When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

Toni'sfriend

Oh dear. I'm sure you'll sort it out - you always do. Have a good scream - I always find that helps.

Hiddenidenity

He has lost his bonus and spent out of last weeks wages.
He's only come 'clean' now because he knows I'll see tomorrow on the tax account what his wage will be.

It's just so selfish! considering he's already got us struggling to find over £200 over the next 2 weeks on things he owes out

I feel like one step forward and 10 back!

He doesn't know I have the money coming from surveys but what if I didn't have that? :mad:

Toni'sfriend

I am so sorry, Hidden. Words fail me. I just don't know what to say.

UncannyScot

I can think of lots of names to call your OH right now :mad::mad::mad: but it won't help you any
You'll manage, as you always do...
(((((HUGS)))))

Hiddenidenity

Honestly I don't even post half of what he actually spends on here. He has at least £20 a day. That isn't even in the budget. If he doesn't have the £20 he runs up the debt until payday/the following payday and so on.

So every single week he's behind, so much so he owes to one over £400. Along side the £200+ I need to find in the next 2 weeks before things escalate to worse!

Times like today makes me question why I even bother!

Toni'sfriend

What on earth does he spend all that money on? And if he owes someone £400 why do they keep lending him more? Sorry, it's just a mystery to me. Hope you're OK.

Eager_Elephant

Hiddenidenity wrote: »

Honestly I don't even post half of what he actually spends on here. He has at least £20 a day. That isn't even in the budget. If he doesn't have the £20 he runs up the debt until payday/the following payday and so on.

So every single week he's behind, so much so he owes to one over £400. Along side the £200+ I need to find in the next 2 weeks before things escalate to worse!

Times like today makes me question why I even bother!

I won't comment on what I think of him but this bit in bold stood out for me - is he borrowing from a loan shark as I can't imagine owing a friend would escalate to worse....,

I'm assuming £20 is a pack of fags (£8) plus food and drink throughout the day???

Hiddenidenity

Oh no he still spends on fags £9.40 for 20 and his lunches 'I' pay for out the budget, £15 dinners, £15 bus pass :mad:

Anyway nothing can be done about it now, he's done it again

I've fed and bathed the kids, they are happily in bed now, and I'm going to join them

emmie26

Oh no, what a flipping pain, hope you feel better after a good nights sleep. I wonder what would happen if you left him to budget everything, I'd like to think he would be more careful but I don't think that would be the case, I think you would be bankrupt.
Thank god you are on the ball, we all have faith that somehow you will manage to pay your debts, feed your kids and basically keep juggling all the balls.

Hiddenidenity

Well he's home, he's also broke his phone and lost this weeks bonus and its only Monday, so no doubt next weeks wage will be just as **** as this week because he'll think oh I've lost my bonus anyway and be lazy!

I can't sleep so up doing some jobs and just having a cuppa.

£10 from Panelbase has hit my bank. £80 is available on PA and nearly £50 pending. I was trying to wait to £100 to cash out but might just cash out the £80 now and pay the council tax as soon as it clears and let it build up again ready for next months Council tax? Unsure though.

Need to take DS for his haircut this week, and if the hot weather is going to stay around I need a t-shirt, I cannot cope in a sweater in this weather. I was dying on the school run this afternoon and I'm sure I looked just as stupid as I felt.