Should I stay or should I leave?

ravernoloo

Oh and the children were a planned joint decision. Both of them.

Primrose

[QUOTE=ravernoloo;72166936. The toddler is hard work yes but she is so lovely to be around and I can actually have a conversation with her . In fact I talk more to her than I am ever able to talk to my partner. Which is another reason why I wouldn't want him to take her with him abroad.
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It would only be for a week and quite honestly if you're always complaining of feeling exhausted yiu should seriously consider having your childcare load lightened for a week.

Quite apart from anything else it may give you some reflection time which yiu seriously seem to need. And your partner having to care for a toddler for a week (even with the input from his parents) would be a very good experience for him in terms of opening his eyes as to how exhausting they can be. Let them go with your blessing!. The two of you probably need a break from each other anyway with the current atmosphere.

tensandunits_2

ravernoloo wrote: »

I just wouldn't feel comfortable breastfeeding in a plane and in a Muslim country as we would be going to Turkey. It just feels like he cannot be bothered with this relationship. He doesn't want to put any effort into trying to make me happy, he just does wheat he wants and of I don't like it then go elsewhere. I'm always seeing my friends who are mothers having 1 night a month where they can go out and be "them" yet I don't even get a day to myself. The toddler is hard work yes but she is so lovely to be around and I can actually have a conversation with her . In fact I talk more to her than I am ever able to talk to my partner. Which is another reason why I wouldn't want him to take her with him abroad.
It's not exactly mixed messages there is a time and place to help with the children and taking one away for a weeks holiday is not really helping.

It sounds like he's bending over backwards to make things easier for you!

Offering a holiday to Turkey which you then refused (do you think no-one ever breastfeeds in Turkey?!) He then offered to take one of the children with him to give you a break, and you refused that, too, stating, bizarrely, that you need the company of the toddler child more than you need to speak to your boyfriend, the child's father.

What actually is it that you do want?

justme111

Op , I agree with the above posters you are being irreasonable

clairec79

TBH if I was to go abroad with a young baby I'd be far more likely to do it when breastfeeding that if formula feeding (trying to ensure you get enough formula through, but that sterilising equipment etc is done is far more faff)