When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

HairyHandofDartmoor

EssexHebridean wrote: »

Hope things are trotting along slightly more calmly now Hidden.

In regard to "the issues" I think you're right about needing to accept that there is nothing you can do to change things. I also think that if you can just step back, that may be the best way forwards for you - all you can do is make clear to both parties involved that you want nothing to do with it, and that this is not "taking sides" as you are saying exactly the same thing to both of them! From then on it's really up to them to decide what they think - but honestly, if they don't trust you when you say that, are they really people you want in yours and the smalls lives? I know, easier said than done, but something to think on perhaps.

I agree with those that said you're amazing - I'd be inclined to say that in terms of inspirational you're up there with the "forum greats" of Hypno and our lovely sadly missed Taxi. :T

Great advice here from EH.

Hope you're having a good day HI

mummytogirls

Hope all ok today HI xx

Hiddenidenity

Thank you for all the nice replies.

I have had a pretty boring day really. I cannot get comfy at all! So sleep is erm what is sleep?

Anyway still got some of my to do list done and added what I didn't to tomorrows

Smalls still at Mums Tonisfriend. They are very happy though and having fun. I've made sure I've sent food/snacks and anything needed and made her aware that if she takes them anywhere extra she covers any costs etc and I think she finally understands.

Will have a better idea of the extra debt total after Friday's appointments and will be able to make a better plan then.

I am going to fill my hot water bottles, make a brew and take my painkillers. Hope everyone else is okay I will catch up x

EssexHebridean

More hugs heading your way - gentle ones. xx

117pauline

You do what you have to do.

But think how far you've come in the way you interact with your mum. You have made the situation clear in that you have provided all they need and ant extras are down to her. That sounds like real progress.

This too will pass. I wish there was more we could do. If you feel it would offer you some extra support, send out a PM to any of your friends on this thread.

And that's what we are, your friends

Try to sleep well honey
Pauline

Hiddenidenity

I feel quite bad on my Mum and I have been quite harsh But it was needed. Plus she's one of the 'sides' in the situation that's followed last weeks dramas. She was quite 'off' with me yesterday but I spoke to her today and explained why I wasn't taking sides. Both sides mean alot to the smalls and I really am stuck in the middle and don't want to feel I'm being pulled in both directions.

Plus I don't want the bad mouthing of each other around the smalls. Like I say both mean a huge amount to them and I wouldn't want them worrying about it.

x

Doobop

Well done. A tough conversation but needed and impressed you managed to do that whilst you have so much else going on. Keep going

monz

You are handling yourself so amazing, and dignified feel proud hun! I know it must be hard

[Deleted User]

Morning HI,

Hope you're okay today lovely?

I echo Doobop, well done on your conversation with your mum. I sympathise with you being in the middle of things. It's hard when a row ensues.

Take care of yourself xxx

Hiddenidenity

Morning thank you for all the replies x

Still didn't get much sleep but smalls should be home today so have loads to do. Also need to meal plan etc think it needs a list

Hope everyone has a wonderful day x