Absolutely crushed by what I've seen. Need advice on what to do. :(

OneLeggedPig

suki1964 wrote: »

The op posted looking advice

She's posted here, where we aren't so young, where we have a bit of life behind us, and horrors of horrors may possibly have experience not only of real life, but on line life

So we reply from EXPERIENCE

Now if the op wants to hear how wonderful it all is and no she's not on a hiding to nowhere and she's not going to get hurt, may I suggest she sticks to her own circle of friends


You may not like the replies but hey, that's life. You post on a forum of people from all different backgrounds, ages, sexes, experience, you aren't always going to get the replies that suit you

That's all fair and fine. What I find strange is that instead of saying "I think this" or "this could happen "I think this is quite likely", there are a lot of posters stating "this IS GOING to happen to you" "he WILL DO this" etc.

It's strange people can be so definiteively sure about something we all have only very limited information on. I think people are getting a bit carried away with their certainties, and maybe projecting their own experiences onto the situation a little too much.

LKRDN_Morgan

OneLeggedPig wrote: »

That's all fair and fine. What I find strange is that instead of saying "I think this" or "this could happen "I think this is quite likely", there are a lot of posters stating "this IS GOING to happen to you" "he WILL DO this" etc.

It's strange people can be so definiteively sure about something we all have only very limited information on. I think people are getting a bit carried away with their certainties, and maybe projecting their own experiences onto the situation a little too much.

What is so wrong with trying to help an 18 year old avoid the pain of heartbreak? Do you remember being 18? Do you even have any relationship experience? In fact are you OPs crap boyfriend?

You carry on with being the eternal optimist. I'm sure that will help a young girl cope with the inevitable

OneLeggedPig

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

What is so wrong with trying to help an 18 year old avoid the pain of heartbreak? Do you remember being 18? Do you even have any relationship experience? In fact are you OPs crap boyfriend?

You carry on with being the eternal optimist. I'm sure that will help a young girl cope with the inevitable

There we go again "the inevitable".

I'm 23, with relationship experience that is relevant to the OP's specific situation.

But I'm still saying, if you read my posts, that she needs to be very careful and not get too emotionally invested, and that what happens at age 18 isn't necessarily the be all and end all.

I'm just not pretending to be a clairvoyant.

Nothing wrong with anyone's advice here but it's the way people talk as if they know everything about someone's life when all we know is a few paragraphs of writing from one side and nothing from the other.

LKRDN_Morgan

OneLeggedPig wrote: »

There we go again "the inevitable".

I'm 23, with relationship experience that is relevant to the OP's specific situation.

But I'm still saying, if you read my posts, that she needs to be very careful and not get too emotionally invested, and that what happens at age 18 isn't necessarily the be all and end all.

I'm just not pretending to be a clairvoyant.

Nothing wrong with anyone's advice here but it's the way people talk as if they know everything about someone's life when all we know is a few paragraphs of writing from one side and nothing from the other.

OK you carry on telling the teenager not to get too emotionally invested in her first boyfriend. I'm sure that'll go well :beer:

Guest101

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Have you played a MMORPG seriously? It sounds like you haven't. The number of "roleplayers" in the sense you imply is very small. I'd venture that it's much, much smaller than the number of people that portray a persona they've created on forums.

Oh please, i've played mmo's for the last 15 years+, do you know how many BSer's I've met?


Role playing not in the sense of: I am thrgma the hunter.....


But as in recreating themselves to be what they want, or what they want other people to think

Guest101

emberlyn wrote: »

What do you mean exactly? Sorry, I'm a bit lost on what you're trying to say.

You said, if he wanted her back he'd break up with you.


I'm saying - that's not strictly true. He could be sleeping around and you would never know.

emberlyn

Okay guys... I asked him about it. As you know it's been really bothering me and I couldn't keep it in any longer. I made sure I wasn't accusing him and I'm SO glad I told him as it's a big worry off my shoulders and I feel so much better. He was really nice about it too, he just seemed embarrassed. This is what he said:

oh my gosh you did??

im so sorry

you know what im like

i feel bad easily

hurting her made me feel like absolute s***

i just wanted to let her know how bad i felt and how sorry i am

i dont want her to think of me as some d***

Stoke

OP lost me at online game. I do apologize.

Hope it's all resolved for you though.

Caroline_a

Guest101 wrote: »

Oh please, i've played mmo's for the last 15 years+, do you know how many BSer's I've met?


Role playing not in the sense of: I am thrgma the hunter.....


But as in recreating themselves to be what they want, or what they want other people to think

OP, you need to watch some of the Catfish programmes.

Guest101

emberlyn wrote: »

Okay guys... I asked him about it. As you know it's been really bothering me and I couldn't keep it in any longer. I made sure I wasn't accusing him and I'm SO glad I told him as it's a big worry off my shoulders and I feel so much better. He was really nice about it too, he just seemed embarrassed. This is what he said:

oh my gosh you did??

im so sorry

you know what im like

i feel bad easily

hurting her made me feel like absolute s***

i just wanted to let her know how bad i felt and how sorry i am

i dont want her to think of me as some d***

knight in shining armour


Look he could be a great guy, but equally that's page 1, line 1 of 'so you got caught texting your ex'