No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

TravellingAbuela

Thank you for your good wishes and blessings you lovely people and thanks to CANDLELIGHT for the pm's. Mr TA has been tucked up in bed this last hour or so but sleep is eluding me xx

scottishminnie

Evening all. Just popped in briefly to send my thoughts to TA family.

MIL's diagnosis arrived this week - the worst outcome with no possible treatment. No timescales as she doesn't wish to know - hubby is struggling, he's angry at everyone and everything. I'm doing my best but nothing is right -rightly or wrongly, despite what I said I did visit before the news came and it was manageable for both of us.
Don't know what's ahead really but it will need to be dealt with.
Trying to get some sleep but it's just not been happening - hopefully tonight!

candlelight_2013

My goodness there is so much sorrow and sadness on the threads at the moment.


TA I am glad Mr TA is tucked up in bed, sleep being the best medicine for him at the moment. Nothing changes with you, sleep doesn't come easy. Try to have a Nana nap this afternoon if Mr TA has a nap as well, never mind the housework. If you can give a list of shopping to your DD or DS, then you can try to rest if sleep doesn't come easy. You then only have to put it away in your new shiney kitchen, although I expect your new kitchen doesn't hold any excitement at a time like this. Look after yourself and sending hugs to you, Mr TA and all yur family.


SM, I am so sorry your MIL has a diagnosis, but you have seen her and the visit was OK.


I think regarding your DH, men are more difficult and complex, particularly with their Mothers. The only thing is to be there for him, you will have to bite your tongue sometimes, but he will be so glad he has you by his side, even if he won't admit it. I think by nature women are stronger on the whole, and that strength will show in the coming months, and he will be glad of that.


I hope you both managed to have some rest during last night xx

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Such anguish and sadness for all of us, we share your pain and celebrate your happiness so this touches all of us who are here as friends. So much to cope with is very hard and when life seems at its bleakest remember we're always sending strength and love to each of you and anyone else involved and feeling the distress in your lives. I send you all love, courage, strength and tolerance because all those are needed and endurance because some of these paths are very difficult paths to tread when all you can do is watch. Blessings on every one of usand ours stay strong my lovelies xxx.

LaineyT

So sorry to read about your MIL SM, it was good that you got to visit and things were ok. I know that darling Capt S felt helpless at times when supporting me during Mum’s illness, close as we are, he just didn’t know what to say. Hugs were always welcome and a real comfort. Love and strength to you all.

Wish I could wave a magic wand and send the sandman to our friend TA a Nana nap sounds a good idea m’dear.

How was the meal out Candlelight, hope you enjoyed the time with your family x

Moving date is gradually creeping nearer Lyn I visualise you and He Who Knows sitting on deckchairs, surrounded by boxes

Love to you all, thinking of Polly and hoping she is ok x

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Close, it's 2 Poang armchairs and one footstool between the two of us but the boxes are right enough!

pollyanna_26

Hello my dear friends and thank you for the good wishes . Once again the virus went post viral and flattened us both . We managed 11 appointments since plus one remote one but have no real memory of much of what was said .


Dear TA it's a hard time for you all now . My late first husband had kidney and liver cancer and that was our first contact with the Royal long before dd was going there . Everyone here has in some ways walked the path and understand your worries , fears and the sheer exhaustion and sleepless nights . All I can do is send love , strength and the hope there will be good days as well as not so good to add to your store of happy memories . xx


SM However things go I wish the same for yourself and the family .
This truly is a hard year for so many on the threads of all ages .
As for rhubarb I confess I've never been a fan . My dad and both grandads grew tons of the stuff in the 50s along with savoy cabbages and broad beans in the thousands . As a child I vowed when I grew up I would never eat them again and haven't .


Spring greens are my favourite , tiny french beans and lots of fruits bar rhubarb .


Lainey it's good to hear your DSIL is feeling a lot brighter now . Sending positive vibes for a positive outcome .


Good too that Himself is getting out and spending time with the family Candlelight . Do you have any idea yet when you're likely to have your other eye done ?



Elona late as usual but wonderful to read your first grandchild is here . I imagine all the meals you cooked to fill up your dds freezer have been very welcome and appreciated . Wishing happiness to you all .


Sorry for the scrappy post . I'm way behind .


Not sure when you and HWKs are moving Lyn but sending love and hope for a smooth and uneventful day xx


Much love all

polly x

TravellingAbuela

Hello lovely people. Not felt much up to posting recently as you can no doubt imagine. POLLY glad you are at last on the road to recovery after the rotten virus. SM I hope the situation you are in has eased a bit since your post. I can understand your DH's anger and the need to blame somebody as I felt much the same when Mr TA got diagnosed with one nasty disease on top of another. Now I am too drained to feel anger, just sorrow and thinking what has he done to deserve this.

We are taking each day as it comes, it's all we can do. I have just been roaming the internet for a bedroom chair for Mr TA to plonk on whilst I get him up, washed and dressed etc and sort the bed out.. Found one eventually which should fit the bill, with quite a quick delivery time.

((HUGS)) for all of you and hope the move isn't too stressful Lyn. It's 38 years since we moved here and I can still remember what an ordeal it was moving house! x

pollyanna_26

You're right TA all you can do is take each day as it comes . I know it's a while since your husband was discharged from the Royal but they had some wonderful chairs in the Rheumo dept . A good height with wide arms and a supportive back . I caused a stir by turning one upside down looking for a manufacturer while dd was saying mum everyone's looking . Found them online when I got home and wrote the name down somewhere . They were under care home equipment and not really expensive .
Meanwhile I hope you are getting some input from OT with helpful aids .
Is your husband eating any better now ? Meanwhile take care of you love . You are the hub everything revolves around and you and yours are very much in my thoughts . xx

polly

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Bless you TA we're fine, almost entirely packed just left with what we're actually using in the cupboards and some empty boxes. The shed is empty, the summerhouse is empty, the beds are down and apart in the spare rooms, the airing cupboard has one set of bedding for us and a few towels and the kitchen is down to 4 of things like plates, bowls etc. I've even this morning packed all the pantry goods left from the store room and the shelves are almost bare. We listed the big freezer and tall fridge on freecycle and have takers, the dining table and chairs will go to the BHF next week sometime, the box piles grow and we're still OK, not too stressed and feeling organised. I could wish it was this week moving and not next but that's minor stuff and I'll fill the time with jobs I'm sure.

I hope you get that chair and make life easier for both of you, as you say each day as it comes and make the best of it that you both can, love and hugs Lyn xxx.