feel so stupid

prosaver

i know i feel the same my step uncle had a beautiful girlfriend and thought what about me?

prosaver

sam_m wrote: »

no because the holiday isn't until next month

maybe think about Tuesday it always there.

Mupette

your problem is you are [STRIKE]focused[/STRIKE] obsessed with your step brother and step sister.

There are people out there who didn't have an opportunity to go to college but don't complain about it.

I didn't go to Uni, I didn't pass my driving test until my mid 30's.

You should tell your GP about your mood (negativity) - they are there to help, they can't help unless you are honest to them.

I have MS, I've not got all the advantages of others because of my disability, but i do sit there feeling sorry for myself, I did, but i lost friends, no one wanted to be near me... you seriously need to change your attitude

dawyldthing

sam_m wrote: »

1. I looked into esa and i can't get that, plus im still at college so i can't get jsa
2. Girlfriends are the be all and end all, i know you are single but to me its a bad in, i have never had someone that has wanted to kiss me or hug me on new years eve like my stepbrother has so its very upsetting for me
3. I know its not a bad thing but again at least it would put me on a level footing with my stepbrother who thinks he is so cool and he even drives up to where we are with his girlfriend by his side so again something i don't have
4. I would get everything wrong just like i aways do
5. Uni is the be all and end all for me, again at least i would look good and maybe even my dad might invite me to family parties or something like that when at the moment i feel he gets embarrassed by me with him living with my stepmum
6. I am 24

If you're still at college is someone still getting money for you? As the government don't expect you to live on dla

sam_m

I Have told my GP about my negative mood its why im at my weakest point on medication for depression. And with MS do you mean Multiple sclerosis, how did you change your attitude then

sam_m

dawyldthing wrote: »

If you're still at college is someone still getting money for you? As the government don't expect you to live on dla

What do you mean is someone still getting money for me?

Mupette

sam_m wrote: »

I Have told my GP about my negative mood its why im at my weakest point on medication for depression. And with MS do you mean Multiple sclerosis, how did you change your attitude then

MS - Multiple Sclerosis yes

What got me to change my attitude was reading peoples memes on facebook about toxic people, I even scoffed and thought yes i know a few people like that.

Also my best friend would come and visit and was polite about toxic people, I realised she was actually talking about me. No one liked me at work, I thought everyone hated me, I wasn't treated the same as others which only fuled my anger at life. Then one day I realised I was that toxic person.

My husband was at crisis point with me, he was close to asking for a divorce. I knew then that I had to do something because i was harming others with my anger and attitude, I didn't know because people never told me, they just walked away and out of my life.

I had to figure it out for myself.

Sorry to say a few of us have said to you that it is you that has to change, but until you admit it, you won't change.

Feel good about yourself, take up a hobby. Do you go to any support groups? If not i suggest it would benefit you.

And one other thing, think about moving into a city, you will have millions of better options open up for you. Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to get better.

And now at work, I have friends, people talk to me, smile at me and treat me a lot better. They still don't understand MS and how ill i can be, I've given them as much information i can, it doesn't bother me now as I have my own support network - which I believe you are lacking, you really need a support network to be there and help you.

sam_m

The trouble is i don't have money to move into a big city. And yeah i agree the support network for people with autism is not there for example my stepbrother met his gf at a CMT weekend, there is nothing like that for people like autism, my autism also isn't as bad as im very high functioning

dawyldthing

sam_m wrote: »

What do you mean is someone still getting money for me?

https://benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk/

Fill that in and see what you can get to live on

marliepanda

sam_m wrote: »

The trouble is i don't have money to move into a big city. And yeah i agree the support network for people with autism is not there for example my stepbrother met his gf at a CMT weekend, there is nothing like that for people like autism, my autism also isn't as bad as im very high functioning

You are quite fixated on how high functioning your autism is. This is dangerous.

Sorry but you are not high functioning in MANY ways. You are not high functioning socially. You are not high functioning emotionally. You are not high functioning in the workplace.

You either dwell on how much 'better' your siblings are, or how much 'better' you are than 'low functioning' people with ASD.

Stop comparing yourself to other people, for better or for worse, and work on your flaws and your failings in order to get what you want.

You say youre high functioning, but to get a job and a girlfriend you are not high functioning in the slightest, sorry to say.