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VJsmum

Suffolksue said:

That thought resonates Monna 
apparently I have ‘got over ‘the death of my beloved DH because I am going out so much I exploded at a relative that actually I find being alone at home so hard and now they are not speaking to me !

SS - ignore them.   You have to do this your way. 

nannywindow

Did someone say a party ? I'm in, but surely it's got to be my turn now for a hot waiter, please, pretty please 😋 I do think Monna's had them long enough and I only need a lend ! I did take time out today to make 2 mixed fruit tarts and some jam so I can bring those to the party, oh and an almost full bottle of vodka !!

Thanks Polly, I'm still around but super busy these days, I haven't had a lot of time to myself and I don't even have time to get the old suitcase out let alone wait for the Dr. !  We have had GP appointments, blood tests, oncology appointments and sorting out my Dad, who now seems to have forgotten how use his mobile phone no matter how many times we explain it. Next month our calendar is already filling up but with some different appointments, plus a dentist and a haircut for me, well a tidy up and a trim as I have been growing it since lockdown, perhaps I should rename myself Rapunzel or Cousin It 🤣. Then there's DGC control care until their schools start back, but as DGS at 12 is taller than me, and DGD almost 10, I do wonder who's in charge of who 🤔😁.  Phew, I feel I'm doing a Burtha, but running on the spot 🤣

Mothererd I'm now imagine Ming sporting a Fu Manchu moustache. Can't get that picture out of my head 😱

Take care all.

nan

MrsCD

@Suffolksue, I have friends who have lost their beloved DHs, and everyone grieves differently. They cope from day to day in their own way and no one ever 'gets over' it. They learn to wake up each day and do whatever is needed.
Please don't get upset by people who have no idea what they're talking about. Stay safe and strong. 

pollyanna_26

Suffolksue said:

That thought resonates Monna 
apparently I have ‘got over ‘the death of my beloved DH because I am going out so much I exploded at a relative that actually I find being alone at home so hard and now they are not speaking to me !

That's a horrible thing for anyone to say especially a family member. There are no rules when it comes to loss and grieving. I agree with VJ. Take each day as it comes do what feels right for you,try to focus on the good memories and ignore those who have no idea how you feel and no right to pass judgement.

Look after you Sue the sun will shine again and you'll hold the good memories close in your heart.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

MingVase said:

Good Morning Fencers. LQQk into my eyes.... lQQk into my eyes..... find yourself at the top of some steps... go down these steps.... step down... step down.... you feel happy as you go down these steps... 

For goodness sake sort yourself out. That eye staring at me from your new Avatar is downright scary. It's quite challenging being stalked by a homicidal maniac. Bring back the vase. It was a pretty vase despite it's hidden depths.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

MrsCD said:

@Suffolksue, I have friends who have lost their beloved DHs, and everyone grieves differently. They cope from day to day in their own way and no one ever 'gets over' it. They learn to wake up each day and do whatever is needed.
Please don't get upset by people who have no idea what they're talking about. Stay safe and strong. 

You've put it much better than I did but I'm trawling through a lot of posts and think I'll have to resort to quoting rather than trying to remember who said what. When my first husband died I had two very small children and some of the comments I got for trying to get the children out for some fun days don't bear repeating.

No one has the right to judge another unless they've walked a mile in their shoes.

pollyx

Nargleblast

What others have said, Suffolk Sue. When someone close to you dies, nobody gives you a book of rules and instructions on how you should behave. There is no such book. Don't stress yourself over a relative not speaking to you. Someone who can come out with such a thoughtless comment shows a complete lack of insight into human behaviour, so is no great loss in your life.

MingVase

I don't mind being Ming the Merciless or Ming the Vase, but I refuse to be Ming the Moustache

Florenceem

monnagran - my blood pressure may be down but me - normal?
pollyanna_26 - my local SA corps is holding their first craft fair - think having a crafter joining worship is one of the reasons.
Nargleblast - I'll have you know that they are no demonic- possessed spiders here. You will have to come up with somewhere else to stick the cheesy pineapple things.
Suffolksue - folk just don't understand and speak without thinking.
mothernerd - I learnt something new again - not heard of - many a mickle makes a muckle.
MingVase - what have you got against a moustache? A moustache could give vase a very distinguished air. Lots of choice in styles.

A moustache (UK: /məˈstɑːʃ/; American English: mustache, /ˈmʌstæʃ/) is a strip of facial hair grown above the upper lip. Moustaches have been worn in various styles throughout history.

MingVase

I think it's just not me. Anyway it would get covered in polish and go all greasy