Does he like me does he not? opinions please!

Jacko_amz

Hi Everyone,

Just after someone elses perspective please

I reconnected with a bloke who i used to go to primary school with in march time, hadn't seen each other for at least 17 years. Both single, it was getting quite romantic, spending time together etc and became sexual. All of a sudden he's got a new woman and they begin a relationship, all without telling me what was going on i had to find out through FB. I was quite upset and hurt by this and ended the 'friendship' had no contact, got rid on all social media as he was flaunting this relationship quite a bit and i didn't want to see it. I also had a bit of a go at him, in which he apologised that i felt that way, not apologising for causing the upset!

Fast forward to now, we started talking again a month ago he is no longer with this person (by the sounds of it she ended it) and we have been spending a bit of time together (once a week), however, this time it seems purely friendship. He isn't flirty, doesn't txt during the week other than to arrange the weekly hangout. I like having the company but it just feels a bit awkward especially when it comes to the goodbye kiss on the cheek. If i text him during the week I always feel nervous at the response and usually get quite blunt ones back.

I do like him and spend time thinking of him, but i am really not getting the mutual feeling and i am worried if i bring up the subject its going to ruin our friendship?

What does everyone think? My friends are of the opinion he is arrogant and treated me unkindly in the first place so why am i bothering lol!

Marvel1

She dumped him, back in touch with you, your friends are right.

PeacefulWaters

Your friends are right.

Money_maker

He had his chance. And blew it. Look for someone who respects you.

Jacko_amz

I think deep down i agree with this, I do deserve better. It's just confusing not knowing what someone is thinking!

*max*

Your friends are right.

To put it bluntly, he's keeping you around in case he feels like a leg over, because he knows you like him. He does not "like" you.

Stay away from him, stop this "friendship" nonsense at once and stop kidding yourself that you're friends at all, or you WILL get hurt. He's an a-hole.

Jenniefour

Jacko_amz wrote: »

Hi Everyone,

I do like him and spend time thinking of him, but i am really not getting the mutual feeling and i am worried if i bring up the subject its going to ruin our friendship?

I can't think of a single reason why you would even want to stay friends with him - unless you're hoping he will change his mind. In which case you're setting yourself up for being dropped again from a very great height and he's already demonstrated he gives no thought to the feelings of others, certainly not yours. Your friends are right.

Jenniefour

Jacko_amz wrote: »

I think deep down i agree with this, I do deserve better. It's just confusing not knowing what someone is thinking!

No-one knows what someone else is thinking - go by how someone behaves. I think you're confusing yourself because you had hoped for something different - keeping on hoping is not going to get you anywhere.

Get out there and find a man who treats other people with respect and consideration.

Jacko_amz

I do enjoy his company, and he hasn't even remotely mentioned anything romantic or tried it on.

But i do agree, I am setting myself up for disappointment and hurt, because as soon as he finds someone else to spend time with I will be ditched won't I!

kelpie35

Have you no self respect?

You sound as if you are lonely and desperate.

Join some clubs or meet-up groups where you will hopefully find true friends.

unholyangel

Jacko_amz wrote: »

I think deep down i agree with this, I do deserve better. It's just confusing not knowing what someone is thinking!

You don't need to know what someone is thinking and going by what they say can seriously mislead you. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words.

He clearly had no consideration for you or your feelings or would have at least broken it off and wouldn't have let you find out via FB - but he did....because either you didn't factor in to his thoughts or he did consider you but didn't care.

You only get one life (that we can remember anyway). Don't waste it on people who are only interested in you when it suits them.