Am I being over sensitive

POPPYOSCAR

gabriel1980 wrote: »

You really don't - but ignorance is bliss

Mmm so now a stranger on an internet forum knows what my husband does better than I do!

This constant banging away(excuse the pun) that every man in the world watches !!!!!! and is lying if they do not own up to it, is very tedious.

Gavin83

ripplyuk wrote: »

Does it have to be of other women? Could guys not use images of their own partner to look at?

I'm just curious btw, not judging.

Probably.

However I think more women would have an issue with being filmed acting out their boyfriends fantasies than with !!!!!!. Just my opinion though, naturally I have no way to prove this.

It's also likely that men will watch acts that their partner wouldn't consider, which is of course totally their right to refuse.

onomatopoeia99

tea_lover wrote: »

I don't know a single person this would be an issue for, and it would never occur to me to mention it to a new/potential partner.

Agree. I don't understand the drama at all.

Even if it were an issue for one person in a relationship, a simple "I don't like video / photographic / written / drawn (delete as appropriate) pornography, so I'd prefer that if you watch / read / look at that then you keep it where I am unlikely to find it by accident" from them would do. Going beyond and trying to make them stop would be controlling behaviour and a major warning sign about the future of the relationship (or "red flag" to use the popular terminology here).

suejb2

What offends you may not offend me and in this case !!!!!! isn't offensive to me. Just because you are offended by something doesn't make you right .We're human we're different.
You cannot "unknow" the fact he watches !!!!!!, as someone said in an earlier post relationships are about compromise.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

He had access to all the weird and wonderful pornography the internet can offer and you caught him lokking at some naked frumpy houewife? And you're making him feel bad about that? Poor guy.

System

Look, I don't expect you to get this but as I've already explained it's not about lusting after other women. It's not real. Of course I totally get they are actually real people but that isn't how it feels. It's just a bit of visual stimulation, nothing more.

No need to get your boxers in a twist.

Lily-Rose_3

gabriel1980 wrote: »

You really don't - but ignorance is bliss

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Mmm so now a stranger on an internet forum knows what my husband does better than I do!

This constant banging away(excuse the pun) that every man in the world watches !!!!!! and is lying if they do not own up to it, is very tedious.

I am with you here poppyoscar, it is tedious. In addition, the arrogance of a few posters on here is breathtaking.

suejb2 wrote: »

What offends you may not offend me and in this case !!!!!! isn't offensive to me. Just because you are offended by something doesn't make you right .We're human we're different.

You cannot "unknow" the fact he watches !!!!!!, as someone said in an earlier post relationships are about compromise.

I don't think anyone has said or suggested that have they? :huh:

Frankly I am seeing a lot more arrogance coming from people whose partners watch it, with their insisting that anyone who says their man doesn't watch it is a fool. I don't see any arrogance coming from people who don't like !!!!!!, and who say their men don't watch it.

peachyprice

ripplyuk wrote: »

Yes, I think I would. I'm not sure why though. Maybe because if he's just imagining stuff, it's all coming from him, from his brain alone. It wouldn't feel nice to think he was imagining other women, but it would feel a lot better than him seeking out real life ones in !!!!!!.

That's not the way men's brains are wired. Men are more about images, women more about fantasties.

FBaby

I don't see any arrogance coming from people who don't like !!!!!!, and who say their men don't watch it.

I think the underlying message that came up from those who understand how OP feels is that she was right to bring the issue up in a tone that implied that he was wrong for doing it.

I think that's where the issue is with most posters who don't see !!!!!! as a problem, but maybe that's not what was intended and maybe we are all agreeing that whether OP has an issue with !!!!!! or not, she has no right to expect him to stop just to please her?

Lily-Rose_3

Fair enough Fbaby. ^^^ I am just saying that a few people are coming across as rude; implying that women who believe their husband doesn't watch !!!!!! are naive and gullible and stupid, whilst suggesting he 'obviously' does.