Absolutely crushed by what I've seen. Need advice on what to do. :(

LKRDN_Morgan

emberlyn wrote: »

Can I ask why?

I think you guys are going to have to be blunt with me.

OK you met this guy online whilst he was still in a relationship with this girl. You say you became very close over the Summer talking for hours so he was emotionally invested in you whilst physically being with the other girl. That's wrong

He broke up with her and told you she was having a hard time dealing with it yet he's contacted her numerous times with zero response. You don't have be worldy wise to know she's not bothered by the breakup therefore he's lying.

You excuse his behaviour by saying he wants to be good, feels guilt for different things etc. It sounds like you're defending someone on death row, not your boyfriend.

I say this from experience. He's a dog and not worth your time or heartache.

melanzana

Oh The angst of youth.

Experience of life will help in time.

But for now, we can't help you, because you cannot see beyond your dreams.

And as Yeats the poet said,

I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.
,

OneLeggedPig

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

I say this from experience. He's a dog and not worth your time or heartache.

I wish I was psychic like some of the people on this thread. I could make a fortune.

marisco_2

OneLeggedPig wrote: »

Emberlyn just try to take it steady, be careful, and remember that you are very very young and, while it might not seem like it now, you will meet many more people in the future so if this isn't "it" now, then that's not the end of the world.

Best of luck.

Exactly this. Who in their right mind would want to meet 'the one' at just 18 anyway. Far too young to settle down for the rest of your life. Get out there and have some fun OP is my advice

suki1964

OneLeggedPig wrote: »

I wish I was psychic like some of the people on this thread. I could make a fortune.

The op posted looking advice

She's posted here, where we aren't so young, where we have a bit of life behind us, and horrors of horrors may possibly have experience not only of real life, but on line life

So we reply from EXPERIENCE

Now if the op wants to hear how wonderful it all is and no she's not on a hiding to nowhere and she's not going to get hurt, may I suggest she sticks to her own circle of friends


You may not like the replies but hey, that's life. You post on a forum of people from all different backgrounds, ages, sexes, experience, you aren't always going to get the replies that suit you

justme111

Op , I asked you the question. Do you think that telling someone who has hard time getting over you that you miss time with them etc is going to be helpful? Do you think it is done for the benefit of that person? Do not respond with saying how he is in guild or aywhere else , it has nothing to do with the question.

emberlyn

justme111 wrote: »

Op , I asked you the question. Do you think that telling someone who has hard time getting over you that you miss time with them etc is going to be helpful? Do you think it is done for the benefit of that person? Do not respond with saying how he is in guild or aywhere else , it has nothing to do with the question.

No it's not a good idea and I'm very confused why he did say it to her. I'm trying to understand his mindset and why he would say it to her considering he seems really happy with me.

missbiggles1

emberlyn wrote: »

No it's not a good idea and I'm very confused why he did say it to her. I'm trying to understand his mindset and why he would say it to her considering he seems really happy with me.

But he isn't "with" you.

emberlyn

I know he's not physically with me right now, but he constantly invests his time in me online. We talk together between 7-10 hours everyday and there is rarely ever a pause in conversation. Explain if he had deep feelings for his ex why he would devote so much of his time to me? If he did still have feelings for her, he'd end our relationship and go back to her.

missbiggles1

emberlyn wrote: »

I know he's not physically with me right now, but he constantly invests his time in me online. We talk together between 7-10 hours everyday and there is rarely ever a pause in conversation. Explain if he had deep feelings for his ex why he would devote so much of his time to me? If he did still have feelings for her, he'd end our relationship and go back to her.

I don't mean to be rude but, if that's really the case, I think you both need to get a life. Doesn't he have a job?