When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

UncannyScot

There's only one "side" that matters missus... yours and the kids
(((((HUGS)))))

HairyHandofDartmoor

I'm so sorry HI that you're having such a tough time. Life does seem to kick you in the teeth sometimes

I hope things improve for you. Xxx

Sun_Addict

Hope things improve soon. Sending you big hugs xx

EssexHebridean

Is it possible to step back and simply withdraw your involvement if it doesn't 100% directly involve you Hidden? Or is that not possible? It sounds horrible - I really hope things get sorted soon.

redofromstart

Nothing helpful to contribute beyond[STRIKE] tea[/STRIKE] good coffee and sympathy

117pauline

Hi HI

Another one checking in and offering encouragement.

As US says, there is only one side to consider - yours and the children. That's your focus.

Take care honey
Pauline

earthgirl

Just caught up. Hope you are looking after yourself. Wishing you a speedy recovery too x

Hiddenidenity

Thank you for all the replies, I think you're all right and I do need to just focus on my own little family (our household) and deal with the dramas that have unfolded here.

EssexHebridean wrote: »

Is it possible to step back and simply withdraw your involvement if it doesn't 100% directly involve you Hidden? Or is that not possible? It sounds horrible - I really hope things get sorted soon.

It is, however I think then both sides would think I was taking the other? I'm not sure. I don't actually want to be on either side and quite happy to build my own wall. But I realise I need to be careful where things lead and how it affects the smalls and how they hold a relationship with said 'issue people' going forward.

Afterall I'd be quite happy to be alone with no one then no trouble could happen I only keep certain relationships as close as they are for the smalls. Complicated huh!

I think for my own sake I need to get back into my MSE head and clean/budget/cook and make the smalls happy and let the other stuff continue unfolding and realise I can't fix everything and what will be, will be.

Thank you for all the replies its much appreciated. and for listening to my nonsense posts that probably don't make sense

Hiddenidenity

October goals

Money
£50 to council tax - £50/£50
£75 Groceries - £47.67/£75
£200 to other debt £120/£200

Extra income £50* - Done

Money outstanding to Mum now £575. (£225 paid) :cool:

Plans
[STRIKE]Two bigger smalls to keep 100% attendance [/STRIKE]DONE for DD DS had 1 absent day with the sickness bug :cool:
[STRIKE]Have a lovely week away at half term [/STRIKE] :T
[STRIKE]DD attend birthday party - Gift and Card needed[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Have a fab halloween - under £5[/STRIKE] Sent all planned things to smalls. Sort of a win right? :cool:
[STRIKE]Halloween costumes for school x 3[/STRIKE] All Done
[STRIKE]DD attend friends birthday dinner 19/10[/STRIKE]


I need to catch up on ALL my bills I'm behind on (all have been spoken too and are okay).
[STRIKE]V1rgin - first bill so two months nearly £89 (its a bit under this but rounded up) [/STRIKE] :cool:
Expensive
[STRIKE]TV license - £28 [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Rent - £113.07 [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Council tax £85 [/STRIKE]
School - [STRIKE]£200 [/STRIKE] £100 :cool:

List of things I need to sort in October.

[STRIKE]3 halloween costumes[/STRIKE] All done
[STRIKE]Winter coats for smalls[/STRIKE] All done
[STRIKE]Hats and gloves for smalls [/STRIKE]All done
[STRIKE]Youngest all in one suit for school[/STRIKE] Done
DD's clothes - just basics but she really needs something Some sorted Still need leggings/tights. That counts as half done surely
[STRIKE]Pj's and a book for youngest for school event[/STRIKE] Done

[STRIKE]School photos [/STRIKE] £44.25 :eek:

[STRIKE]Birthday card and gift for DD party invite[/STRIKE] Sorted thank you EH. £10 spent, art & craft items,
friendship bracelet, sweets and a card. DD very impressed
[STRIKE]School shoes for DS[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]School t-shirts for youngest [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]School tights for DD [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]School leggings for youngest [/STRIKE]

I've made my plans slightly smaller, removed the Xmas plans for now I won't be getting anything for Xmas until the bills are caught up. This isn't an issue I get a payment in Dec that will cover Xmas without pushing my budget too much.

Unbudgeted spends
School trousers DS £5
Worry Monster £8 (amazon vouchers)
Handwriting books £7.50 (amazon vouchers)
Mcdonalds £9.96
Costa £2.65 :o
Pj's £26.30 :cool: (10 pairs of pjs, 10% off and free del)
Halloween disco tickets (school) £4

Will add the debt from this week onto November.
It's definitely likely to rise tomorrow.

So in all could be better Could be worse though

Hiddenidenity

November goals

Money
£100 to council tax - £/£100
£100 Groceries - £/£100
£200 to other debt £/£200

Extra income £50*

Money outstanding to Mum now £575
Aim to pay £75 - £/£75

Plans
Two bigger smalls to get 100% attendance
Post Nephews Birthday card
DD School trip
Parents evening

List of things I need to sort in October.
DD's clothes - just tights
Youngest - leggings and socks
School trip £6
BIL Birthday card
Buy Christmas Jumpers x 3


Unbudgeted spends

Will add the debt from this week onto November.
It's definitely likely to rise tomorrow £££

This will grow as the appointments come in for the month.
Must squeeze in my own appointment and chase a referral I've been waiting too long for.