All the lonely people....

FreeBear

Caterina wrote: »

Reassured that the unheated house is your choice

A choice based on hard financial realities - I either starve and have the heating on, or suffer the cold and have enough money for food.

Caterina

I am sorry to hear that, FreeBear, I wish I could suggest something positive but I am sure you have looked into this. Thinking of you xx

Poppy_Golightly

I spent yesterday on my own too. My family turned their back on me when I got cancer and previously when just £100 stood between me and homelessness. They are wealthy beyond imagination but selfish and cruel and being 'ex-communicated' was my punishment when I took them to task over this. However that's their problem not mine and although it hits home a bit harder at this time of year it won't drag me down. I'm a fighter and I'd urge all 'lonely' souls to fight for a beautiful life as well, nobody else will, and 'family' takes many forms, it does not necessarily mean blood relations - it can be friends,neighbours etc. And for me personally 'Excellence is the Best Revenge':grouphug::grouphug:

Eenymeeny

Caterina wrote: »

Eenymeeny I am delighted that you post about the Silver Line and humbled thinking how many people are really and truly alone. For me it was a dark moment last night when I reached out, for so many it is a permanent situation. Thank you for the healthy reminder, it helps me count my blessings and be grateful for what I have. I hope you had a great day today x

Thanks Caterina I'm so glad that you took it in the right spirit! (I sometimes post then wonder if I've done the right thing...) A lot of us have had those moments too and isn't it lovely that we can turn to 'strangers' on this forum who have become friends? Thanks everyone for being there for each other, you're a fabulous bunch :A:grouphug:.
We did have a nice day thanks, actually I found it a lot less pressure than years gone by when things were focused on the timing of meals and guest arrivals. We're off to visit in-laws for tea tonight, we'll enjoy it but there's always a frissant of tension between OH and brother in law. Hopefully everyone will be on their best behaviour and I'll just get the moaning in the car on the way home. Sometimes family can be a pain in the .... Onwards and upwards

meg72

FreeBear wrote: »

A choice based on hard financial realities - I either starve and have the heating on, or suffer the cold and have enough money for food.

This really worried me until I read your signature, its obviously your personal choice to go without heating rather than a dire need, Was so relieved as really hate to think of anyone being cold or hungry,

Andypandyboy

Caterina wrote: »

Dear monnagran and t14cy t, thank you both very much for your kind and comforting words, and for the wisdom.

I am so envious, curry! Enjoy some on my behalf too! Although really tbh I have no complaints re food, my mother is very relaxed about what we eat and what time, if we are hungry we do, if not we don't. Just as well my sister is not here, she tends to impose her ways and tastes. I am quite sure that one of the reasons she stayed away is because I told her in no uncertain terms No Meat No Fish and only basic simple things, no big fancy dinners. She is the sort of person who lives to eat, takes a lot of pictures of food and puts them on FB. Each to their own, but I don't understand the need for that!

Just woke up from a good refreshing sleep, DH still fast asleep but breathing clearly, am delighted to report. I will leave him to sleep all day if he needs to.

Very soon I will emerge from the bed and will treat myself to a shower. My mother has the best shower in the world, strong jet, lovely large rose, nice products. It's a pleasure to get washed here!

I clicked on this thread due to the title, and in the Op I felt really sorry for your plight, and wished things were different for you. However, reading through it I can't help but think that the bit in bold is a bit dictatorial of you and somewhat unusual for Christmas. Maybe your mother wishes that there was give and take on both sides with her kids for her sake? As you will be aware, for mothers (and fathers) it is important that Christmas is a coming together of family if that is at all possible.

I am now aware that I am on the old style board and that the above observations may not be well received but they are made without agenda or malice as I don't "know" the poster or ever frequent this board.

LameWolf

What ho, Caterina; I'm afraid I too had a rough day - dratted lupus had me tied to the sofa in my dressing gown all day, too poorly to do owt else. Good job we weren't expecting any visitors!

I'm at least dressed today; but I have to admit, Christmas always brings it home to me what a total misfit I am. I've been estranged from the whole toxic boiling of my family for many years; when I divorced the XH, the Judge allowed me to keep my address off the court papers, because the XH would have told them where I was, and that would have put me in danger.

Christmas means little to me; I never had children, and I'm not a Christian; but it does reinforce my feelings, as a disabled person, of being on the outside, watching everyone else enjoy themselves (being completely socially inept doesn't help).

What's keeping me going is that on Wednesday, a Golden Labrador Retriever is coming to stay for three days. This is the first Christmas in about eight years that I haven't had a dog staying, and the dog-shaped hole is not pleasant! So I'm hoping for lots more canine guests in 2017.

katkin

It's lovely to hear you have a doggy visitor coming soon LameWolf. Sorry that your condition decided to flair up yesterday. Hope a bit of rest and tlc help.


Caterina how are you feeling today? Is today when you move to the hotel?

LameWolf

Cheers katkin. It's the absolute truth to say that I am a lot more at ease with dogs than I am with people.:o

I love the OS board - just about everyone is pleasant and friendly, and I can "hide" behind my computer screen; it just feels safer, I can't explain better than that.

Hard_Up_Hester

I have a son in law who is socially awkward, all I can do is keep loving him for making my DD happy.