Responsbility of grandparent who has 6 living adult children

Primrose

Luna. you've had plenty of suggestions on here which I hope will help you form a "pick and mix" approach on how to move forward on this situation.

Talking to your grandmother is a good idea. However independent she would like to stay, I'm sure her increasing immobility must cause her concerns in her quiet moments. She too may even be having private thoughts about you stepping up to help more in the future so if you can tactfully raise the topic with her and offer to help her research viable support options, this may help add a dose of reality into her thinking.

She also really does need to think about creating some Powers of Attorney who can help her manage her affairs in the case of an extended hospital stay or worse, a declining memory situation. Her family can complete these documents online. There is a lot of guidance on the Office of Public Guardian website but if she won,t consider doing this your grandmother and uncles will find that no bank or financial institutions will deal with them without the proper written authority, so then her affairs really will get into a terrible tangle and she will end up with the Court of Protection having to deal with her affairs. She might like that even less than her family looking after her interests. These powers can only be used with her consent while she is still mentally competent but it's better to get them set up and held ready for an emergency which hopefully will never happen, rather than being stubborn and not facing realities. .

Point out to your gran that she has car, house and contents insurance to protect her against accidents which she hopes will never happen. Powers of Attorney should be regarded in exactly the same light.

belfastgirl23

Just noting that the great thing about online shopping is that *anyone* can do it - might be a job one of the uncles overseas would take on?? I have no idea why the nearest by person would be the one doing online shopping

Mojisola

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Just noting that the great thing about online shopping is that *anyone* can do it - might be a job one of the uncles overseas would take on?? I have no idea why the nearest by person would be the one doing online shopping

It doesn't have to be the nearest person but there does need to be some co-operation otherwise Granny's cupboards could fill up with stuff she doesn't use and lots of fresh food could be thrown out each week.

If Granny is up to giving that information, she's the best person.

If not, it needs to be someone who visits regularly - either a family member or the cleaner or a friend.