Money Moral Dilemma: Should I 'reclaim' my car expenses?

Angri

If you have any sort of decency about you, may I suggest you thank your parents for all the care, help and love they've shown you during your life, and, if you've learnt ANYTHING about being a member of a family - - how about you offer a few pounds every week to your brother to help with the running costs of his car until he gets some work.

In some societies this is known as 'brotherly love'.

Try it, it feels very good.

John_Gray

I think we need to have Money Moral Dilemmas which provoke Greater Outrage and Vituperation.

This one is a bit wishy-washy...

GreenTed

In 3/4 years' time your brother will have a huge debt, you got an extremely good deal.

Canvaskid

When my older sister was 18 (and at uni) my parents bought her a car. By the time I was 18 they were not as well off. I knew they felt they should do the same for me but I asked them not to. I had an apprenticeship and was able to put away a little each week as my parents only asked for a very small contribution for my keep. I never felt I had been treated unfairly.

tallgirld

Wow you sound ungrateful.


But please do ask for the £6,500 refund and then come back and let us know what your parents said!


My guess is they will tell you to "Do one"

Erica51

and you presented me with a bill for expenses for running your car I'd present you with one for bed and board. They might cancel each other out or you might owe your parents money. Don't try it on.

pdhroche

My mother has always given the same to my brother and I. My mother divorced many years ago.

I am a few years older than my brother, went through uni etc, when my brother went to uni my father gave him £1000, my brother felt that this was unfair and gave me half.

Cheers Bro.

an1179

Do/did you still live at home while doing you apprenticeship and did you pay your parents rent? Will your brother live in halls and pay his own rent? will one expense offset the other?

Fitzmichael

I can't conceive that this is anything but a concoction by your staff. This is not a matter of morality nor is it a dilemma, which is a term which ought to be reserved for a choice between equally undesirable outcomes, not as a synonym for any problem.

phillw

Your parents have no legal or moral obligation to treat you equally. Despite what parents say, there is always a favourite.

Just be grateful to your parents that you're alive & be especially grateful if you made it to adulthood without going through any severe trauma.