Accommodation v Disposable income dilemma

moneyistooshorttomention

More impressed by nice detached house and average other things

Naughty naughty Dave. You can probably make an educated guess as to whether I would learn it or no...

Clue = I'm busy with voluntary work in the community, gardening, cooking, etc, etc.

Davesnave

No one would ever guess my Cockney/London roots. As a child, I quickly learned to adopt a west country accent, as in those days, doing otherwise led to bullying, especially in villages where people were still not long out of the Neanderthal period.

The only language I really didn't 'get' then was latin. I couldn't foresee a time when I'd ever need to exclaim, "We shall lay waste the lands of the Barbarians with our swords and spears!"

However, latin later proved very useful when we began the gardening business, enabling me to converse with people with whom I'd little else in common. Gardening is a universal experience, and to speak it's language opens many doors....

moneyistooshorttomention

More impressed by nice detached house and average other things

It was no good me adopting my own accent as a child (ie West Country) when I went to school as a "fit in mechanism". My mother soon put a stop to that and it was back to standard English:rotfl:. Some people can swop to and fro - but I'm not one of them:cool:

Latin - hmmm...waste of space time that was...but I'm guessing it might be the reason I can make out the gist of something "basic level" in Italian (though I havent learnt the language), whereas I have no idea whatsoever what something says if it's in Welsh (though I'm surrounded by it).

I am learning that garden conversations can go on for a while...

Soundgirlrocks

Kim_kim wrote: »

I was taught some of those "rules" growing up.
Never cut your bread, always break it.
Don't dip your bread in the soup....
I didn't know about the salt though.
I am a bit of a purist,to me it's beef - horseradish, lamb - mint, turkey - cranberry, pork - Apple & Yorkies are for beef only.

I'd agree with you that knowing the rules & which cutlery to use & the rest, means I feel quite comfortable in surroundings that some might find uncomfortable.
But I hate the no dipping the bread rule!!!!
I break it at home :-)

Agree, I'm a roast purist too:rotfl:
Peas are another one, god forbid you turn the fork over and scoop up the peas!

movilogo

Equally impressed by neither

I know it is a weird question per se, but having a different perspective....

It all depends how YOU want to impress others.

If your profession involve sales where to some extent you need to impress other using a flashy car, dresses, watches etc. then you need to budget for that.

However, if you want to bring people (friends, relatives etc.) to your home then a larger house is more impressive than what car you drive.

Keep in mind, many rich people have lots of properties yet ride bangers. House is an appreciating asset while all other "show off" things like car etc. are depreciating assets.

In my definition

Nice house + old car = sign of financial acumen, matured thinking

Crappy house + expensive car = no financial sense, no future planning, no idea about priorities in life

Bit generic but still conveys the meaning.

moneyistooshorttomention

More impressed by nice detached house and average other things

Back to that "future planning" then?:rotfl::rotfl:

Personally - never mind the blimmin' labels - but I want to know if someone is a "future planner". To me that translates into "logical mind:T intelligent:T".

Blow the traditional "class" definitions imo. Personally I want to know if someone "wings it", "plans to some extent" or "plans to within an inch of their life" and I'm happiest personally with "plans to within an inch of their life" and darn well aware (blow it - of that "best laid plans of mice and men" syndrome mucking things up:(:mad:) and the fact that it would seem very few people plan to that extent...

Prothet_of_Doom

Equally impressed by neither

I am impressed by people with no debt, and a happy stress free household, where "stuff" does not matter.
I am impressed by people who save up for the things they want, and use those things on a daily basis.
I am not impressed by products that depreciate, but accept than someone had to spend £36K and £00000's on repairs and servicing over 15 years, for me to own my £525 3.2 litre V6 Autobahnstormer.

Davesnave

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Personally - never mind the blimmin' labels - but I want to know if someone is a "future planner". To me that translates into "logical mind:T intelligent:T"...

I think many non risk-takers are just unadventurous, and not necessarily more intelligent than those who might blow half their savings on a round the world hitch-hike, or some such thing.

The hitch-hiker would soon have a much better idea of where to hole-up on a limited income, and probably the personal flexibility to do it.

The cautious just stick with what they know, which isn't clever at all.

What's the saying? "If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got."

There's a mad, round-the-world hitch hiking, jump friom a plane, bushtucker-eating, ghost-hunting, surf-crazy, meditating lumberjack inside most of us. It's just that the greaat majority of us tell him/her to shut up and opt for security instead, mainly because it's easier and less stressful.

moneyistooshorttomention

More impressed by nice detached house and average other things

Davesnave wrote: »

I think many non risk-takers are just unadventurous, and not necessarily more intelligent than those who might blow half their savings on a round the world hitch-hike, or some such thing.

The hitch-hiker would soon have a much better idea of where to hole-up on a limited income, and probably the personal flexibility to do it.

The cautious just stick with what they know, which isn't clever at all.

What's the saying? "If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got."

There's a mad, round-the-world hitch hiking, jump friom a plane, bushtucker-eating, ghost-hunting, surf-crazy, meditating lumberjack inside most of us. It's just that the greaat majority of us tell him/her to shut up and opt for security instead, mainly because it's easier and less stressful.

A valid point - which I get....

But not all "planners by nature" are cautious/middle of the road/etc/etc individuals you know. Personally - I'm cautious/cover back/etc to extent it's believable I was a civil servant for many years (back-covering par excellence:rotfl:) BUT I've "stood up and fought" on more than one occasion in my life in circumstances where I would lay very heavy odds indeed against the vast majority of people having fought their corner.

That's the thing - there are no rules on that. The inherently cautious by nature may well turn round and "fight to the ends of the earth and back" if they absolutely know they are right about something/they need to for self-preservation/there is a principle involved on the one hand.

On the other hand those who regard life as an "adventure"/"wing it" may (yep...do...:cool:) astonish the cautious ones of us sometimes by not "fighting their corner" the way others of us will and just going for the "easy life" option instead. I can think of one right now - who has "winged it" and will be feeling the results of it for the rest of her life (whereas I would have dealt with it/forgotten about it by the end of next month personally).

I don't think it's less stressful to "wing it"/be adventurous personally. I tend to think it's a sight more stressful to do one's best to keep those "plans for one's life" right on track as far as possible - despite circumstances/ other people/etc heading them "off the rails" left to themselves. Personally - I only wish I'd been a "planner" sooner...much sooner...

Elfbert

Equally impressed by neither

Davesnave wrote: »

No one would ever guess my Cockney/London roots. As a child, I quickly learned to adopt a west country accent, as in those days, doing otherwise led to bullying, especially in villages where people were still not long out of the Neanderthal period.

:rotfl: As a student, I left the dark backwaters of the West Country and headed to the bright lights and streets paved with Gold.... I dropped my West Country accent as fast as I could, once I discovered 'Awrigh' moi luvver?' wasn't the standard greeting once I'd gone more than two fields over... I obviously didn't do a good job of adjusting my accent though, because the other day someone asked me if I was even English :rotfl:

(Although my family now think I have a hideous London accent, and everyone in London still thinks I sound like a Wurzel, so basically I can't win!) :beer: