Absolutely crushed by what I've seen. Need advice on what to do. :(

justme111

I have nothing to add to what I already said. What a friend said does not bring any new info. You already know he writes her "I miss time with you " repeatedly witjout response and justifies it to you by saying that it is because he is worried about her. You thinks he is right - you may as well keep thinking the same as it is the same thing happening that a friend tells you about.

HeatherH

He's not over her, I'd run a mile as he's treating you like the back up. It's not a nice situation to be in, whatever age you are. Good luck x

Loz01

OP even if your boyfriend is worried about his ex genuinely then that doesn't excuse him constantly messaging her saying i miss our chats etc etc... thats not very appropriate for someone who's supposed to be in a relationship. As other people have said, sounds like he's treating you like a back up plan somewhat, maybe because of the age gap he thinks he's got you where he wants you.

Im sorry to say it as well because I know it used to annoy me when I was younger (Im 30 now) but you ARE young and there is so much life to live.... don't tie yourself up in knots about someone when you're only 18. You shouldn't have to sit at home mulling over this.

badmemory

If she wanted contact from him why did she instantly block him on skype? It almost sounds as if he is stalking her - if what the friend has said about this IS true. Early on in a relationship should really not be this hard. Cancel your train tickets and get yourself a special treat. I think deep down you know that is what you should do. He is not treating you with the respect you deserve and if it goes on too long you won't respect yourself either.

KRB2725

He is not over his ex and he is not committed to you. Do not waste your time trying to make this work. You are young, go out, meet lots of people and have lots of fun. Do not put up with someone that is half arsed about you.

d70cw6

I ranked #1 for a time as a pally tank on one of those raids....the troll one a couple of expansions back. No DBM add-ons too!

FBaby

So now you know. Surely you are going to accept reality. It's not nice and you'll be hurt for a bit but much better then continuing to pay - financially and emotionally- to see someone who uses you as nothing else but distraction.

BrassicWoman

emberlyn wrote: »

Really annoyed right now and if you guys agree with me and think this is a BIG problem I'm gonna just cancel my tickets.

I don't think anyone should run their life by popular vote. do what YOU think is right.

badmemory

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I don't think anyone should run their life by popular vote. do what YOU think is right.

I couldn't agree more, but sometimes we get bogged down in the thoughts of what we hoped was going to happen and reality. Seeing what others think of as the reality hopefully makes us see things as they really are.

emberlyn

I've decided to still see him. I'm on my way to his now. I'm going to consider everything that has been said in this thread and be careful.

I realised I didn't want to finish it with him because we get on so well and I might regret it forever. I have to accept he was with his ex for a long time and of course he's going to still miss her from time to time. But that doesn't mean he still loves her or wants to be with her.

Thanks for all the support and for looking out for me!