Sashybo - Back Again

Sun_Addict

Will the outlaws let you keep the money if there's any left over? They sound very controlling and need to realise that their little boy is an adult who can choose who he wants to spend his life with whether they approve or not. I could never be like that with my kids, as long as they're happy that's all I want for them. 

sashybo

Hi Nicnak & SA.

Yes Nicnak, if I react to something they've done/said (usually by flying off the handle 😳) it's always my fault and they twist it to make me look like the unreasonable one. I try not to react but who knows what they say to their friends about me!

It's so weird though because most of their friends seem to be nice, normal people and DH's aunts all seem to be nice too, not that I've met them many times admittedly. His mum's sister always sends cards for the kids birthdays with money for them and asks about them all the time even though we only see her once a year, if that. 

I remember when DS was born and the outlaws came up to visit. They weren't staying with us (but only because I absolutely refused to let them - again all my fault) but they still managed to take over. MIL was hogging the baby and generally annoying me, remember I was still very hormonal and in pain after a long and difficult birth. She kept going on about how she basically had it worse with DH's birth (30-odd years before) and she had forceps as well but she didn't get an epidural. blah blah blah.

The last straw was when I went for a nap, came downstairs and MIL had disappeared with DS whilst DH & FIL sat in the garden drinking! She had taken him out a walk in the pram, ok that's fine except we hadn't even taken him out in the pram yet and no one had thought to ask me if it was ok.  I was absolutely raging and sat upstairs angry crying and ranting to my friends via text. 😖 

SA, good point. From what DH said they seem to be wanting to hold onto the money and pay bills as they come in. 😱 Maybe I've misunderstood - I hope so anyway because that is a whole new level of control freakery from them. 👀 

DH & I have been together for 17 years so I doubt the outlaws are ever going to really accept me if they haven't by now. I think because we don't see them often they don't know me very well and really don't understand me. They're the kind of people who can't seem to understand that other people think differently to them - and if they do, well they're wrong! 😂 

beanielou

The outlaws sound dire.

Willowtree222

Agree Beanie x

DancingInTheRain

17 years!!! Have a medal 🏅 you deserve one! x

sashybo

Thanks all, yes the outlaws are hard going, I just thank my lucky stars that they live far, far away from us and we only have to see them a few times a year. MIL usually visits every 3 months on her own to see the kids, they both descend about twice a year and we try to go down there in the summer. Obviously none of that is likely to happen this year with covid. 

DH has been remarking that his mum is really missing the kids and thinks they won't know who she is when she eventually gets to see them again. 🙄 Of course DS will remember her, he's 3! And DD doesn't really recognise anyone except me, DH & DS at this point!

Just her usual dramatics, although I do feel bad that she's missing the kids as she does love them. My mum is always telling me to be kinder to my MIL because she knows she would find it very hard to be so far away from her grandchildren. I know she's right so I do try and send MIL photos and videos of the kids when I can.

Was down at my mum's today with the kids as DS was nagging me for days wanting to go out in the car to see gran, her cat and her dog. 😂 We couldn't visit earlier in the week as my mum was working night shifts.

DS had great fun, especially when my twin nieces arrived and were chasing him round the garden. 😊 DD was actually a lot more chilled out than she has been recently, poor wee soul was too used to being at home and was getting really upset when we first started visiting my mum again. She was happy for my mum to hold her and was happy to see my sister and her big cousins too. 👏 

We had dinner at my mum's so bedtime was a bit stressful as I basically ran the kids in the door from the car and started doing solo bedtime due to DH working late shifts this week. Poor DD was nearly falling asleep and DS was being very uncooperative with getting washed and changed so there was a lot of screaming and DS running away from me in various states of undress. 🙄 😂 Funny but not funny at the time. 😂

My sister gave me a big bag of books that she was clearing out of her house - half were mine originally anyway but I haven't read the others so have some new books now. 😀 Will charity shop them at some point along with my own books that I need to go through and streamline (or just get another bookcase 🤔).

First KIT day at work tomorrow so looking forward to a few hours out of the house on my own. I tried my uniform on and it actually fits 🥳 but as it's Friday I can dress down anyway. Tried some of my jeggings and jeans on - can fit in most of them, some very unflatteringly though. 😂 I really need to stop eating junk and exercise more but my motivation has just went!

Have ordered more washable face masks as it will be mandatory to wear them in shops here from next week. Really should have been mandatory at the start of lockdown but oh well. 🤷‍♀️ I must admit I've not been wearing a mask when shopping as it wasn't mandatory and (like everyone else) I hate them. 

DancingInTheRain

Hope the KIT day goes well x

Willowtree222

Hope that KIT days go well. I do enjoy going out to work as it just makes me feel normal x

sashybo

Thanks Dancing & Nicnak, KIT day went well, I was only there for 2 and a half hours in the end as the manager said I could go. And I still get paid for the full shift. 🥳 It was good to get back and see people, looking forward to getting back into my work routine again.

I went to Mr M on the way home and thought, great no queue - when I got inside there was no security at the door stopping people going in and it was really busy. 😱 I just raced round as fast as I could but people were everywhere and just kept coming towards me.

At one point I was trapped between 2 trolleys as 1 of them turned and came straight for me. 😱 The silly bl**dy woman saw me, she couldn't NOT see me - I was right in front of her but she still angled her trolley right at me!! I just had to walk right past her before she crashed into me. 🙄 I was really shocked at how bad it was and it's really put me off going back there.

The girl on the till was saying that it's really quiet any time after 8pm so maybe I'll go around that time next time I need to go there. One of the only bright sides was that they finally had a lot of their baking stuff back in like baking powder, flour and yeast. I got more yeast just in case as it stays in date for a year.

They have also started a new way of donating items to the food bank collection there - they are working with the food bank now and bag up things that the food bank has run out of or is running low on and price them. Then they leave them in a trolley at the start of the shop, so you just pick a bag or bags depending on how much you want to spend and pay for them with your own shopping then add them to the food bank collection point after the tills. 

It's quite a good way of doing it as I tend to forget to pick things up for the food bank and only remember on my way out when I see the food bank collection point. It's good that it's things that are needed too. 

beanielou

G;lad that your KIT day went well.
Shop sounds dire though.
GReat idea on how to best maxamise donations for foodbank.
Enjoy your weekend.