This date - what happened?

NWOIHTS

SuzieSue wrote: »

I would consider it a lucky escape. If she is playing silly games at this stage of the relationship, what will she be like later on.

How old are you both as she seems very immature?

Why did you meet on a night where you had work in the morning? At least learn from this and next time meet when you don't have work the next day.

She didn't have regularmon-fri 9-5 like me so had to meet during the week. Another thing it was just a coffee meet it wasn't a full on date. I wouldn't have expected it to go on all night anyway. That's what I see on most profiles and it seems a good wway to do it, meet for a quick coffee and see how it goes first before deciding on a proper date.

NWOIHTS

SuzieSue wrote: »

Fair enough, he made a mistake but he has since explained why he left early and has gone out of his way to make up for the mistake by texting her and inviting her on another date. She seems very unforgiving. I know people who are unforgiving and I wouldn't wan to be in a relationship with them, so I still think the OP has had a lucky escape.

It's a case of your damned if you do or don't. I've met people like this before they act all umm and kind of aloof when you try and set dates although they still seem to want to talk to you but just not really commit to anything.

I'm afraid it's a yardstick for me, if I put myself out there it's for a good reason. I'm not going to email someone for the rest of my life I'm going to try and arrange a date, what is so wrong with that lol. If they flake and flounder then what is the point, are they really that interested? Are they going to umm and aa the rest of their life and not take things forward?

Barny1979

There seems to be a trend with the women you are meeting....

bearcat16

If I see a girl on a dating site, I talk to her, we get on, she and me both seem interested then you just forgot to let me know when you were next available when YOU said you would then is that not a red flag too? Would you tolerate it?

Lol!

Telling someone "I'll let you know" is meant to be open-ended and vague. To then hassle her about NOT letting you know won't increase your appeal.

ChrisJones1

• Which dating site was this?

• How old are you?

These are the following things that could be happening in no particular order:

• She's not into you as she was when you were messaging

• She could be busy

• She's dating other men and keeping her options open

• Some other reasons

Also online dating works massively in favour of women. They have tons of options to choose from if she doesn't quite like you.

I would say don't bother investing so much and be honest with yourself and listen to what your instinct is telling you.

If she's interested and you are important to her she should be putting in some effort the way you are. It takes two to tango. Even if I was busy if I was interested in someone I would have time and generally this is the behaviour of anyone when they are interested in you.

My reasons are based on dating hundreds of women so I know what to look out for.

missbiggles1

Pick up the phone and talk to her!

Bogalot

SuzieSue wrote: »

Fair enough, he made a mistake but he has since explained why he left early and has gone out of his way to make up for the mistake by texting her and inviting her on another date. She seems very unforgiving. I know people who are unforgiving and I wouldn't wan to be in a relationship with them, so I still think the OP has had a lucky escape.

Where has she been unforgiving? All I see is a lady who is busy with work, Christmas etc. I feel like I've not had time to breathe over the past few weeks, and I know many others feel the same. Making time to see someone I've met once would not be a priority!

Primrose

I think you shiukd have explained upfront before meeting up your date would have to be short because of early work co mitments the following day then she would not not have been left guessing whether your early departure was due to your not feeling too enthusiastic about the date.

Step back. You!ve offered options for another date. if she's interested she'll follow up. Christmas is a distracting time and she may have other family commitments to fulfill even if she IS interested in having another date.

justme111

I understand your question, op. Believe it or not , people are different. It seems logical to you that if one is on a dating site one should be ready and keen to date ( as we know she is not one of those with fake pictures or a bunch of children creating a profile or obvious social handicaps). Ready and keen to date means different things to different people though. For many people who would genuinely liked to have a partner making an effort to get one feels counterintuitive. And yes one can perfectly be free to write emails and busy to meet - difference being the former one can do with 1 minute notice in pijamas in 15 minutes while meeting needs planning and a few hours. I am surprised you do not see it.
Having said that she may be not very keen in you as well but it does not mean it is a lost case , I know a few seemingly happy long term couples and one which is definitely happy where a woman was not that keen in a man at the beginning.

tesuhoha

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Pick up the phone and talk to her!

I agree.. What have you got to lose?