooner or later you will get hurt in this relationship.

bagpussbear

Your friends are right. You need to set the bar higher for yourself. Much higher.

The man has treated you poorly. Yet you don't seem too offended, and still want his company. You mention a previous abusive relationship and this has obviously taken its toll in distorting what should be acceptable and knowing when to leave a relationship/friendship.

This chap doesn't deserve your friendship or anything else for that matter.

You need to be alone for a while and recover. Your self-esteem has taken a battering by the sounds of it. Remember what it's like to be YOU and all your boundaries that go with that. Get some counselling if you feel that would help.

Drop him. All the best :-)

Jacko_amz

Thank you Bagpussbear, i was really offended when it happened, but i agree with what your saying and it hit home for me, so thank you x

Kynthia

I'm not sure I understand why you want to be friends with somone who treated you badly and doesn't think they did anything wrong? Is he now a good friend? Does he do things for you or prioritise you, rather than just spend time with you when it's convenient or he's getting something out of it? Please make sure you only have good friends in your life.

System

Your not good enough obviously to be exclusive to. You deserve better.

indiepanda

Jacko_amz wrote: »

What does everyone think? My friends are of the opinion he is arrogant and treated me unkindly in the first place so why am i bothering lol!

I am with your friends on this. Cut this man out of your life, you shouldn't waste your energy on someone who isn't that into you. He's doing the absolute bare minimum to sustain the friendship and only because he is single at the moment. Put your energy into making new friends and spending time with people who treat you with kindness and respect.

heatherw_01

I would agree with others on everything except one, if this was me, I would keep him as a friend and nothing more.

Fusspot

Oh love, sounds like he is using you. I have just been in a similiar kind of situation and I found out via Facebook and the bloke has now backed off so I'm leaving it be. It is hard when you really like someone. Its really not easy I know but you are better off being on your own than with someone like this.

AlwaysWorking

There's a book I think you should read called 'He’s Just Not That Into You' by Greg Behrendt. It's a funny, easy read and definitely helped me when I was in a situation similar to you. It can be picked up cheaply from Amazon/ebay and will help you see things more clearly.