Do You Trust Your Other Half?

consumers_revenge

When I get home and we ask each other about their day when I start telling her she says I know, I've already read your Facebook lol

catkins

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi NC

Many thanks for sharing.

Please read Firefly's post if you have time and you will see where I am coming from.

At times people do not set out to cheat, but it happens and you have heard that many times.

Sorry but cheating does not "just happen". Makes me laugh when people say "I didn't want to cheat". Did their clothes magically fall off and they found themselves in bed with someone? No of course they didn't.

You either have it in you to cheat or you don't. I know for sure I could not cheat. I would never do it to someone I loved and respected. I could never live with the guilt either - I can't even tell a small lie about how much something cost

Izadora

catkins wrote: »

You either have it in you to cheat or you don't. I know for sure I could not cheat. I would never do it to someone I loved and respected. I could never live with the guilt either - I can't even tell a small lie about how much something cost

I think the bolded part is the main thing for me. I'd love to say that I've never cheated on anyone but I have. The difference between then and now though is that then I was in a fairly rubbish relationship, didn't love him anymore and was away at college while he was still at home.

Now there's not a chance in hell I'd cheat. Not only do I have too much to lose but I can't bear my OH being hurt when it's not my fault so there's nothing that could make me put him through that.

The fact that he's very trusting and has no problem with me going for nights out/weekends away with the girls means that I would have plenty of opportunity to cheat if I wanted to but I don't want to so it's not going to happen.

NeilCr

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi NC

Many thanks for sharing.

Please read Firefly's post if you have time and you will see where I am coming from.

At times people do not set out to cheat, but it happens and you have heard that many times.

In your favour is the fact your OH suffered via a serial cheater. IMO, victims of cheaters rarely cheat, so you have a good one there, look after here and all the best!

Read it and don't agree with it

Of course anything could happen but the way I work is to start by trusting people. And that's not just partners but friends, work colleagues etc etc. If you have it in your mind that something could happen then that sort of thing grows and festers

I don't think that the fact my partner was with a serial cheater matters one way or the other. She is who she is and gets on with life without worrying about things that most likely won't happen. She deals with them when they do which I think is very healthy

Yes I am lucky. But, then, so is she! :p

Out,_Vile_Jelly

I wonder if we could have some more statistics from reputable source The Daily Mail listing which tradesmen are more likely to encourage 90% of women to cheat? I'm going to be needing some exterior painting and interior electrics doing soon, and wonder which trade offers the best chance of my dropping my knickers.

warehouse

Saw this today, immediately thought of this thread...

Brightonsbest_2

catkins wrote: »

Sorry but cheating does not "just happen". Makes me laugh when people say "I didn't want to cheat". Did their clothes magically fall off and they found themselves in bed with someone? No of course they didn't.

You either have it in you to cheat or you don't. I know for sure I could not cheat. I would never do it to someone I loved and respected. I could never live with the guilt either - I can't even tell a small lie about how much something cost

Thanks for sharing.

A simple fact. You can only just about gurantee your behviour but never of another, a fact. Even your behaviour could change just as unexpected circumstances take place and never say never. However, you appear to be like me, a dedicated and honest person that would never dream of deceiving their other half
:T:T:T

Brightonsbest_2

warehouse wrote: »

Saw this today, immediately thought of this thread...

thanks

:(

Brightonsbest_2

NeilCr wrote: »

Read it and don't agree with it



Yes I am lucky. But, then, so is she! :p

Even the" lucky" ones can suffer.

annandale

I think you've made your point and there's not a lot more to be added to the thread

Thankfully