feel so stupid

Bravepants

elsien wrote: »

Bravepants, if the OP is genuine which is entirely possible, you're really not helping. Report it if you feel it necessary but baiting the OP for a response isn't ok.

Like many others I have offered advice and help. The other night I made reference to my own traumas in life (death of loved ones, loss of a baby and other struggles) as an example and recommended a book for him to read. I have done what others have done and given him the benefit of the doubt. In return I was subjected to abuse, and the belittling of my own issues that I shared with my open heart to try to help him. Someone mentioned earlier that he is a nasty piece of work, and now I tend to agree. He told someone last night to go and kill himself! That and all he has said on here is unacceptable.

I have several times expressed the opionin to users here and to MSE moderators that he needs professional help and it is inappropriate for him to be posting on here, to members of a forum who have no experience of autism and its many facets. He is upsetting innocent members of the public who are trying to help him, and someone has to stand up to him to try to stop it. The problem is that people who have not experienced his behaviour, approach the topic new and fall into this endless circle of counter argument from him, and eventually abuse.

marliepanda

You've said multiple times in recent posts that 'no one will give you a chance'

KFC did, and you threw that back in their face.

I'm not having a go, I'm trying to change how you see the situation. You WERE given a chance so clearly people are willing to give you one.

Next time someone gives you a chance, take it with both hands.

Don't book anymore holidays until you have a job and can take them when work allows. That's what 'mature' people do. I was changing job last November so had to turn down going on my friends hen do in Amsterdam as I couldn't jeopardise the job for the holiday and also didn't want to waste my hard earned cash my paying and dropping out.

marliepanda

Bravepants wrote: »

Like many others I have offered advice and help. The other night I made reference to my own traumas in life (death of loved ones, loss of a baby and other struggles) as an example and recommended a book for him to read. I have done what others have done and given him the benefit of the doubt. In return I was subjected to abuse, and the belittling of my own issues that I shared with my open heart to try to help him. Someone mentioned earlier that he is a nasty piece of work, and now I tend to agree. He told someone last night to go and kill himself! That and all he has said on here is unacceptable.

I have several times expressed the opionin to users here and to MSE moderators that he needs professional help and it is inappropriate for him to be posting on here, to members of a forum who have no experience of autism and its many facets. He is upsetting innocent members of the public who are trying to help him, and someone has to stand up to him to try to stop it. The problem is that people who have not experienced his behaviour approach the topic new and fall into this endless circle of counter argument from him, and eventually abuse.

And I got banned for implying someone was acting 'thick' (after they called a shop worker it for no reason...)

Double standards or what.

sam_m

Bravepants wrote: »

Like many others I have offered advice and help. The other night I made reference to my own traumas in life (death of loved ones, loss of a baby and other struggles) as an example and recommended a book for him to read. I have done what others have done and given him the benefit of the doubt. In return I was subjected to abuse, and the belittling of my own issues that I shared with my open heart to try to help him. Someone mentioned earlier that he is a nasty piece of work, and now I tend to agree. He told someone last night to go and kill himself! That and all he has said on here is unacceptable.

I have several times expressed the opionin to users here and to MSE moderators that he needs professional help and it is inappropriate for him to be posting on here, to members of a forum who have no experience of autism and its many facets. He is upsetting innocent members of the public who are trying to help him, and someone has to stand up to him to try to stop it. The problem is that people who have not experienced his behaviour, approach the topic new and fall into this endless circle of counter argument from him, and eventually abuse.

So what do you expect me to do, i said sorry that i said all of that and that should be the end of the matter, like it or not the national autistic society is not helpful, there are no helpful things out there for people with autism and that is a fact. I am not upsetting people on here as i said sorry no one has to stand up to me.

DCFC79

sam_m wrote: »

yeah but everytime i think im getting somewhere with females its like one step forward and then 10 steps back, i aways think why should i be proud of speaking to a female when my stepbrother has a girlfriend

A girlfriend isn't going to fall into your lap, you have to put the effort into it.

Lol you saying "females" reminds me of the guys father in "Friday Night Dinner".

prosaver

sam_m wrote: »

yeah but everytime i think im getting somewhere with females its like one step forward and then 10 steps back,

why? 10 steps?
5.. 6 ..?

sam_m

marliepanda wrote: »

You've said multiple times in recent posts that 'no one will give you a chance'

KFC did, and you threw that back in their face.

I'm not having a go, I'm trying to change how you see the situation. You WERE given a chance so clearly people are willing to give you one.

Next time someone gives you a chance, take it with both hands.

Don't book anymore holidays until you have a job and can take them when work allows. That's what 'mature' people do. I was changing job last November so had to turn down going on my friends hen do in Amsterdam as I couldn't jeopardise the job for the holiday and also didn't want to waste my hard earned cash my paying and dropping out.

Yeah well no one else is giving me a chance now though. You also have no idea why i actually had to take this holiday, im trying to become more indpendant, its the first time i have ever been away on my own for two whole days yeah i know its in Cardiff and i shouldn't really be proud of myself because my stepsister has been abroad with her bf but it is a small small step

sam_m

prosaver wrote: »

why? 10 steps?
5.. 6 ..?

Because i speak to a girl i like at college feel really happy for a couple of days then get upset and angry thinking why am i happy, i should have done more with girls at my age then actually talking to one and being happy about it

DCFC79

sam_m wrote: »

Yeah well no one else is giving me a chance now though. You also have no idea why i actually had to take this holiday, im trying to become more indpendant, its the first time i have ever been away on my own for two whole days yeah i know its in Cardiff and i shouldn't really be proud of myself because my stepsister has been abroad with her bf but it is a small small step

Did you go to Cardiff ?

sam_m

no because the holiday isn't until next month