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Softstuff

I can't imagine untangling the pile of spaghetti you've been left with VJsmum. I wish you well in sorting it out, and wine for during.

I think often what is done by the deceased with the very best intentions (in the name of fairness) leaves the most messy situation afterwards. The only time I've ever dealt with an estate easily was my great godfathers. He was a never married, no kids, no living relatives chap with a small, neatly furnished 1 bed flat. He left a box a few items in it. There was a letter that told us everyone he wanted contacting to say he'd gone (with some names crossed out), and where money would be owed (utilities and so forth), what his funeral arrangements would be (he'd prepaid and arranged, I bet he'd have booked it if he could have). He even provided stamped addressed envelopes for sending back his bus pass and pension book. He left another letter thanking us. I aspire to leave whoever deals with my estate the same simple job.

FPK, glad to hear the news so far of your dad, hopefully the remaining results are just as good.

Islandmaid, you wouldn't believe hubby and I did the self same thing with the bins this week. As the bin man drove up the road, we leapt up and ran out the door in pjs to put the bin out. In our case I thought our Wednesday was Tuesday! We also have a habit when the bin man comes of yelling to each other "It's the bin man darling!"... any fans of Bottom might get the gas man reference.

LameWolf

Nargle oh my, your worries certainly put mine into perspective. All my hopes for a good outcome.

VJsmum Families, eh? It sounds a right old mess; good luck getting through all the legalese.

FPK I too have experienced problems due to meds changes; if that's what it was, at least something can be done to sort it. Hoping all goes well.

I've realised that Mr LW and I really ought to get our list of beneficiaries if we both pop our clogs amended; if just one of us goes, t'other gets everything, but if we both go at the same time, there's a list of ten organisations who are to be our benefiiciaries (is that actually the right word?), and one has already ceased to exist, and another is closing at the end of August. Ah well, another job on the ever-growing list.

Not today though - I have a "meet'n'greet" visit to get to know two new dogs this afternoon, so I need to prepare for that, and of course I'm totally bricking it due to meeting a human I've never met before.

Soft stuff thanks, the bite is gradually healing, so I don't think I need to bother the doctor with it (it's a five-week wait on average for an appointment around here in any case). It's just a nuisance being right in the middle of my face!

ETA: taurusgb where are my manners? - welcome to the thread. I too have in the past had a nasty diatribe levelled at me via pm; but rest assured the folks here are really nice, if totally off the wall.;)

Floss

Lame Wolf would you ever consider having a canine friend of your own?

LameWolf

Floss wrote: »

Lame Wolf would you ever consider having a canine friend of your own?

I'm not certain; I did used to have my own dog (she crossed Rainbow Bridge back in 2002); but now, having lupus which is so very unpredictable, if anything happened to me and the dog was left.... well, you can see my thought processes there. Mr LW helps no end, but he's not as "doggy-minded" as I am, and he'd be at a loss I think.

If I had to give up the dog-sitting, I might well look at adopting an older dog; but as it is, looking after other peoples' dogs gives me something useful to do - I can't go out to work any more, but I can still perform a useful function, if that makes sense.

Floss

It makes perfect sense LW...I thought you had fair reason why you were a minder rather than an owner, but couldn't remember why!

fuddle

Nargs your words make for worrying reading but it all comes across as hopeful. You're keeping your sense of humour as best you can - I think you have adopted 'our' ways. I can only guess where your man person is receiving his care but your account makes me very proud indeed. Both you and he have all those around you who can support and who know about what is happening. You might feel in the dark a bit but they're going to have a fair idea, are very much on the ball and getting that naughty walking man person what he needs. I'll be sharing the same air again in a couple of hours. I'll blow you a big kiss later

monnagran

Sorry to be a so late checking in today. I woke up feeling full of beans so I struck while the iron was hot and did a lot of house cleaning. Not before time! The house, well most of it is now clean and shining, and I am exhausted but pleased.
Let's see how much I remember of what has been going on.

VJsmum. Your poor Dad has left you a pretty kettle of fish to sort out, hasn't he? It must be so hard to know what to do for the best. Obviously your brother has to be presented with the fact that along with the privilege of living in the house he also has the financial responsibility of maintaining it in good order. After all, the house doesn't belong to him, but by choosing to live in it he has to accept the responsibility of paying for the repairs etc. You and your other siblings are really in the position of being landlords.
I feel sorry for your brother but I know what I would choose.

LameWolf. I know exactly what you mean about having a pet with the likelihood of predeceasing it. It would not do it either. I know Ive had Millie wished upon me, but she is still really my DILs dog and would go back to her if anything happened to me.
Horse fly bites are truly horrific. Sympathies.

On that subject, KnitWitch and mar, I agree, the noise missiles (mossies, tablet, mossies)make is horrible but I have never understood how, in films, people slap various parts of their bodies as the missiles ( Ive told you once, I'll not tell you again) bite them. I have never felt a bite when it actually happens, it's not until later that it makes its sore, itchy presence felt. Midges are anothe story.

Nargle you are having a ghastly time. All the results, both good and bad, that you get is another layer of stress. I think you are coping magnificently but give yourself a break occasionally. Don't try to be a superhero in front of us, most of us know what it is like.

Softstuff, your great godfather is a lesson to us all. My father was pretty well organised but he didn't go the the extent of addressing envelopes for us.

FairyP, good heavens, your poor father. It comes to something when you have to take medicine to sort out the effects of another medicine. I have a feeling that when people are on multiple medications, quite a lot of them fight with each other.
As to what modern conveniences you can best do without, well, I had to do without all of them when I was married. I hadn't anything.. I was allowed to borrow my MILs vacuum for half an hour a week, funnily enough it was always just as she was about to use it so most inconvenient! That being so it was the first thing I bought when I could afford it. A year later I managed a second hànd fridge and a couple of years later it was the automatic washing machine. I never take any of these things for granted. I was amazed just this last week to hear of a couple who couldn't get married yet because they didn't have a dishwasher. WHAAAAAT?

Ivyleaf. Take a couple of tough plastic bags and some stout rubber bands. Then you can pop them over your comfy shoes if it rains. Problem solved.

That's quite enough of me for one day.

A bit late but............

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

Honesty saves everyone's time.

ivyleaf

monnagran wrote: »

Ivyleaf. Take a couple of tough plastic bags and some stout rubber bands. Then you can pop them over your comfy shoes if it rains. Problem solved.

Never thought of that And I have some "postman's rubber bands", too!

LameWolf

monnagran wrote: »

I was amazed just this last week to hear of a couple who couldn't get married yet because they didn't have a dishwasher. WHAAAAAT?

I married my dishwasher. :rotfl:

Joking aside, the two thing I couldn't live without are the fridge and the oven, I think. In the summer, just the fridge, as I virtually live on salads.

When I had my first flat, I had no washing machine, and until I'd saved some money, not even a spin dryer; I used to wash everything, but everything by hand and hang it on a wooden clotheshorse with newspaper underneath to catch the drips as there was no outside drying area. I admit I wouldn't want to go back to that, but it is do-able at a pinch. I used to soak the Ex's work clothes in the bath overnight.

nursemaggie

Well I have sorted all of my clothes and thrown lots out. Underwear went in the bin and the rest is in one of two huge bags waiting to be taken to a CS.

I have sorted everything into seasons and types of clothing I can put my hand on any garment in seconds. Never been able to do that. I have even sorted perfume into admittedly tiny draws so I have new perfume and older perfume in separate draws. I even managed to put away spare handbags in a draw.



I have cleaned out all other cupboards and draws including the kitchen to be ready when they finally get round to the central heating. I have decided if the central heating comes first and the bins are sorted I will stay but if a sheltered housing flat comes up first I shall move.


DS remarked about his old room, that it looks more cluttered every time he comes. I shall inspect his two storage rooms when I go to his flat.

monna I thought it was your tablet again when I saw about the couple not getting married yet because they do not have a dishwasher? If that's the case maybe they should not get married.

I have spent most of today investigating prepaid funerals. I have taken note of what softstuff said. I thought taking into consideration DS's youth I should do everything in duplicate for him because he lives in the same town as me and for DD so she can keep an eye on how he is doing.