Sashybo - Back Again

sashybo

Hi SA and Honeysuckle.

Will have to look at the jeans in Mr S at some point then SA. I struggle with skinny jeans as well though as have chunky calves for my size. Can't get some skinny jeans past my calves/knees and with others if I do they're then too big on my waist. Must have an awkward shape. :rotfl:

I have some storage drawers I'm using for DD's clothes until we can move DS into his new room and then move DD's stuff into his old room (which will then be hers). I might use them in my en-suite for toiletries after this so that I know what I have i.e. I keep buying deodorant for both DH & I because I have it in my head that we need it (we really don't!!).

Will have a look at mixed lollo rosso, thanks Honeysuckle. I'm trying not to look at too much seed wise as I know I won't have/make the time to look after everything properly.

The plasterer has been here for the last two days and the conversion has now been plastered. Need to leave it to dry and then DH can paint. Our joiner is back next week to start fitting some units in for DH's home brewing and then I think he's doing the flooring. :T Can't wait for it to be finished.

MIL is due to arrive on Friday afternoon, the spare room is still a disaster zone, plus it's where I'm keeping all of DD's clothes so it's so inconvenient having her coming to stay. :mad: Oh well at least I'm escaping the night she arrives for a few hours - going to a wine tasting. :j

Have been keeping up with my yoga and it's making me feel a lot better. DH has been on late shifts so I've been doing bedtime with the kids on my own and then doing yoga before having something to eat.

Old cat insisted on sitting on top of me earlier when I was doing yoga. :rotfl: It was more of a stretching/relaxation practice this time so included a blanket and a lot of mat work/lying down. Old cat just made himself comfortable. :cool:

We still don't have a replacement bin. :mad: Our council are beyond awful. :mad:

Have cashed out £20 from one survey site, £25 from OP, £5 from £co and £5 from vypr. Will probably split the money between my EF and overpaying DH's big loan.

beanielou

Arent old cats the best
My old boy is 19 3/4's!

Glad the garage conversion is coming along nicely

sashybo

Oh Beanie that is a grand age for a cat, bet he's a wee snuggle bunny.

My old cat is nearly 12 so middle-aged compared to yours really. I class him as old as he's a Siamese - they have previously been quite inbred and a lot of them don't live as long as they should.

We had 2 orientals before that were ex-breeding queens and the breeder just wanted to re-home them somewhere that they could be spoiled in their retirement. The girls were 5 & 7 when we got them and we lost them aged 10 & 12 within months of each other. They were real characters and DH & I still miss them. I just hope that my old boy lives longer than that as it would break my heart to lose him.

Went out to my sister's house today with the kids and my sister attempted to cut DS's hair. She managed a bit but he just refused to sit still even with a bribe of chocolate so we gave up after a while. DS loved getting out in the car and it was good to see my sister.

One of my nieces has been getting online abuse through messages etc from boys her own age (11 yo) telling her no one likes her and that she should kill herself. :eek: :mad:

Luckily she told her mum and my sister has blocked them and taken the phone away from her for now. She went to the school and they're getting the community police involved to go and speak to the boys.

So scary that this is happening to 11 year olds now. What if she hadn't told her mum and it had continued? Doesn't bear thinking about. Seriously considering locking DS & DD up for several years when they're older. :eek::cool:

Honeysucklelou2

What a good job that your niece was able to tell someone.

beanielou

That made my blood run cold.
It really did.
I cannot get my head round why the horrors would do this although I have heard of this before.

sashybo

Hi Honeysuckle & Beanie.

It's horrifying that kids are doing this to each other, there was some disturbing stuff said relating to my niece's cat who recently died as well.

She was so upset about them mentioning her cat as she's heartbroken about it - the cat went missing and they found him curled up under a bridge not too far from home. They think he must have been hit by a car and had internal injuries as there was nothing obviously wrong with him.

My poor niece keeps saying she thinks she heard him crying for her and why didn't she go and find him before he died and thinking it's her fault because she had let him out the day he went missing. Poor wee soul already blaming herself because the cat died and then these wee scumbags saying horrible things to her and about her cat too.

I'm just so glad she told her mum. My sister sent a message to one of the boys to let him know she knew what was going on and then blocked him from contacting my niece. So he then went and started sending messages to my other niece (her sister). :eek:

I really hope that the police talking to them gives them a good fright and also gets their parents checking what they're doing on their phones. The schools involved have been very proactive and involved the police straight away which is reassuring but it's still so worrying that it's happened at all.

I've always worried about my nieces having phones as they're so young even though my sister checks them from time to time. My sister doesn't ever want her kids to feel left out, so if "everyone" has a phone, then her kids have a phone etc etc.

She says she doesn't want them to be picked on, the same reason she uses for spending crazy amounts of money on labels and branded clothes for the kids. :eek: I know they're her children so it's her decision but I just don't think it's what I would do. Sometimes you have to say no for their own good.

Not that it's her fault this happened ofc, bullies will always find a way to bully after all, phones or no phones. It's so hard to try and protect kids from, well, everything I guess and I know it's not possible but it's so scary.

sashybo

So have been MIA due to the MIL's visit, will post that rant first to get it out of the way.

MIL was pretty odd (as usual) and seemed very unsure how to deal with DS, especially when he was upset/having a wee tantrum. Of course she caused several unnecessary tantrums by turning the tv off when he was watching something, which is another story.

DS has been watching more tv than usual lately due to me having to deal with DD and needing something to keep him occupied at times. He generally watches a programme at night before bed whilst I put DD to bed. This usually keeps him occupied on the nights that DH is working and I do bedtime on my own. When DH is here, he has a cuddle with DS whilst they watch this programme and it helps DS to relax.

DH asked MIL to watch this programme with DS whilst he put DD to bed (this was the first night she was here and I was out at my wine tasting). This isn't a difficult request and my own mum manages to do it fine. MIL apparently put the programme off before it was even halfway through (it's only on for 20 mins) and then let DS run up and down the stairs which obviously was disturbing the baby.

DH said he had to take DS back downstairs 3 (!) times and ask his mum to please just put the programme on for DS or else find something quiet to do with him but she just ignored him and did whatever she wanted to do. :eek: She can't work the stair gate so eventually I think DH just put it on to stop DS coming up and lock MIL downstairs as well.

This obsession with putting the tv off when DS was in the middle of watching something continued for the whole weekend! Which obviously upset him so he would start crying and then she would tut and be quite obvious that she thinks we let him watch too much tv. :mad: He's usually not too bad as long as you tell him that it's going off after the end of the programme but she kept doing it halfway through with no warning (although never when I was nearby interestingly) and causing unnecessary upset/tantrums.

DH said she was doing it again at night when I was putting DD to bed and he was downstairs with DS and MIL. DS was cuddled up with his daddy watching his programme and MIL was looking for the remote, saying it was time to put it off (after 5 mins) and how could DH stand to watch this, it's awful etc etc. :eek::mad: DH had hidden the remote to stop her turning it off and was really flabbergasted by her attitude - he told her it's DS who enjoys the programme so that's why we put it on, it's nothing to do with us enjoying it or not!

MIL was also commenting to DH that we don't take DS out enough! Thanks for the judgement. :cool:

She was also trying to force DS out of the bath (again after 5 mins) and again at the end of the bath - he never normally gets out until all of the water has drained away - fairly normal behaviour for kids really.

She looked at me as though to say get him out and was saying to DS in a fake cheerful voice "Oh you need to get out of the bath, come on, come on" Whilst he just laughed at her and lay full length in the bath refusing to move. :rotfl: She couldn't lift him as he's solid and very strong. I just said oh he normally stays in there until all the water is gone and I just let him stay in there.

DH was raging with her and was really tense all weekend. I was annoyed but mostly managed not to let her get to me so much - starting to get like water off a duck's back really. If she's doing something I don't like/isn't usual with the kids I just tell her now and take them away from her.

She was quite ratty with me the other day as she actually asked me if she could pick DD up (she was sitting in her bouncy chair) as she was moaning a bit. I said "Oh she's moaning because she's probably tired as it's near her nap time" and MIL snapped at me "So can I pick her up or not?" I just told her yes because she likes to be cuddled to have a nap (which MIL already knew). She was just being a bit of a b*tch because she doesn't like asking my permission and usually just snatches the baby but I wasn't letting her do that this time. Every time she was being weird/horrible about it I just gave her a look - the confused What is wrong with you, look. :rotfl:

The thing is though that when she has time with the kids she gets bored of them after 5 mins and wanders off and leaves them! DH was painting the garage conversion (plaster paint and then 2 coats of emulsion) so obviously he had the door shut to stop DS wandering in. MIL kept just leaving the kids in the living room and going into speak to DH whilst I was upstairs. So I kept coming downstairs to find the baby and toddler alone and didn't know how long they'd been left. :eek: Luckily I was usually only gone for 5/10 mins but she didn't know how long I was going to be out of the room for and didn't bother asking me! It happened a few times so I ended up not doing anything anywhere that I couldn't hear them.

She kept moaning about how she wished she could help DH paint but she didn't have any old clothes with her and why didn't he tell her to bring any. :cool: I went in and helped DH to paint in an attempt to help him and let her spend time alone with the kids as we could never actually go out and leave her with them after all her shenanigans. I think she was actually jealous and wanted to be the one helping DH. :eek::rotfl:

Ahh, my outlaws are nutcases through and through. At least FIL stayed at home and complained about DS's behaviour over FaceTime rather than in person. *sigh* DS was exhausted and having a bit of a paddy and then was running about mad so of course he's terrible and makes too much noise and we can't control him according to FIL. :mad:

I think the only reason we've not had a major argument is that they live far away. They've never liked me and still don't know me very well at all (after 17 years!) and the more I see of them the weirder I find them. No wonder poor DH had to go for counselling after years of living with them and their favoured techniques of emotional abuse. They still do it. And DH still gets so tense and upset after any length of time around them. He shrinks into himself and becomes a nervous wreck. It's horrible and makes me dislike them even more. :mad: Just let them try that with my kids and see where it gets them. Although MIL doesn't do/say things around me as she knows I won't put up with it and FIL is generally happier pretending that I don't exist. :mad:

sashybo

So back to normal stuff after that giant essay. :rotfl:

The wine tasting night I went to was pretty good actually, we got to try 5 white, 1 rose and 6 red wines. I liked all of them apart from 1 red, which is quite impressive as I usually don't like red wines at all. I ordered the white and the red that I enjoyed the most as a treat for DH and I. We don't often drink wine so it's more of a special occasion thing for us.

I ordered (yet more) storage boxes, including some for the kitchen cupboards and it's made them look so much better and it's much easier to find things. :T

Can't remember if I mentioned that my car needs 3 new tyres. :eek: So does DH's. :eek: DH got his done the other day as apparently they were very close to causing him to fail his MOT. We're going to use the council tax money for Feb and March to get both cars done so at least that will pay for them. :T

Haven't done yoga for a few days as was helping DH paint and I'm aching all over. Will do it tomorrow night though and get back into my routine.

sashybo

Still not back into my yoga routine, will get there eventually.

Took DS to soft play during the week and it was highly stressful because he made a break for it several times and got out of the gate (which is meant to stop kids doing a runner out of the soft play room) twice!! :eek: He managed to get out of the swing door as well and was legging it away in his socks. :eek: I met my friend there so luckily she chased and caught him because I was holding DD.

Then when we were leaving DS ran away from me again and I had to really run to catch him. :eek: So that's it he definitely has to be on reigns when I'm out with him and have DD in the pram on my own. He doesn't listen to a word I say and just legs it, it's so scary.

I'm just glad I was watching and saw him getting out of the soft play room (twice) because god knows how far he would have got otherwise. Other than his terrible habit of running away DS did enjoy himself but it was hard work for me.

Went to the park yesterday with my mum, DS and DD and it was fine for the first 5/10 mins then DS wanted to go and play in a ditch down a slope running along beside a fence at the back of the playground. He is so stubborn and wouldn't give up and had a screaming meltdown in the playground, throwing himself on the ground etc, still not giving up on trying to run away to play in this bl**dy ditch! :eek:

Ended up having to carry him under my arm back to the car and fight with him to get him into his car seat. He eventually calmed down after that but it was exhausting. I said to my mum that's why I can't go to the park alone with DS and DD. She was shocked as had never seen DS behave like that, he's usually very laid back.

Have managed to do the big clean of the litter trays today and washed and dried DD's stuff. Also used one of my new under bed storage boxes to store my handbags in so that they're not lying in a pile in the corner of my room.

Garage conversion is pretty much finished and looks fab but a few things still to do before DH can move all of his stuff in there and we can start getting the upstairs of the house tidy again. Final bill going to be discussed on Monday, half has been paid along with the plasterer and electrician, so just the remainder plus the brickie to be paid.

STILL no new bin from the council. :mad:

Have paid some of my survey money into my EF, so now up to £200. :T

Sun_Addict

What a nightmare visit from the outlaws. Good job they don't live nearer.

How frightening DS trying to run off, good idea to keep him on reins. I wonder if his behaviour is a bit of jealousy and trying to keep the attention on him. My DS used to have tantrums when DD was a baby, he was quite jealous of her.

Glad you're pleased with the garage conversion. It will be good to get straight again.