17 y/o girl and 29 y/o guy? should the guy know better?

springdreams

Another one here who thinks you should back away.

It is not so much the 12 year age difference as the fact that she is allegedly 17 and you are 29. If she were 27 and you were 39, I'd be okay with it. However, anyone who is 21 and under with that age gap is just wrong imo. So I'd also think it was wrong for a 33 year old to be interested in a 21 year old in a sexual relationship type way.

I don't think 17 year olds are mature enough for a 29 year old.

Is she merely viewing you as a feather in her cap to brag to her school friends about?

And surely there must be loads of single girls your own age that you could hang out with, without you having to resort to lusting after 17 year old girls?? Is this an ego boost thing for you?

Spendless

Out of curiosity, would people feel different if both the parties were 2 years older?

missbiggles1

Spendless wrote: »

Out of curiosity, would people feel different if both the parties were 2 years older?

Not much.

Om the other hand, would people feel differently if the parties were two years younger?

fierystormcloud

Out of curiosity, would people feel different if both the parties were 2 years older?

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Not much.

Om the other hand, would people feel differently if the parties were two years younger?

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:rotfl::T

Good question! And a very good point.

Personally, as many people have said on here, I struggle to see why a 29 year old man would want to be with a 17 year old girl. No 17 year old I have ever known in my life is 'mature.' At 17, she is not even legally an adult yet.

Someone made a very good point earlier

He is not a pervert - he is just manipulative and/or unable to cope with an adult/woman of his own generation.

Very good point.

Oh that was you too Miss B!

Spendless

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Not much.

Om the other hand, would people feel differently if the parties were two years younger?

I was actually thinking about 31 year old Prince Charles dating and becoming engaged to 19yo Lady Diana Spencer.

I was an awe-struck young teenager in those days, but amongst the articles I collected I don't recall reading anything about any inappropriateness of the relationship due to the age gap. I was wondering if that was because back in the early 80s we didn't think the same way, we do now.

15yo and a 27yo is going to be different due to the age of consent.

missbiggles1

Spendless wrote: »

I was actually thinking about 31 year old Prince Charles dating and becoming engaged to 19yo Lady Diana Spencer.

I was an awe-struck young teenager in those days, but amongst the articles I collected I don't recall reading anything about any inappropriateness of the relationship due to the age gap. I was wondering if that was because back in the early 80s we didn't think the same way, we do now.

15yo and a 27yo is going to be different due to the age of consent.

I think dynastic marriages are a rather differnt situation and, after all, that didn't turn out well, did it?

The age of consent is only relevant to having sex, not to going out with someone.

Aced2016

I am 30 and I look at boys at 17 as children !!!!

My sister is 19 and looks so so young, I honestly would be livid if I were her parent. As to why a 29 year old man is trying to get with my 17 year old child. Regardless how mature she is, I think men who go for young girls like this do so for a complete ego boost. Mabye a woman is not what your looking for though ?

Anyway your not breaking any laws and it's up to both you and her at the end of the day. But as a similar age and also a mother it doesn't sit right with me at all !!! And I just asked my husband his thoughts, to which he said he couldn't look at young girls like that at all.

Spendless

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I think dynastic marriages are a rather differnt situation and, after all, that didn't turn out well, did it?

The age of consent is only relevant to having sex, not to going out with someone.

I think the times of dating and not having sex before too long in the relationship have pretty much long gone.


Re - Charles and Diana. They weren't well suited and there had been pressure on Charles to find a bride and have an heir, but I was purely thinking of whether there was the general public opinion that the age gap was unsuitable/inappropriate at the time?

missbiggles1

Spendless wrote: »

I think the times of dating and not having sex before too long in the relationship have pretty much long gone.


Re - Charles and Diana. They weren't well suited and there had been pressure on Charles to find a bride and have an heir, but I was purely thinking of whether there was the general public opinion that the age gap was unsuitable/inappropriate at the time?

For someone in their late 20s, I'm sure you're right - for someone in their mid teens, I don't think you are. (Which is, of course, the point of the discussion.)

just_trying

springdreams wrote: »

Another one here who thinks you should back away.

It is not so much the 12 year age difference as the fact that she is allegedly 17 and you are 29. If she were 27 and you were 39, I'd be okay with it. However, anyone who is 21 and under with that age gap is just wrong imo. So I'd also think it was wrong for a 33 year old to be interested in a 21 year old in a sexual relationship type way.

I don't think 17 year olds are mature enough for a 29 year old.

Is she merely viewing you as a feather in her cap to brag to her school friends about?

And surely there must be loads of single girls your own age that you could hang out with, without you having to resort to lusting after 17 year old girls?? Is this an ego boost thing for you?

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Not a pervert - manipulative and/or unable to cope with an adult woman of his own generation.

Ridiculous comment, unable to cope with adult women based on what, there's plenty people in relationships with big age gaps.