Short relationship ended

professor~yaffle

hollydays wrote: »

Not at all sure that's what I said.
I think I said you are an instigator .

You think you said I am an instigator? :think:

AylesburyDuck

professor~yaffle wrote: »

I do usually avoid the Harpies board, it's true! But OP seems to keep coming back for more :rotfl:

And so do you,
Now you've had your feed, so back off you trip trap under your bridge!

professor~yaffle

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

And so do you,
Now you've had your feed, so back off you trip trap under your bridge!

Such charming posters on this board.

You can't wonder why the OP hasn't returned.

Love the way two people have thanked your post, too. In what way is heaping abuse on someone supposed to be helpful, I wonder.

AylesburyDuck

professor~yaffle wrote: »

Such charming posters on this board.

You can't wonder why the OP hasn't returned.

Love the way two people have thanked your post, too. In what way is heaping abuse on someone supposed to be helpful, I wonder.

Said the man who called up Harpies. LMFAO :rotfl::rotfl:

professor~yaffle

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Said the man who called up Harpies. LMFAO :rotfl::rotfl:

Erm, I don't think I've 'called up' any harpies, nor do I intend to :eek:

As for the rest of your post, you're just displaying your lack of knowledge and would be better off leaving it at that, my dear.

AylesburyDuck

professor~yaffle wrote: »

Erm, I don't think I've 'called up' any harpies, nor do I intend to :eek:

As for the rest of your post, you're just displaying your lack of knowledge and would be better off leaving it at that, my dear.

Typo, which i'm not going to correct, you're just showing yourself up now. :rotfl::rotfl:
But by all means go on have the last word (you know you want to), its yours, i insist!

professor~yaffle

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Typo, which i'm not going to correct, you're just showing yourself up now. :rotfl::rotfl:
But by all means go on have the last word (you know you want to), its yours, i insist!

Well at least you've got a sense of humour. More than a lot of them on here
I didn't coin the phrase Hysterical Harpies for this board either, though I can't help thinking, as alliteration goes, it is a rather apt description!

Ozzuk

3 months seems to be a common end point for a lot of online dating relationships. I think part of the issue is you obviously don't know the person in advance so it takes a while for both of you to become your more 'normal' persona, rather than your 'trying to impress' persona. Even people who say they are just being themselves often aren't really, if only on a subconscious level.

Its done, accept it as an experience and think how you can do stuff differently next time (if you even need to). For me, over the space of probably 1.5 years I had maybe 4-5 3 month relationships, I wanted to give each one time before ultimately pulling the plug, or sometimes it was just relaxed fun. The 'last' relationship felt very different, spending time was very easy and it just went on with no thoughts of pulling the plug - and we're still together 2 years later (now living together).

One of the things that changed for me was I took a break before meeting her. To be honest, it was only a few months (3-4) but I used the time to forget about dating and work on myself, I was happy being single, happy with me and I think that took the pressure of the relationship when I met her.

So my advice, put it down to experience, wish her well, be happy with you and being single and only try dating when you are up for the experience rather than the need to be with someone.

Good luck!

arbrighton

Ozzuk wrote: »

One of the things that changed for me was I took a break before meeting her. To be honest, it was only a few months (3-4) but I used the time to forget about dating and work on myself, I was happy being single, happy with me and I think that took the pressure of the relationship when I met her.

So my advice, put it down to experience, wish her well, be happy with you and being single and only try dating when you are up for the experience rather than the need to be with someone.

Good luck!

Sound advice, given previously (and by many people) sadly

ERICS_MUM

In my experience it takes longer than 3 months to know that someone is 'the one', but it can take a lot less time to work out that somebody is NOT 'the one'. Once I reach that stage I wouldn't continue in the hope that my feelings change (or the other person if it's them that isn't sure).