No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

LaineyT

I can understand that you would want to know SM but how typical of a loving Mum that she would want to protect her child from more worry. I will keep all digits crossed that it turns out to be a cyst.
I rode princess pony this morning, she was a good girl for her Mum and we didn’t get too hot even though it’s very humid out there. I then had a go at tidying up her mane which had become quite unruly over the summer, might have got carried away and it’s now a bit too short :rotfl: oh well it will be a bit cooler for her and will grow back before winter!

Didn’t realise that you had been through breast cancer treatment Candlelight dear x

Gosh Lyn, I know it must seem like it’s taken an age to come round but just a week now, how exciting and bet you can’t wait.

Thinking about anger Polly and how you have turned that into something far more positive in dealing with your DD’s maltreatment, so much love and strength there in every word you wrote. Our amazing friend x

pollyanna_26

SM I know this is an open forum but as you know yourself this thread is one of the very few where we can be open and honest without judgement or nasty comments . You are facing a triple whammy between you MIL, Friend and now your Mum plus concern for your FIL too . I hope all will be well with your Mum as Candlelight says it may be a cyst or similar .
I've no idea if your husbands siblings have stepped up in any way but they need to now . Try not to live inside your head too often . I did it for years and it impacts on health and wellbeing . I believe without my OS friends I wouldn't have found the courage to right the wrongs and I'm thankful for them all .


Candlelight your husband is a very civilised man making that pillow last so well . DD is on her 3rd , we've had nail polish in all the colours . Foutain pen ink , pasta sauce etc, etc .


Lyn box towers sounds like an extreme minimalist make over it must feel really strange but exciting to look to a new home and a lot less pickle travel . Just take care you don't sit HWKs on the please take me table and remember lots of bikkits to lay a trail for Dockie .


The weather has been not too bad here and I hope Lainey and Lu have been able to get out and about in her neck of the woods .


Hugs to TA and hopefully support happening to lighten the load a little .
polly x

pollyanna_26

I was typing while you were posting Lainey , glad you and lovely Lu had some girly time . A girl has a number of bad haircuts in life but as you say it will grow back and I bet she is glad to feel a little cooler .
polly x

candlelight_2013

Polly I don't know about civilised if you had seen him thumping it at the beginning to get the shape he wanted. As I say he only uses it occasionally now if he can't sleep, but it is always at the side of the bed.


Lainey, yes my little adventure was almost 8 years ago now, I had the results of the op on Christmas Eve at clinic and much better than I could have hoped for. Started radiotherapy towards the end of February and finished end of March. Going to the radiotherapy dept. 5 times a week for 5 weeks the staff get to know you very well, bearing in mind you have to strip off the top each time. They were lovely and when I finished I bought them a big box of Wispers from Costco to share with the department.


Does your DSIL know what treatment she is going to have yet? xx

TravellingAbuela

SCOTTISHMINNIE I went through something similar a couple of months back but in my case it was my DD keeping something from me. She had found a breast lump and didn't think I could cope with any more worry and went through all the tests etc on her own, with the support of her lovely bf. She didn't tell me anything about it until she had the all clear and the good news that it was a cyst. How she hid the worry from me I shall never know, on top of worrying about her dad.

We had the GP appointment this afternoon and he is really is the loveliest man. He hadn't had the oncologist's letter from Leeds as yet but he did have access to the scan results so knew what was happening. He also had the discharge from the local hospital after the 12 day stay for the urinary sepsis. He could answer lots of questions we had. Sadly he is in agreement with the Oncologist that he didn't think Mr TA was physically up to chemo so we are left with palliative care. This has all happened to quickly it's hard to take in, but he agrees we need some support and is chasing up the referral to the palliative care team.

Mr TA is so tired all the time and all he wants to do is sleep. It's like a vicious circle as I can't get enough calories in him and the doctor says until he gets more calories inside him he will always be tired. I feel a right nag trying to force the Fortisip shakes and drinks in him when all he wants to do is sleep. I have always been one that likes to be in control too but now I just wish someone could take all the worry away from me.

Take care my lovely friends xx

LaineyT

DSIL was offered 3 options Candlelight, option 1 of 3 months worth of full on chemo, option 2 of 6 months of chemo but in tablet form or option 3 of no treatment but scanning every 6 months for 18months, then once a year. There is a 20 to 25% chance of the cancer coming back anyway and having either of the chemo options doesn’t reduce that by very much at all. Plus, with the chemo and the affect it would have on her white blood cells means no op for stoma reversal whilst having treatment. She is still thinking about it but erring on the side of the scans only option.

Floss

TA oh I wish I could do that for you xx Would a drip or tube feeding be considered?

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My prayers will be for all those you love who need them no matter how many and for all of you too who are coping so admirably and strongly with what life has thrown at you. You are an amazing bunch of women and you WILL get through these sad events with as much grace and dignity as it's possible to have, we're all here supporting, we all care and we're here in those dark and weary times when it's all too heavy to carry alone, helping hold you up until you are able to stand straight and strong again, Love you all xxx.

candlelight_2013

Exactly what Lyn has said, I know the wee small hours are hard to cope with, I think the darkness makes everything seem so much worse.


I think each and everyone of us have more than one story to tell, and knowing that you all understand this makes it more bearable. We may be few here but we are supportive, strong and caring, so bear this in mind when life seems so unfair and hard, just talk to us xx

pollyanna_26

TA Good the GP is informative and effective . Is the eating problem solely the exhaustion or is your DH still having difficulty swallowing ? It's hard to fight on your own to get the Fortisip down when your husband is exhausted . I'm thinking the same as Floss has anyone mentioned either admitting him for a little while to drip feed or any source of help available in the circumstances ?


Lainey I'm no expert but your sil thinking of opting for the scan only option at this point seems sensible .


polly x