Do You Trust Your Other Half?

Brightonsbest_2

Fireflyaway wrote: »

For me its not that I feel insecure or think my husband is particularly untrustworthy. Its more that you can never 100% know what is in someone else's mind , how they might act when you are not around or how they might change over time. If you really don't trust your partner that's not good and needs dealing with. However merly being aware that you are not immune from ever being lied to / cheated on seems sensible. Scores of people are betrayed and never saw it coming so it stands to reason that unless your partner is looked in a room 24/7 with no access to anyone or anything it could happen!

Hi FF
Sincerely appreaciate your facutal post!

IMHO, you will not be fooled, but if it ever happens, you will spot it asap.
ATB and goodluck!
:T:T:T

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Please read the OP, get a grip and then respond.

I think if anyone needs to get a grip, it's the poster who started this taradiddle.

Brightonsbest wrote: »

I clearly did NOT say that everyone cheated and that is a fact.

The poster you quoted (Lioness Twinkletoes) did not say that you said everyone cheated.

You might not have said 'everyone' but you did post this (don't say you are being misquoted):

Brightonsbest wrote: »

About 90% of all adults have cheated, thought about it or tried and failed.

MANY WILL SAY I HAVE A "TRUST PROBLEM" THE WORRYING FACT IS MOST WILL CHEAT, MOST WON'T GET FOUND OUT AND ALL OF THE TIME YOU ARE BEING DECEIVED.

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Most men and women will cheat given half the chance and especially if they think they will get away with it.

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Most men I know have cheated are cheating as ell as women

Most people I know haven't cheated.

Maybe your jaundiced view of fidelity is as a result of the company you keep.

annandale

Most people I know haven't cheated either

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Thanks for sahiring as this could easily be another one of my threads that is in the piepline. I won't quote percentages unless pushed but in England, many men believe the child is theirs but in actual fact it was sired by another man.

As I stated earlier with evidence form a respected media source, approx 90% of the cheating women never get found out, so on the whole I putty men as they think they are clever, but its the women that have it off, get pregant by another man and the husband thinks he is the daddy. Sadly, more and more men as secretly going for DNA tests. I don't recommed that as the child now possibly an adult that you thought was yours is yours - why should a little bit of sperm, where it came from matter. What should matter is you are the dayy and they are your kids, unless they grow up to be losers and you may want to check, but your choice as you are playing with unstable dynatmite.

ATB

The 'respected media source' you quoted in post #74 was a Daily Mail article:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2161706/Almost-women-cheat-caught-partners---fifth-men-DO-out.html
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So the results are hardly surprising are they?

Why would you expect anyone with a modicum of common sense on this forum to believe that women who are lying to their partners will tell the truth in a survey?

Just shows how believable your source is - regardless of how respected you believe it to be.

thorsoak

Why do you trust your source, when you distrust everybody else in your life?

Brightonsbest_2

thorsoak wrote: »

Why do you trust your source, when you distrust everybody else in your life?

Hi

Many thanks for raising a valid and sensible question.

Educated people/families like mine decide whom trust and whom not to trust at a very early age. The DM is respected within our family, relatives and friends. It is one of the handful media sources that I and my family can relate to.

About "distrusting everyone." The fact is that I could never, never ever distrust or trust everyone. However, I do and will continue to trust some people and distrust others.

Have a good evening

:T:T:T.

annandale

Rubbish

Few educated people would trust the daily mail as a respected source

NeilCr

Hmm

Asked herself about this last night. She said that it would do her head in if she was in a relationship where she worried about trusting the other person. She'd take a good look in the mirror if she was "sneaking round" looking at her partner's phone. I have to say I agree

And she's been in a previous relationship with a serial cheater

It's about who you are with now not what's happened in the past

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi

Many thanks for raising a valid and sensible question.

Educated people/families like mine decide whom trust and whom not to trust at a very early age. The DM is respected within our family, relatives and friends. It is one of the handful media sources that I and my family can relate to.

About "distrusting everyone." The fact is that I could never, never ever distrust or trust everyone. However, I do and will continue to trust some people and distrust others.

Have a good evening

:T:T:T.

But it's not really a Daily Mail source, is it?

It's taken from a website designed to facilitate (mainly) women to cheat on their partners.
Why can't you see that any survey results from women who register on a website designed specifically to allow them to meet men for extra-marital affairs is really not a reputable source.

hunters

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi

Many thanks for raising a valid and sensible question.

Educated people/families like mine decide whom trust and whom not to trust at a very early age. The DM is respected within our family, relatives and friends. It is one of the handful media sources that I and my family can relate to.

About "distrusting everyone." The fact is that I could never, never ever distrust or trust everyone. However, I do and will continue to trust some people and distrust others.

Have a good evening

:T:T:T.

Educated people/families like mine :rotfl: :rotfl: