The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

MMF007

Yesterday was tiring - lots of heavy work and stretching (amongst other things I took down curtains, got them washed and re-hung), moved a number of heavy boxes and pushed a wheelchair quite a long way. Of course 6 hours work is good for the bank balance and I had a good workout at the same time :j

I also had to pop in to see my elderly neighbours. The gent struggles with Altzeimers and finds it difficult to have a conversation and is sometimes quite frustrated. Yesterday I sat with him for 1/2 an hour while my friend went to a medical appointment. He found a pair of binoculars that had been tucked into a box in the spare room and when he brought them to me and I told him what they were he laughed, said, 'oh, yes, so they are,' took off his glasses and headed into the conservatory. So we spent a happy time looking out of the window at blackbirds and various flowers. I had not seen him do this before Although he couldn't find the right words for the flora and fauna he did point things out to me (eg, 'look at that, they are the same') and he was chuckling away when the blackbird hopped around and eventually got a worm. It really was a lovely half hour.

Hope everyone finds something, even a small something that is joyful today x

Cocketts

FairyPrincessk wrote: »

Hi Cocketts,

That is really helpful. Can I buy it without prescription? It isn't so much the pain as the entire process and sensation so a bit of numbness couldn't hurt.

Yep, it's an over-the-counter cream. I think it's about £5 'ish.
Your arm goes completely numb and you can't feel a thing. Knowing it's not going to hurt will probably help you with the entire experience!!

FairyPrincessk

Thanks all. I'll head out to the two chemists this afternoon and see if I can find some.

MMF--that is such a lovely story. As for heavy wheelchairs--indeed! Dad is extremely tall and large and before he got his electric one it could be very tough for those of us much smaller than he is. Since he also lost use of an arm he couldn't really wheel himself. I think the electric has helped him tremendously.

monnagran

I hope you managed to sleep last night maryb. THe last few days have been filled with stress and anxiety and you must desperately need some rest now.

Mar, I have never subscribed to the view that sheep are stupid creatures. They may not be candidates for Mensa but it's hard to beat them for downright cunning.

I'm sooooo jealous of your weight loss Sortstuff. I know that you have been working at it very hard and you richly deserve the rewards.

Well, today I have to play catch-up on all the things I should have done yesterday and didn't. The story, chapter and verse of my life.

The next few days are going to be exhausting, preparing a church service for Sunday, making puddings for a church event on Monday, Preparing whatever has to be done for Lunch Club on Wednesday, keeping the home fires burning and trying to fit in a couple of visits to likely looking bungalows.
I love to sound martyred but actually I love it. It makes me feel needed still.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

The same boiling water that softens the potato, hardens the egg. It's about what you're made of, not the circumstances.

Softstuff

Mardatha, I now have an image of you in my mind, much like the running of the bulls in Pamplona, running ahead of a herd of sheep :rotfl:

Monna, there's nothing to be jealous of as regards my weight loss. It's no miracle, or simple fix, it's just me flogging myself senseless to do it with the motivation of the sleep apnea (stroke terrifies me). Honestly, stopping breathing for as long as I did on the sleep study scared the living crap out of me and since then I've worked my !!! off (literally.). Today for example, a ridiculously busy day at work, but no takeaways, all home cooked food carefully calorie counted and logged, a 30 minute brisk walk at lunch and another brisk 45 minutes this evening to make up my steps. And that's a sedentary day really.

mardatha

Monna, people like you will always be needed! I can picture you serving cups of tea in the Blitz, serving tea & sammiches on railway platforms during bomb scares, and doling out soup in a famine! xx

Hard_Up_Hester

Fantastic news Maryb
Lame wolf, I think of you as my friend, you are very necessary to me.
Karcher, Burtha I hope you are both ok.
We are at Victoria park in Newbury, I'm a 6 minute walk from a shop I'm very keen to visit, do you think CHS will miss me if I slip away?

LameWolf

Maryb great news; onwards and upwards now for your DH; sending GWS vibes.

Thank you all, you lovely folks; it's pretty hard being the daughter of a child-molester, and there's a 50/50 chance that I actually carry his DNA, and that is a really tough one to live with. I keep telling myself that it is only 50/50 (I have no way to ever find out for sure, and I'm not sure if I'd want to).

I have to pootle off into town in a minute - pick up our Euros and do a few more errands.

MrsLW oh wow, that sounds like pure magic with those Orcadian seals. The only thing I've experienced of similar ilk is the wolves at the UK Wolf Conservation Trust howling; Mosi will howl for anyone, and when she starts, the others all join in.

fuddle

Oh dear. Mr Pea seedling and I have just had a run in.

He was telling me about some trouble he had involved himself in with a group of women in my street (I keep myself away - they're retired ladies who have all lived there most their lives and like to gossip) I then had my new plot friend tell me last night that he had reduced her to tears after being abusive towards her. My new plot friend moved 7doors up before we moved here, and is lovely, and also from Dorset so We have struck up quite a fledgling friendship (I'm wary of 'friendships' so it's very slow) I was livid last night and decided it's best if I just didn't know anymore.

I was busy on the plot this morning and he started with the gossip again. Annoyed and frustrated I got very stern about how not to treat women and don't ever try to treat me that way leading to me ranting (yes I was away like a steam train with all the adrenaline ) about the chicken fence and his forceful approach to interfering in my gardening, and amongst other things I have took exception to. The poor bloke looked dumbfounded. He began to explain himself a bit and I slowed, listening. Eventually we got to a place where I could try to show him the error of his ways and said that it's not enough to say 'I didn' t shout or swear' at a women. That dominance is about an air of righteousness and controland thinking its OK to use body language, facial expression and words to make a woman cry is never acceptable. He went to apologise to my friend and when he came back he said he was beat and felt like crying himself. We shook hands and had a laugh about (because he isn't going to tell me how to garden any more, ) me stood at my green house with 'told you so' when I have a crop disaster. He can have it. It was 'banter' but I just hope he's seen that I am not a gossip, I'm quite intelligent, don't suffer fools and actually I have something about me.

But of course in true fuddle style I'm stressing about putting my head above the o parapet and questioning everything while being embarrassed.

See what happens when I don't keep myself occupied on OS?

Off to the caravan later (slight chest infection feeling so wish me luck) so I will catch up on all the goings on this week while on the journey.

juliettet

Fuddle, to stick up for a friend is never wrong. Never.