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Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

No doubt the brown stuff will hit the fan, hey ho, I'll have to duck.

Put up a decent umbrella and wear a pac a mac. Sometimes having a decent moral compass can be *#$!!!% inconvenient, but you just can't do otherwise.

Lamewolf, as regards the nightmares, I hope you don't mind me chiming in, not with how to deal with the emotions, but maybe how to reduce some of them happening. Nightmares happen in REM sleep, a greater proportion of REM sleep to deep sleep and light sleep is associated with anxiety and depression (I read that somewhere, if you're curious I can try and hunt the study down tomorrow). A way to reduce the proportion of REM sleep is to increase deep sleep somewhat - ways include making sure all screens are turned off at least an hour before bed, keeping the bedroom completely dark, not getting your heart rate up close to bed, no food near bedtime, no alcohol or caffeine after lunchtime. I also take magnesium, valerian and licorice root to help increase deep sleep and reduce cortisol. I got into looking at this when I started tracking sleep for apnea, then followed it up with trying to make my sleep better overall. I find it works well for me and can tell the difference vividly when I don't do all the above, not only by my tracker, but by my dreams/nightmares.

And in other news, had the second personal trainer session this evening. He's a young, nice looking chap... with a sadistic streak the marquis de sade might envy. I told him at the end of the session I'd have high fived him... but I couldn't lift my arms up :rotfl: Still, it's working, quite visibly for both of us. So being the masochist I am I booked another session

mardatha

SS this is interesting. I cant take liquorice as I'm trying desperately to bump up my cortisol - but I also take magnesium and didn't know that interfered with it. Twice this week I've collapsed, Tues (in Jenners Edinburgh, just made it into the restaurant onto a seat lol) and again this morning just as I walked into the house. I think the pain of the shoulder is burning through my cortisol superfast and I need to up the steroids a wee bit.
Wanted tell the Fence about this morning though- I went to the gypsies to have me hand read. My daughter goes every year and says this lady is good, so with the way things have been going around here I thought I'd go.
I'm getting a letter re money and I'll be smiling (I am waiting on word of PIP and also PPI).
I've been poorly and have various health probs but I'm not dying (I had begun to think I was slowly dying, seriously).
I don't get enough sleep - here I think she's picked up the ME and the exhaustion of the Addisons.
I need to stop hiding away at home and get out and laugh more - which is easier to say than to do and I wish I could.
She said I once wrote a book (true) and I should finish that and do more studying (I had thought about taking some kind of courses just the other day).
But it did really cheer me up, after 3 years of nonstop bad luck and illnesses, when she said your luck has turned and things will be all right now.
So I can settle a wee bit more into contentment now

pollyanna_26

I'm afraid the shoulder will take some time to settle Mar . Hopefully not to long , mine is still a pain but I didn't seek the help I should have .
I'll be sending positive vibes for both the PIP and PPI and wishing a good outcome for both . A course is an excellent idea I did one on social history from Victorian times to the 90s some years ago , There are so many online choices now you'd be spoilt for choice .


Also worth revisiting your book . I do hope you can get out and about more before the winter arrives but rest when you can and pace yourself .


polly x

fuddle

Mar she's given you a bit of hope hasn't she. That's all any of us need really I think, just a bit of hope to hang onto. I can't believe you've wobbled again. Addison's is such a cruel disease. All I can say is pain from a bit trapped wind effects the auld ticker so it stand to reason that the pain you're experiencing is going to put stress on other systems and what system is going to be the most vulnerable? Aye, the most vulnerable.

Oh Mar, I wanna just scoop you up sometimes but as you're a hardy tough woman I'll just stick the kettle on.

ivyleaf

I'm so glad the lady made you feel better mar, and I hope she's right

Cheapskate How lovely to have you back :j

mardatha

Polly that course sounds perfect!
Fuds to hell wi the kettle woman, get oot the gin!

shanks77

mardatha wrote: »

Shanks, I've got cool grey again - take it and give me your sun!

You are very welcome to it. Not so sunny today but still hot dinnae like

Nargleblast

Good evening, Fencers, been busy past few days but have just caught up with the threads. I see MrsLW now has a moving date so it's all systems go! Fuddle did I not tell you that Mr PS would be putting his own version of events out there? Sounds like you are doing the right thing by carrying on as normal, being pleasant and cheerful but not entering into conversations that might get reported back. You mentioned you can see a couple of inches of Mr PS's head when he goes past your party wall - that is far too much of him to be seeing, the sooner you extend the height of that boundary (within legal limits of course) the better. Then you will only need some white noise generating device to block out the insane burblings coming from that side of the wall.

I see some folks determined to launch WW3 over on the Prep for That Which Must Not Be Mentioned thread - it's happening, we are leaving the club, all those who voted one way or the other will have had valid reasons for voting the way they did, we now just have to get on with it and make whatever preps we feel are right for ourselves and our families. Harping on about who said what and who lied and who cheated etc is not helping. When hysteria comes in the door, common sense flies out the window. Anyway, enough of this, the B word should not be mentioned here, we have more interesting things to discuss (unicorns? llamas? Hester draining the Kennet and Avon so she could water her aspidistra?)

As for life in Chateau Nargle, Chemo Cycle number one was carried out yesterday. It went without a hitch. In fact, my OH told the nurse as we left that he had had such a pleasant day that he was seriously considering coming back in three weeks time......

He feels ok at present, just tired. I have reminded him that we were told he would probably feel initially that he could take on the world, but that after a couple of days or so the Big Bad Side Effects will probably kick in, so we wait in anticipation of that pleasure. Onwards and Upwards.

mardatha

Nargle I agree absolutely re the stirrers over on the B thread. And I hope with all my soul that yr hubby sails smoothly through this chemo with little upset xx

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Not going to be WW3, it takes two people to make an argument doesn't it? if one of them Won't then there's no argument. They really can say what they like, I hope it makes them feel a little better but it won't actually change anything will it? there is nothing either camp can do to change the decision made by the people of this country except accept it.