feel so stupid

Twisted_Princess

I don't think saying sorry will make any difference. I understand about your condition and how it can make you act, but unfortunately most employers will just see you as a 'loose cannon' and unable to control your emotions.

When you are serving customers you need to be 'in control' of yourself and act professionally as what would happen if you should come across a argumentative customer who always thinks he or she is right, and believe me you do come across them and some would test the patience of a saint!

Maybe go and see your doctor and see if there's any help you can get to control your reactions and emotions and then apply for jobs once these are under control and of course after your holiday is over.

Another option would be applying for jobs that you don't work directly with the public.

System

Most high street/fast food restaurant jobs are customer facing, its essentially a cashier job so most shops will have that role

Don't kick yourself because you didn't get the job at KFC....there are many jobs out there you just need to look

A lot of companies do not advertise on Indeed especially for a cashier role, you may need to just go door to door and hand in your CV

Good luck!

sam_m

The only problem i have is i can get nervous. I don't lose my temper often, this was the first time i have got angry for two years. I look normal and sound normal so i don;t need to go to some cafe where they don't look normal. This is the problem, i have high functioning Autisim.

People say go on the undateables and i reply back to them, i look normal, i don't want a ugly girlfriend who looks weird and can't even speak properly because i can

TELLIT01

I think the positives to come out of this are that you realise what you did wrong and what triggered the reaction. You also appreciate that apologising might be an appropriate action to take.

Valli

sam_m wrote: »

People say go on the undateables and i reply back to them, i look normal, i don't want a ugly girlfriend who looks weird and can't even speak properly because i can

Oh dear. You appear to be shouldering a chip.

I thought this thread was about employment?

or is is that you are trolling?

sam_m

No, im just saying about working in a cafe with learning disabilities. Alot of the people there would have VERY bad learning disability and wouldn't really act normal. The doctors have told me i am just a bit depressed and with my counselling it will help me feel more confident around new situations.

There are people worse off in my situations

daytona0

sam_m wrote: »

No, im just saying about working in a cafe with learning disabilities. Alot of the people there would have VERY bad learning disability and wouldn't really act normal. The doctors have told me i am just a bit depressed and with my counselling it will help me feel more confident around new situations.

There are people worse off in my situations

Wouldn't phase me in the slightest.

Why?

Because a person with a learning disability is just another human being in my eyes. And the cafe are being very nice (assuming they aren't exploiting people) in giving such people a chance at meaningful employment.

Getting a few months work in said cafe would give you an income, get you interacting with other human beings and show future employers that you can hold down a job without bouncing off the walls everytime a setback occurs.


And regarding your comments about not dating "ugly" people with learning disabilities. That one came right out of left field I must say! That's the sort of comment which is best left in your head Little tip, as your autism may be the reason why you told us that...

To extend on the relationship stuff as well, one of my exes had mild learning disabilities and was not really conventionally attractive but I didn't give a monkeys what anyone else thought because she was attractive to me, and she was sweet and kind. Ugly is all about perspective, and to be honest I don't even judge people on their "ugliness" these days; its such a childish thing to do...

PS You haven't even commented to advice RE your gambling... I used to gamble a lot and I tell you what but facing up to that problem actually helped me to learn how to cope better with OTHER THINGS too.. Maybe you should give Gamblers Anonymous a go too?

sam_m

Yes i have, i said that i don't gamble anymore, i haven't done it for a month now and i closed my accounts on the internet down. I also told my mother, the gamblling is not a problem anymore.

And look, the cafe is probably great, but i feel i don't need that. For example i go to this drama group for people that have learning difficulties, they have all sorts of problems such as down syndrome. They are a wonderful bunch of people but i interect with the care workers who come with them more, not because i don't like them but because i can actually hold a conversation a bit better with the care workers. Even the teacher likes me helping more then taking part.

And i didn't mean i don't want to date ugly people, i dont want to date someone that i would have to be a care worker for or would be too tied down and not independent enough, i wouldn't expect someone either to do that for me either which is why i am trying to improve myself

Fireflyaway

You realised what happened so that's a good start. I personally wouldn't go back to KFC. Its unlikely someone who was so rude would be hired for a customer facing job, even if you do have reasons for it. Don't grovel, move on.
In my county we have an organisation who provide supported employment. They match job seekers who have all types of disabilities, with various companies. Both sides will be aware of your challenges and accepting of who you are. Maybe there is similar where you live?

sam_m

How the hell will i be able to go into that KFC again though, i actually like the food there and the staff are quite good at their job.

And there is a really nice female who i have seen who works there, i feel so silly because i could have gotten to know her. No i have no chance.