Sashybo - Back Again

piquant

I didn't know about the licensing law either! 

Willowtree222

I was just thinking the same about why your MIL is obsessed with your seeded potatoes but then wondered if she had that to focus on, she wouldn't have to worry about the bigger thing that is going on in the world right now. Anxiety and stress make people focus on some different things at times. 

I haven't been to a supermarket since lockdown. I am managing with deliveries from my normal suppliers anyway and the odd trip to a small shop. x

sashybo

Hi all. 👋 
I don't know if not being allowed to buy alcohol before 10am in supermarkets applies in England or if it's a Scottish thing? The licensing laws here for shops are 10am-10pm, it's a bit of a pain at times when you just want to buy a couple of beers or a bottle of wine but can't because it's too early or too late.

Nicnak, that would make sense with my MIL except she's always like this. 🤷‍♀️ 😂 She fixates on silly things and nags at DH asking about it all the time. The most annoying fixation is her obsession with DS being toilet trained, she's been asking about it since he was about 1yo! 🙄 She's now banned from bringing it up! The next garden related obsession will probably be if we have planted our runner bean seeds yet.

Yes Honeysuckle, DS asks every day to go out in the car and to go and see gran. We haven't been out loads after DD was born but have always seen my mum a couple of times a week, so he must be very confused about why we're suddenly not seeing her or going to her house. 

DD slept well last night, only waking once at half 2 then back to sleep until 8am and DS didn't wake up at all until around 7am. 

No real plans today, will think about getting my next lot of seed potatoes in their bags but no major rush.

sashybo

Have had a really lazy day, just feeling a bit down and like what's the point. DS was "challenging" again, I think he is bored but also partly picking up on my negative mood. I don't know how many times he kicked me in the face during nappy changes and just being silly climbing over me on the couch etc. He also bumped his head again several times in the exact same bit that he fell and hit yesterday! Thank goodness for arnica cream!

We were out in the garden for a bit, hung another washing out and potted my one and only courgette seedling on from the seed tray. I also replaced the compost in one of my African violets as the leaves have been yellow for ages. I thought fresh compost might help and trying not to overwater but not sure what else to do with it. It sits on the same windowsill as another African violet which is fine. 🤷‍♀️ Should probably change the compost over in that one too to keep it healthy right enough.

Feeling really tired, I still need to try and go to bed earlier. The kids are actually sleeping pretty well but I never feel rested in the mornings. ☹️ Had a video call with my mum again today, DS kept jumping in to say "Hi Gran, hi gran" and trying to kiss the phone. 😂 Poor wee soul is missing his gran a lot. DD was just fascinated with the screen. 😊 

beanielou

Lets be honest life is tough however we look at it.
My mood is all over the place.

Willowtree222

Ah, so nothing new for her then? My mum is a little bit the same. She wanted the maternity bags packed from about 20 weeks! My sister and I used to wind her up constantly by saying it wasn't packed. She flusters around things that are completely out of her control. 

x

sashybo

Hi Beanie & Nicnak.

You're right Beanie, everyone is finding this hard, some people more than others but everyone is having their down days. Tomorrow I'm going to try and get some things done around the house and that might help my mood a bit.

Nicnak, yes that sounds familiar. My MIL gets really annoyed at us over silly things that she thinks we should have done a certain way/by a certain time i.e. the way she would have done it. Both she & FIL were very annoyed by us planting our courgette plants in pots one year instead of grow bags. 🤷‍♀️ 😂 Because that's not the way you should do it (that's not the way they do it). 🙄 They also told us after DS was born that we weren't to have any more children as one is enough (my DH is an only child) and children are expensive. 🤣 

Sometimes MIL is genuinely trying to be helpful but then she just goes overboard and gets obsessed about why haven't we done it yet/why did we do it that way etc etc. So then the inquisition starts until DH loses his temper and tells her to stop asking about it. She rarely pesters me because she knows I have a short temper and will snap at her. 😳 My PIL think I'm a crazy person because I lose my temper, shout a bit and stamp around and then after 10 mins everything is back to normal. 😂 

I remember DH being totally perplexed by my family at first as we're all a bit like that - a lot of shouting and temper and then all friends again after 10 mins. MIL & FIL are quite close mouthed and secretive and just don't seem very open about things. I end up in the bad books all the time because I react temperamentally and they act like I'm insane and must be treated carefully in case I shout. And that's me not even reacting the way I want to 90% of the time. 🤣 

beanielou

You are like me. 

Loose the plot & then am fine10 minutes later!! 

Willowtree222

Ha ha,
I can't believe they think you are crazy. It takes a lot to make me snap, but when I do, I am like a demon. I don't remember the last time I proper lost it. It really doesn't happen very often x

sashybo

Hi Beanie & Nicnak. 👋 
 
My in-laws think I'm crazy because it's not the way they behave, they think I'm having a tantrum when I shout and that I'm a moody cow. 😂 To be fair, I can be moody but they think that anyone that does anything differently from them is automatically wrong. 🤷‍♀️ Of course, they never actually say any of this, I just get the disapproving looks and sighs or am blanked by them, this is FIL's favourite response to anything I do that annoys him.

Personally I think it's sometimes better to just get it out, have a shout and slam a door or two and then I feel better and can be nice again. 😂 My DS is already quite similar in that he'll be screaming one minute and then the next he's all smiles again. 👀 Poor DH. 😂 DD will probably be a holy terror as well. 👀 

MIL also likes to question us over and over again if we make a decision that she doesn't agree with. It's as though she thinks we'll suddenly agree with her that she's right and we're wrong if she just keeps going on about it.

My favourite MIL response is still, after telling her that we were having our first baby "But I thought you were happy!" Accompanied by a flabbergasted face. 🤣 We didn't really know what to say to that funnily enough. 🤷‍♀️ 😂 Not the response we expected.

When I first met DH his parents couldn't seem to get over the fact that my parents are divorced, I was brought up by a *gasp* single mum and that my sister was also a single mum (she only had her eldest son at that point).

They went on and on about it, asking me questions all the time. I managed to put up with it for a long time (it was probably years actually which shows you how insane they are) as we didn't see them very often. There were many disapproving looks and tuts when my sister had further children and I faced the inquisition from my PIL. 😮 After that I finally said to DH that he had to tell them to stop questioning me about my sister's life choices as it wasn't my decision what she did or how many children she had!! They are seriously insane. 🤷‍♀️ 

Today I managed to get two washings done and hung out on the line - they both dried and have been put away. I also did the kids' bedding and got that put away too. 🍻 I hoovered the whole house and cleaned my Dyson out, including the filters, it was yucky.

A delivery of more nappies arrived. 😗 It's the two part ones which have the waterproof wrap separate. I had tried the bamboo one plus wrap overnight for DS and it worked well so got 3 more bamboo ones, 2 microfibre ones and another 2 wraps. This should do nights for DS now. The bamboo ones take anything from 1-2 days to dry which is why I ordered another 3. 

I've got chilli in the slow cooker for tomorrow night's chilli nachos dinner. Will be turning it off soon and once it's cooled down it can go into the fridge for tomorrow evening, it always tastes better after sitting for a day or two. 

Going to try and strip our bed and wash the sheets tomorrow if it's dry outside so I can hang them out. Feeling a bit better today and not so down, think keeping busy is best if I can. I'm trying not to think too far ahead as it just depresses me, I miss just escaping the house sometimes.