Getting someone to leave

melanzana

OP. Why your place and not his for this money saving meal?

Easier for you to put your coat on at his and go at a time of your choosing, than having to worry about showing your date the door and all the angst that is obviously bringing you.

Anyway, I would just take the hit and pay for an inexpensive meal/drink somewhere instead. Too much time taken up worrying about it if you ask me.

Then take it from there.

Lily-Rose_3

indiepanda wrote: »

I always need some time on my own, even in a very happy relationship. The last time I lived with a guy he was a football fan and he used to go to the pub to watch Barcelona games and give me some peace and quiet to watch my favourite crime dramas - he was more chatty than me and would drive me mad interrupting while I was trying to watch.

However, I suspect from what you are saying the issue is the guy you are with, not needing time alone - if it were one of your female friends coming over would you be so keen to pack them off home straight after dinner?

When the football fan and I were first dating we spent almost every night together from our third date onwards and I loved having him around to snuggle up with in front of the TV. It took longer for me to need to have some time away from him that was alone time rather than time with friends or at work.

This ^ I love my hubby and enjoy spending time with him, and we do lots of stuff together, but I do enjoy 'me time' too. If he is busy at work for 4-5 days and I hardly see him, I love the time I get to myself, and then when he is off for a few days, we have a great time together. But if he was at home 100% of the time, and never went out, and we were never apart, I would struggle with having no time to myself.

I do wonder how people cope when they retire. Together all the time. I don't think it's healthy to have no time apart. Everyone needs 'me time' in my opinion.