Short relationship ended

FBaby

It's not unusual for relationship to not go further than 3 months even when it seemed to be going well. That's because it's the time spent to get someone else better and as such to assess if you are really compatible. You can realise you are not compatible because because of one issue that everything else can't overcome, or it's a number of smaller things.

It could be many things and therefore it is indeed pointless to come to the bottom of it. For instance, for me, being too nice would put me off getting into a serious relationship. I like a partner to be nice and respectful, but one who thinks he has to agree with everything I say, always going along with my suggestion, always trying to please me rather than just being himself would drive me crazy. For someone else though, it would be marriage material.

You most likely will never know why she decided you were not the one. You are disappointed, a bit hurt and sad. That will last a few weeks but hopefully, you will have moved on by the end of it.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

catoutthebag wrote: »

I tried to call, and message tonight, no answer.

has she blocked you on the dating site as well?

Robisere

I don't understand what you are trying to gain from staying with this one and answering every post OP. Far too introspective, or maybe masochistic?

You need to be amongst people more, do you have any friends you can socialise with? Then get out there and just live! The fact is that it takes a lot longer than 3 months to really know someone enough to call what you have a relationship that may lead to a lifelong love. Even longer sometimes to know enough about them to say either 'this is the One' or 'this One is not for me.'

You want what is in the movies and romantic fiction. It isn't real.

annandale

This is the person you were talking about where you would both live after a month of dating.

I think it's you who needs to sort out how you deal with relationships

Jumping in with both feet first way too soon

And you've been spectacularly obnoxious to people on previous threads who disagree with you..

hollydays

catoutthebag wrote: »

Feel pretty rotten. After 2.5 years single and many first dates, i met someone who i clicked with and we saw each other 3 months. Felt much longer though - went abroad for a few days, spent several nights each week together every week, got to know each others personality intimately.

Alas, issues/alarm bells started to crop her side...I won't give specific details, but some lack of maturity, selfishness, difficulty in compromise...And issues relating to their past affecting their self esteem, inner security etc started to crop up.

I was honest and open, maybe too honest at times, i wear heart on sleeve. Had a couple near break ups, last being a week ago.

Then they were the ones that dropped the bombshell ('need to work on self, thanks for highlighting issues, i need to not be in a relationship' etc), via text. I suspected something was wrong a few days ago.

I tried to call, and message tonight, no answer.

Feel pretty numb, sure it will hit me. I accepted their flaws, but not sure they accept their own or mine. I wanted to work through thing's. But their message suggests mind is made up.

Friends suggest they sounded immature, a bit selfish etc, so maybe i had a lucky escape. But you can't control who you fall for

Waiting for it to hit me...

Not sure whether i should have a break from dating or meet someone decent after all

Do you accept your flaws?

professor~yaffle

annandale wrote: »

This is the person you were talking about where you would both live after a month of dating.

I think it's you who needs to sort out how you deal with relationships

Jumping in with both feet first way too soon

And you've been spectacularly obnoxious to people on previous threads who disagree with you..

I knew there'd be one_Person on here to tell the man what they think

Though I'm not sure if the OP is for real or whether he's just posting on the Marriages board to get a rise out of people.

hollydays

professor~yaffle wrote: »

I knew there'd be one_Person on here to tell the man what they think

Though I'm not sure if the OP is for real or whether he's just posting on the Marriages board to get a rise out of people.

Yes but perhaps you are doing the same.

annandale

Have a look at some of the OPs previous threads. He's been given some very good advice in the past on here. All of it ignored.

professor~yaffle

hollydays wrote: »

Yes but perhaps you are doing the same.

I do usually avoid the Harpies board, it's true! But OP seems to keep coming back for more :rotfl:

hollydays

professor~yaffle wrote: »

I do usually avoid the Harpies board, it's true! But OP seems to keep coming back for more :rotfl:[/QUOTE

Not at all sure that's what I said.
I think I said you are an instigator .