From debt to freedom...

sashybo

Hi Honeysuckle, just a quick note, if you’re looking to sell clothes have a look at Vinted - you don’t pay fees unlike eBay. I have bought & sold a few things on there recently and have had a good experience so far.

Sorry to hear your ex is at it again.

Honeysucklelou2

Honeysuckle spotted today in then hedgerow.

Honeysucklelou2

Thank you Sashybo for the tip about Vinted. I’ve not heard of this site before...will investigate.

Sun_Addict

I have an archway in my garden covered in honeysuckle, the smell is amazing 😍 Plus the scent from the mock orange is making my garden a very fragrant place right now ☺️

Kitten868

Taking all of the artwork. ALL of it from one wall. He's really going for it, isn't he? I'm so sorry HSL. 
I hope all your transformations at home draw you new strengths and make you feel refreshed. You deserve it xxx

Honeysucklelou2

Thank you SA, Kitten868, Janb5, Allikat86 & Parkyp.

Parkyp - you’ve hit the nail on the  head, that’s exactly it - the difference between owning a house and it being your home and that’s where the lack of respect is. On  the couple of occasions I’ve had to collect children from his house, I knock on the door and don’t expect ( and haven’t been invited) to go in. That’s absolutely fine, that’s how I expect it to be but he seems to feel he can come into this  house whenever he feels like it and usually when he knows I’m at work😡.

Unfortunately it has rained for the vast majority of the day💧🌧☹️, so we didn’t get to the beach but we did go for a circular walk close to our home. It was good to get outside ( both DS3 and I were starting to have cabin fever!) and to see the beautiful honeysuckle blooms in the hedgerow. At one part of the walk we came across wild roses which smelt wonderful.

I was gifted some rhubarb a couple if days ago, so it has been used to make rhubarb blondie. 

CRANKY40

I picked 4lbs of rhubarb from the garden yesterday. I made jam with most of it but I've saved some to make rhubarb scones and rhubarb and ginger loaf cake. I'll add blondies to the list of possiblities thank you. 

Spendless

What?! What do you mean the walls were bare compared to when you left the house? What had been taken, photos, pictures? If they belonged to or were of ex and the kids that have moved out, I could see them wanting them though still pretty rude to take in that manner. Hope this is something else being flagged as a concern to solicitor, fingers crossed he's crossed the line once too often and you can put some legal procedure in place to stop him coming and going even whilst the court order is sorted.  Meanwhile I'm sure your photo will look beautiful on the wall. My daughter has a canvas on her bedroom wall from a photo and I love it. 


So is ex now also in his rental property? I wasn't sure if it was just the kids moving there and him staying wherever he's been for the past few years.  

Sayschezza

And he is devious because as I see it, the oldest kids by paying rent to him will be funding the maintenance for the youngest kids when it finally goes to court. IYSWIM.

Honeysucklelou2

Thank you Cranky40, Spendless & Sayschezza.

Cranky40 - I haven’t come across Rhubarb and Ginger loaf...sounds delicious!

Spendless - One wall that had pictures on was completely bare, the hallway had had pictures removed...quite a lot was removed , not just pictures. I’m still discovering what has gone eg went to blend something the other day and found the hand blender had gone. Some furniture was taken, an essential piece that I’d bought since separation. Not a word in advance. He didn’t take any of the  children’s  artwork thankfully. Some of the items were his but quite a few weren’t.  Yes I have flagged it as a concern.

Sayschezza - I read with shock, I hadn’t thought of that 😳.

Today has been busy - an extra morning’s work which will be handy.🙂. I’ve also tried in vain to renew my photo card driving licence. I don’t have a passport so can’t do it online which meant driving 15 miles away to the nearest big  town. They said they weren’t a DVLA approved Post Office and I would have to go to a town even further away😒. Then one assistant gave me a form that allows you  to apply in an old fashioned way. I stopped at a photo machine at Mr T’s ready to print some photos . I’d followed the instruction s to the letter, paid and was waiting when the  machine flashed up that it wasn’t working 😩. Back to square 1!