5 OS pleasures in your day today - part 3

VJsmum

Frith - that's funny re brotherly love!!
Suffolk Sue - thinking of you.

Thanks all - it is really appreciated.  Yesterday was a tough day, but pleasures
1. getting a gp appointment within an hour of ringing.  GP was fab, took him seriously, prescribed anti-Ds and recommended a counsellor
2. grateful that we can afford the counsellor. what is money if not to keep your children safe and healthy
3. Had to laugh when DS said "he didn't want a big deal made of it" - well, tough, son - it IS a big deal
4. Family roast chicken dinner
5. my bed - after only 3 hours sleep the night before (I am grumpy if I don't get at least 7!) I needed my bed..

Today is another day - onwards and upwards.

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Chat with dd1 a few minutes ago and baby gurgling away in the background.  Apparently she had some scrambled egg to taste as part of breakfast today and some minute pieces of toast to suck to death and she loved it!

Morning showers, of the bathroom kind, it's something we all take for granted but I always feel better after one.

Coffee, the smell, the warmth of it in the cup and the taste, I have to be careful not to overdo consumption because it gives me migraines if I have too much but I do so enjoy a nice cup of coffee.

Being able to show HWK yesterday my plans and vision for the new storage area of the kitchen when we get it replaced and in a way he understood and heard those lovely words 'that'll work won't it?'.

Modern appliances, the washing machine chuntering away in the background, the tumble drier waiting to dry the washing on such a wet and dreary day as today, electric kettles for tea for breakfast, hairdryers after a shower, the shower which is blissful, vacuum cleaners to make cleaning easier, irons (I KNOW!) to keep us unwrinkled and all the other household things without which we would be on hands and knees.....I'm  glad I've got them and they are a pleasure.

Frith

So sorry to hear that, SuffolkSue. 

Purple_kitten

A belated Happy Birthday Lainey.

Nargleblast

SuffolkSue, so sorry to hear how things have deteriorated. It is indeed impossible to predict how long he will live, but if your DH needs ventilator support now, and has chosen not to use it, then he will not suffer long. It is good that his mind is currently clear, I would suggest you and your family take this opportunity to spend as much time with him as possible, and talk to him about anything and everything. Happy memories, things you and he love, the sublime, the ridiculous. When he starts to withdraw, when it's time, tell him you all love him and that it is ok for him to leave. This may sound strange but sometimes dying people need to be reassured that the living will be ok after they've gone.

Don't feel you have to post on here, he and your family are the important ones now. 

Suffolksue

thanks Nargle ,I’m really not sure of the timescale ,his Sats are ok (90%+ ) but his CO2 levels are rising .Apparantly as they get higher he will get sleepier .
i have been frequently told that if it is MSA ( the favourite of some medics)  ,then it is quite likely he will die in his sleep suddenly,that would be perfect for him .
surgery rang and GP coming next week 
pleasures are the ongoing kindness of everyone 
thank you all 

LaineyT

Thinking of you all SuffolkSue.

mhagster

Sue as always my heart reaches out to you and know that we all hold you in our thoughts . 

VJsmum I hope J gets the support he needs. It’s hard watching our children , now young adults struggle to deal with what life throws at them. Again we are all here for you here and the relative anonymity it provides . 

Hello day off and hurrah for Fridays .And no one’s alarms went off this morning. And a slightly later wake up after a rubbish sleep. And pottering around in my jammies. 

Lovely chat with DD1 and listening to her woes of a housemate not pulling his weight. But tomorrow is the start of her adventure. And family friends messaging me to say they’ll be picking her up from the airport and taking her out and knowing her dad would be so proud of her and so grateful to them for doing so. And offering their help if she at all needs it on the first leg of the adventure. 

Chat with my dearest Melbourne friend. And really today just wanting to be living there and not here and some days the pull is stronger than others. Anyway good to catch up with each other’s news. 

Managing to get a doggy walk without getting wet. Out in between the showers.

cleaning bathrooms. Doing never ending laundry. Hoovering.

Feeling overwhelmed at several times today. It’s the anniversary of OHs death on Sunday and the 29th of the month kind of throwing a spanner in my emotional works.  And as always just how can it be? And how can it actually be three years because that’s a lot and I think the recognition that this is how it’s going to be it’s only ever going to get further and further away of when we were all together. And living as a family of five in Australia. In my nice big house with my big garden and possums in the trees and a five minute walk to the library and my friends there. And the birds and the trees and the wind blowing the eucalyptus leaves in the sound of a shimmer. 

And I know I have a nice home here and I have fabulous friends and my dog and some of my family are here and I can speak to DD1 when I need to because of amazing technology. I have trees and birds here. My garden is just the right size for me managing it on my own. And I don’t worry about snakes or spiders or moan about the heat ( but it was good for getting your washing dry) . I can live much more simply here than I ever could over there. Financially I’m better off here but just a big part of my heart and head remains over there. I didn’t just lose my husband, which was enough of a loss to deal with. 

Anyway! I’m grateful for what and who I do have. Just some days are harder than others. I often find the run up to an ‘occasion’ harder than the actual day itself. 

DD2 went back to work today. DS away camping/riding for a couple of days. I enjoyed the peace and quiet this afternoon. It’s an evening with the soaps and my doggy! Candles are lit...someone else has their log burner on . I could smell it when I was out with doggy, not me tonight. 

Hold your loved ones close because you can x

Frith

I am thinking of everyone here going through hard times. I had some messages from an old friend of mine this morning and matters really not great for her.

An interesting day for me today. I had sent out a flurry of emails last week, made phone calls, left messages and NO ONE had got back to me. Until last night, when I heard from Arts Council England. That seems to have set off a rush of replies!

1) Not such a bad sleep as others recently.

2) Hens OK though allotment beyond waterlogged.

3) Brother came round for board games.

4) Chips from the van.

5) The long missing Psych is coming back Monday to finish smaller son's assessment, to prove he is disabled enough to have funds allocated to him. Although legally he should anyway with his EHCP...
6) The non-existent County lady emailed to say there is no online help for GCSEs (!!!!!!!!) What a load of old cobblers, but at least I have her name and email address now.
7) I have a job at the Police Commissioner election.
8) Museum friend will come out to the museum and run through my work with me! That's a massive favour.
9) Looking forward to the Last Leg.
10) Agreed in principle a trip to France for me and smaller son to visit bigger son! He's going to book some time off to holiday with us there, then come home with us for a few days. This will be in August.
11) Funny messages from bigger son including that he wants to make his room seem more homely, so he's bought a clock (?)

ampersand

& is racing up the M11 on coach back to trumpy pnr from Stansted.
This is an earlier coach running 30 mins late, but& has paid extra £7 to be on it. Young person (posts passim) is stranded in Town of Gown, bus mess, now being propositioned.
Have told him to get safe to The Alma, eat sthg, 1 beer, then hot drink. 
Have rung them.
All ok.
Another small rescue mission on this caring thread.  Want to be there asap now.