Renewing your wedding vows

Jackieboy

Mrs_Bones wrote: »

I think that's a big assumption to make about others. Some may do it for that reason I guess but I don't think you can assume that it covers the majority. A friend who renewed her vows did so because when they'd got married they couldn't have a wedding she had dreamed about. Circumstances and money don't always allow someone to have a wedding as they would really have liked. After many years down the line her other half asked if she'd like to do it all over again, he must have been doing something right all those years they'd had together because she yes once more. It was a fun day full of love, why would anyone want to pour cold water on someone elses happiness.

Unless you've been divorced, you can't "do it all over again". The wedding they had was their wedding - anything else is just a party.

If you've married the person you love and you've stayed married for many years, that is a real dream wedding.

AnnieO1234

We plan to renew our vows for two very distinct reasons.

We have been together over a decade when we married. We had our first child in 2011 when we finally married 27 May 2014. We didn't do a big ceremony, just close family and because of health and wealth issues of guests as well as my second pregnancy, we used the local registry office. It was a compromise.

Two weeks later my husband was taken ill (at the time a terminal diagnosis). We didn't get our honeymoon and sadly due to my husband's continuing disability from his cancer, he doesn't remember getting married at all.

So instead our plan is, when the kids are a little older and funds a little easier, to renew our vows in New York. It will just be us and the kids, but it will be more like the wedding we dreamed of and will be something my husband will (hopefully!) find unforgettable!

Torry_Quine

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

We plan to renew our vows for two very distinct reasons.

We have been together over a decade when we married. We had our first child in 2011 when we finally married 27 May 2014. We didn't do a big ceremony, just close family and because of health and wealth issues of guests as well as my second pregnancy, we used the local registry office. It was a compromise.

Two weeks later my husband was taken ill (at the time a terminal diagnosis). We didn't get our honeymoon and sadly due to my husband's continuing disability from his cancer, he doesn't remember getting married at all.

So instead our plan is, when the kids are a little older and funds a little easier, to renew our vows in New York. It will just be us and the kids, but it will be more like the wedding we dreamed of and will be something my husband will (hopefully!) find unforgettable!

Renewing your vows as your husband can't remember the wedding is a good reason I would say.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

We plan to renew our vows for two very distinct reasons.

We have been together over a decade when we married. We had our first child in 2011 when we finally married 27 May 2014. We didn't do a big ceremony, just close family and because of health and wealth issues of guests as well as my second pregnancy, we used the local registry office. It was a compromise.

Two weeks later my husband was taken ill (at the time a terminal diagnosis). We didn't get our honeymoon and sadly due to my husband's continuing disability from his cancer, he doesn't remember getting married at all.

So instead our plan is, when the kids are a little older and funds a little easier, to renew our vows in New York. It will just be us and the kids, but it will be more like the wedding we dreamed of and will be something my husband will (hopefully!) find unforgettable!

Self indulgabce then.

Person_one

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Younger people 35 and under, and especially people in their 20's, seem stunned that we are married, as it's not the done thing with many young people now apparently. And our daughter's friends seem shocked that she has parents who are still together, and still married! Literally, when our daughter was around 14-15, she was one of only 3 pupils in her class with 2 parents still together - and married!

That's very unusual.

More married couples still stay together than divorce. The divorce rate is actually on the way down, at 42% and dropping.

Mojisola

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

So instead our plan is, when the kids are a little older and funds a little easier, to renew our vows in New York. It will just be us and the kids, but it will be more like the wedding we dreamed of and will be something my husband will (hopefully!) find unforgettable!

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Self indulgabce then.

You say that as if there's something wrong with self-indulgence.

TBagpuss

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Self indulgabce then.

Lots of things are self-indulgent - holidays, nice meals out. That doesn't mean that they are inherently bad.

I don't, personally, see the appeal in renewing vows, and TBH in an unusual case such as AnnieO's where her husband doesn't remember the ceremony, while I can see the appeal of renewing the vows, I find it harder to see why you'd want to wait years to do it..

BUT if you as a couple want to renew your vows, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't. If it is meaningful to you, or gives you pleasure, why not?
Why be rude or dismissive of it just because it doesn't happen to be your personal taste.?

I wouldn't assume that a couple had had problems if they decided to do a renewal (expcet perhaps if it were very early in the marriage)

suejb2

Looking at the definition of renew

Resume(an activity) after an interruption
Give fresh life of strength to
Replace something that is worn out of broken.

My marriage hasn't had any interruptions, I take that to be splits or divorciing
My marriage is neither stale or weak
Certainly not worn out of broken

Each to their own but I have always thought them a pointless exercise.

Marvel1

Do people give gifts if attending this? If so then that's another reason maybe.

Gloomendoom

Who officiates at a renewal of vows ceremony?