Do You Trust Your Other Half?

annandale

Maybe the OPs partner could have a curfew or an electronic tag. Or just live under house arrest. If any of this is actually true

Gloomendoom

annandale wrote: »

Maybe the OPs partner could have a curfew or an electronic tag. Or just live under house arrest. If any of this is actually true

I was thinking something more like this...

annandale

He probably got her that for her Xmas

Marvel1

catkins wrote: »

Sorry but cheating does not "just happen". Makes me laugh when people say "I didn't want to cheat". Did their clothes magically fall off and they found themselves in bed with someone? No of course they didn't.

You either have it in you to cheat or you don't. I know for sure I could not cheat. I would never do it to someone I loved and respected. I could never live with the guilt either - I can't even tell a small lie about how much something cost

The lamest excuses are the drunken snogs, no it's not drunk you cheated.

catkins

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Thanks for sharing.

A simple fact. You can only just about gurantee your behviour but never of another, a fact. Even your behaviour could change just as unexpected circumstances take place and never say never. However, you appear to be like me, a dedicated and honest person that would never dream of deceiving their other half
:T:T:T

I can absolutely 100% guarantee that I would not cheat. For me cheating is completely wrong. If you are with someone you love and respect you would never do that to them. If you don't love and respect them then you should leave before you start a new relationship with someone else.

I also am sure my OH would not cheat. I know him so well after 36 years and know his views are exactly the same as mine. We both despise people that cheat.

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Thanks for sharing.

A simple fact. You can only just about gurantee your behviour but never of another, a fact. Even your behaviour could change just as unexpected circumstances take place and never say never. However, you appear to be like me, a dedicated and honest person that would never dream of deceiving their other half
:T:T:T

Of course, going through her handbag and checking her phone behind her back isn't 'deceiving her', is it? :whistle:

macca1974

I've not been on this forum before but felt compelled to comment (assuming its real of course). My God mate, get over yourself. People don't belong to other people and its still a free country! If you don't trust your partner then why are you in a relationship. If your partner decides that there might be better options out there then fair play to her. From what you've said, there aren't any kids involved so its not as though anyone apart from the two of you are going to get hurt.

The more that you tighten your grip and act in a paranoid and possessive way around your partner, the more likely it is that she will find someone who is less high maintenance.

I've been with my wife since April 2000, and frankly I trust her and wouldn't dream of trying to control what she does. I'd be exhausted if I'd spent the last 17 years or so frantically checking on her whereabouts.

Have some confidence in yourself and your relationship. Life is far to short to be constantly worrying about what your OH is doing.

GlasweJen

We both have codes to unlock our phones but we know what each other's code is. I'd never pick his phone up and go through his messages.

I have secrets, nothing major. I don't fancy another man or anything but I have a secret credit union account that gets topped up by direct deductions from my wages. My mum had a horrific divorce that saw her leave with 3 kids under 5 in the middle of the night after witnessing her husbands extreme violence against one of us kids. It then came out that he was molesting us so going back was not an option. She didn't have any money and if it wasn't for the hospital social worker who got her in touch with women's aid we would have been on the streets. Everything was in my dads name even the child benefit and all of the household accounts and bills.

We shared a room in a women's hostel for almost a year before we got our flat from the council to move into.

My credit union money is my emergency money. I hope I never need to use it and if the marriage goes well and the kids are up and we're happy I'll come clean. He could know for all I know, I constantly leave my pay slips lying at my backside and I get mail from the credit union.

Pollycat

macca1974 wrote: »

I've not been on this forum before but felt compelled to comment (assuming its real of course). My God mate, get over yourself. People don't belong to other people and its still a free country! If you don't trust your partner then why are you in a relationship. If your partner decides that there might be better options out there then fair play to her. From what you've said, there aren't any kids involved so its not as though anyone apart from the two of you are going to get hurt.

Reading one of the OP's posts on a different thread, I think he may disagree with the statement in bold.

Pollycat

hunters wrote: »

Just for the record if there is any bullying going on in this thread its by you who won't accept that other people have a different opinion to you.

Yes, that's a common accusation by people who are incapable of accepting that it's perfectly OK for other people to hold a different viewpoint to themselves.
I often find that the same people try to convince posters to accept their point of view by posting spurious links to so-called reputable sources - and by using the word 'fact' numerous times.