Mooloo's Joining up the dots in 2017

Savvy_sewing

Artytarty wrote: »

While I do not have the credentials of some regular posters, I have been reading Mooloss diary for a long time. I think, though do,feel,free to correct me , that she decided against moving to Oxford after bf was less than chivalrous when they were at a dance.

I don't often post because she gets such good support and I know advice is not what she is looking for generally...and I don't want to be shot down by others here for my thoughts.

Life throws a ton of poo at moo at times. That I will agree without a doubt.

Thanks
In May I did put a halt to making plans to move in with BF anytime soon, we had been trying to move in before Dgd started big school.
We have managed to get through this year with only that one hiccup compared to many ups and downs in previous years.
Dgd is feeling shoved out because she has had the bedroom since BFs daughter moved out. She is highly intelligent and sensitive and notices things that I don’t have to even say.
She can see the difference in BF since his granddaughter has been born, and she says that he is nicer now. He has softer edges.
I do feel we are not going to be able to go over there as much, he actually said last night that I grab every excuse not to go because I don’t like it there. But that’s not true.
I don’t like it if we are sidelined, I have always said that we should intigrate the families not isolate them. Biggest tries very hard to invite his family etc. We seemed to have managed it this year with the Wedding and Christening.
I don’t expect Bf to not help his family. Even though he used to berate me for doing for mine. It shows he can be human. However I think he could have told us that he would be babysitting when it was arranged, and suggested perhaps would Dgd like to bring her sleeping bags etc and use the dinning room again or not? Not give the reason of an either or?
If we go his daughter can’t come over? Doesn’t really give me an option does it. I am bound to bow out so she can stay.
BFs house is far too small and has been even when he was there with the children before I came along. His sons were 15 and 17 in bunk beds.
I suggested we sold it and bought a larger one together in the first few years. But he will not sell. He will not move. He asked us to move in with him but there is no room for us to do that. Even if I wanted to, because there is not enough rooms.

I just felt pushed out yesterday.
Actually I am probably lucky as with the snow I would have been unable to get home ( I am not confident enough to drive distance in the snow,).
I will have to walk to work tomorrow, I already know that my Seamstress won’t come in tomorrow and if the schools close, then Biggest definitely will not be able to work either.
I will not expect much new work in, but I still have 40 jobs to finish.
I am about to move the washing on and then I need to put boxes etc upstairs into the loft and make my workspace ready to Sew at home.
I am going to try to be optimistic. But I have always been honest and said it how I feel on here.
I am quite a sensitive soul, but I am also a determined one.
But I know I have my faults. And I do feel put out at times. Yesterday was one of them.

ognum

Mooloo

I hope today brings new positivity. Hopefully you can get through a mountain of work if the weather is bad and no one is about. Hope DGDs school is open.

Keep your chin up and keep moving forward.

beanielou

A new day, a new week.
Keep pllodding

Savvy_sewing

School closed so no staff. Dgd went to play with the Neighbours.
Walked to work, took the shopping trolley so I could bring work home this evening.
I worked solidly but didn’t get through as much as I liked because the two main jobs were replacing zips in jackets and neither were straight forward.
The first took me from 9.40-1.10pm it was fiddly to unpick, had extra piping details and flaps etc, and as a padded jacket it also meant having to match the lines in the padding. Not a good start.
Then the next job was a shorten trousers, and a small repair before I tackled the next zip, which was a leather jacket. Neither had been unpicked for me, as usually Biggest does it. I had several people in with various requests and small purchase ms but not too many. I have started an evening dressthat is needed for tomorrow but I didn’t get it finished, I have left a voicemail to say it is the first job of tomorrow as it’s needed by tomorrow night.
I have walked home with a bag full of smaller jobs. So I am about to start then. My sewing space at home has been reclaimed from the washing piles and I am ready to start again now.
Dgd is having tea out so I just had heated leftovers.
My time was spent listening to podcasts for motivation etc etc

ognum

Mooloo

I am really interested in why you have so much washing? There are two of you and if like most of us you change your clothes once daily how does it create so much washing.

This is not a criticism it is just a question.

Is it because you don’t have places to put it or is it because between you you have so many clothes or do you like to iron everything, I am lazy I iron very little.

Just wondering!

beanielou

I dont iron at all these days.
The clothes I wear these days dont need it

Savvy_sewing

Partly too much stuff, partly needs ironing and partly lack of hanging space.
But it’s probably mostly that I have too many clothes. I do love clothes, and have a lot of dresses, and blouses/t shirts and several different sizes as my weight is fluctuating so 3 different sizes!

One of the shirts I wear is over 23 years old though.
I even have ( and can fit into a dress I made when I was 17.). I take it on holiday.

ognum

Mooloo wrote: »

Partly too much stuff, partly needs ironing and partly lack of hanging space.
But it’s probably mostly that I have too many clothes. I do love clothes, and have a lot of dresses, and blouses/t shirts and several different sizes as my weight is fluctuating so 3 different sizes!

One of the shirts I wear is over 23 years old though.
I even have ( and can fit into a dress I made when I was 17.). I take it on holiday.

So it seems that sorting out appropriate storage is a priority. It is difficult when stuff takes over our lives.

I certainly admire that you have and wear clothes from when you are younger but it really needs to be sorted and organised.

Just that would free my mind, I know we are all different but having a place for everything I see more important to me than having everything!

Savvy_sewing

I know that I need to reduce my things, I am rather a border of clothes, fabrics and magazines and books.
I keep planning to decluttering, etc but really struggle to let anything go. It stems to my childhood when we kept moving and had to clear our stuff and take it to the orphanage. At boarding school we were only allowed 3 non uniform outfits a Term.
Having settled here 8 years ago, I have acquired a lot of stuff. Yet I still fight my inner demons over getting rid of anything.

ognum

Thanks Mooloo for explaining. I do understand. I know someone who was bought up moving every few years due to their parents work and they have the same issues.

They have however curtailed their hoarding by restricting it to a particular space, when that is full they make themselves sort it through and consider what is important to keep.

They are happier and mentally healthier since doing this. I am not suggesting your way of life is affecting you this way but maybe some strategy would help to streamline your life a little.

Hope today goes well.