Do people look like their pics on internet dating?

AubreyMac

I've started internet dating.


From what is written in a lot of the mens profiles, it seems they feel that women do not look like their pictures. some of the profiles quotes include:


"You will buy all the drinks until you look like your photos"

"If you don't like as you do in your photos, swipe left"

"I'm not fooled by photos from 10 years ago"


I understand why someone may want to put nice pics of themselves such as pics from holidays, events etc but I don't get why someone would put old or unrealistic photos that may make them look far more glamorous/younger/slimmer than they currently are. Surely you know that if or when you meet the other person will be disappointed?


I've yet to meet in person someone I've been talking to online as I've only started this week but don't men lie about their photo too? I find that a lot of pics look like professional photo shoots and I ignore the profiles I believe might be fake. I'm also convinced that some who claim to be in his 30s is actually in his 50s.

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hazyjo

I think it's always been the same - can't see it changing unfortunately!


Have you seen the episode of The Office when they meet on a blind date in a pub? So funny. He's peed off at her, and she's peed off at him. People often have an inflated view of how they look and choose a photo that they feel best represents how they feel they should look, or how they feel they sometimes still look.


How many of us put rough pics up as our profiles on social media? I had a lovely one that I barely recognise myself in LOL (albeit a very current one!). So much so that I changed it for a more 'honest/recognisable' one!


Jx

Ozzuk

That was always a pet hate of mine, its great that you looked like that 10 years ago, but I'm not dating that person. You could argue that is shallow, the person is more important but online dating is about first impressions, be honest and happy with who you are now.

Another pet hate, pictures of you with friends - are we supposed to guess which one you are!

Glad I'm out of it

professor~yaffle

Par for the course now, in the age of people photoshopping their pictures on social media, etc. I would imagine women do this more than men, but I don't know. I wouldn't touch internet dating sites with a bargepole but if I did I'd at least try and put a photo up there that looks like me.

AubreyMac

Gosh, it really is common then.


I put recent pics up taken 2weeks to 4 months ago. Of course I looked better when I was younger when I was slimmer and my skin was flawless but its not the reality now.


I feel the same about the group party pictures, as well as pics with kids or other women when they don't explain who they are (I strictly do not want a guy with children).

justme111

Enjoy dating.
I used to be on and off on dating site for a while and I sometimes miss the fun of it , could write a book of funny stories from it.
Yes it is very common.
On another hand I know about cases when people looked better in the real life than on the photos, women as well.
Was not an issue for me as I on one hand was choosing coherent people to date and those tend not to put misleading photos up and an another I am pretty skilled in identifying misleading pictures.
Pictures with groups or women or children are good as they give you the opportunity to filter out brainless ones who put them on:D

PeacefulWaters

I've met loads of people online and never had the problem of them not looking like their pictures.

I've had loads of women ignore me online, probably because I look exactly like my picture!

tea_lover

It would be comments like those you've quoted that would put me off, far more than what someone looks like.

onomatopoeia99

I don't really see the point in trying to deceive as you're going to get found out on first meeting anyway. If I ever manage to finish an internet dating profile, any photo will be like the rest of it, very much "warts and all."

So ... I'm a nerd, I could do with losing a stone (of weight, not a small rock), my house is full of books and I view telephones with antipathy, other than when being used as a portable TCP/IP connection. My idea of a good weekend is a DVD box set marathon of something like Babylon 5 or Buffy.

That should have them running for the hills :rotfl:

Oakdene

It is even worse now that you can use apps like SnapChat which has filters that give the flawless look in them...

tensandunits_2

Yes I think I would be more put off by the lack of social skills or social etiquette, often found in people who frequent internet dating sites. Much better to go out and meet people in real life.