Mooloo's Joining up the dots in 2017

Savvy_sewing

DS came to see me this afternoon. ( wish he’d arrived 5 minutes earlier. I was up in the loft getting the decorations down!) he is so tired looking and so thin and weary. He said he was lonely. My heart plummeted.
The baby due is a boy he said about two weeks left. Christmas baby then.

Dgd brightened up a little and helped me decorate the Christmas tree. We moved the front room around to fit everything in, which meant that I had to deal with some clutter. Still a lot more to deal with, but I now have a headache and a sore throat. So paracetamol and probably an early night.

Why are we all feeling so depressed at the moment?
Biggest and her husband, me, DS ?

Bf messaged me earlier and we have cancelled him coming over tonight.
He also mentioned that his daughter and the baby may be moving back in with him and asked me if I could give any advice!
Erm? Usual one, go see the council, citizens advise and see if they can help.
Warned him if she moves in with him she may not get help as they would not be classed as over crowded. Remember when we all lived in my two bedroom flat the council thought it was acceptable for me to live in the sitting room and the twins to share the room with two babies! Nightmare
Anyway the tree is up, the front room is changed, dinner is in the oven, and I plan to put my feet back up.

beanielou

Think that you deserve to put your feet up!

Savvy_Sue

Well, if it comes to it, DS may not have to pay for a DNA test if he disputes that he's the father. https://www.gov.uk/get-dna-test

Savvy_sewing

Thanks Sue. I think that he probably is the father, but I am wishing that he wasn’t. She certainly is not in a relationship with anyone else at the moment. She appears to have disowned her family or the other way around, and is relying on DS too much.
I am worried about him being so low, tired and thin.
He does not eat properly or sleep properly by the looks of him.

I am going to sleep now and try and visualise a better future for all.
Who knows I might have a brain wave!

Savvy_sewing

Apart from weird dreams of mud, holes in the ground, lack of toilets? And poverty nothing inspiring in my dreams.
The wind and rain woke me a few times.
Headache gone, throat not too bad.
Dgd is willing to go to school “even though I don’t feel 100% I don’t want to be bored at work” she said.
My plan is to get into work as near to 9am as I can so that I can vaccum before I open up. Threads and pins scattered everywhere is not a good look.
Hopefully I will finish all the sewing needed for tomorrow. Only me sewing for the rest of the week.

thorsoak

Love Dgd's comment, Mooloo - it's obvious that the way you treat her when she is "ill" is the right way .....don't make staying off school a "comfy" option ....I always used to say "oh, if you are ill, you have to stay in bed - no telly etc, and no sweets - they won't make you better"!

I think that all of them had almost 100% attendance at school once they cottoned on to the fact that being off school "sick" was boring :-D

Savvy_sewing

The dreaded cushion covers are finished. I worked late today to get them done.
I have 40 jobs to do, as fast as I am sewing them another is coming through the door.

Savvy_sewing

Dgd was still complaining that she was ill last night. So this morning will be interesting. She didn’t have a temperature but said she had a headache again. I said that she was on her technology too much! Gave her paracetamol and made her go to bed early. Cruel granny that I am.
Biggest is going to be watching her daughters assembly today as she is star of the week in her class. So I will probably be doing more serving then sewing this morning. But I can do prepping for jobs etc if it is quiet.
Not sure who kept who awake last night, both Bf and I were tossing around like a limp salad last night! I did sleep because I dreamt about the twins, except they were about 4 or 5. I dreamt about my brother, and his children being in the house, and about being in an apartment with a balcony. In between noughts of a ear worm going around in my head!
“With millions of toys all under one roof etc “ Jeffery has a lot to answer for disrupting my sleep!!!
Tea before I do anything more.

Savvy_sewing

Deflated Moo here.
Every thing seems like a lot of effort at the moment.
BF broke the news that his daughter and granddaughter are moving in, not applying to housing, as she wants to save up for her own place! So he has to find a cover for his classic car so it can be left outside so her stuff can be stored in the garage.
We cannot go over tonight as he is once again babysitting, and if we go over his daughter would not be able to come home as Dgd would be in the bed. Needless to say, I felt obliged to say we will stay here.
I am feeling very deflated as once again we are pushed out while his children move back in. ( I say we, but actually it’s Dgd who gets displaced), but I am not prepared to have her feeling 2nd best!).
My thoughts are low, and I feel even more disjointed in the relationship.

thorsoak

Mooloo - BF is doing for his family what you have done for your family ..I do understand that you feel edged out atm - but I'm pretty sure that you would think less of him, were he to shrug his shoulders and tell his daughter and baby to "get on with it".

Maybe he's learned from you that at times, family has to take first place. xx