Absolutely crushed by what I've seen. Need advice on what to do. :(

onomatopoeia99

Guest101 wrote: »

Oh please, i've played mmo's for the last 15 years+, do you know how many BSer's I've met?


Role playing not in the sense of: I am thrgma the hunter.....


But as in recreating themselves to be what they want, or what they want other people to think

Weird. I met loads of people all over Europe and they were all basically the same in personality and life terms as they acted and talked about themselves in game. Main difference I noticed was that some were more voluble in game.

You get the odd person that talks what it obviously utter rubbish, but you just ignore them, eject them from the guild if they persist and move on. They were very rare though and never made it to any of the RL meetings. Probably because they knew their nonsense would be so obvious.

The people painting a false picture of themselves and their lives are way more common on forums.

Guest101

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Weird. I met loads of people all over Europe and they were all basically the same in personality and life terms as they acted and talked about themselves in game. Main difference I noticed was that some were more voluble in game.

You get the odd person that talks what it obviously utter rubbish, but you just ignore them, eject them from the guild if they persist and move on. They were very rare though and never made it to any of the RL meetings. Probably because they knew their nonsense would be so obvious.

The people painting a false picture of themselves and their lives are way more common on forums.

I guess for every bad experience there's a good one

melanzana

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

The people painting a false picture of themselves and their lives are way more common on forums.

Just like us so?

Who are real. Really.

justme111

Of course he would say that. How exactly what he said changed the fact that he did repatedly texted her that he missed their time together ?

emberlyn

justme111 wrote: »

Of course he would say that. How exactly what he said changed the fact that he did repatedly texted her that he missed their time together ?

Well I think it shows his texts came from a place of guilt rather than still having any feelings. Don't you?

LKRDN_Morgan

emberlyn wrote: »

Well I think it shows his texts came from a place of guilt rather than still having any feelings. Don't you?

You are too gullible to be real.

I'm out :beer:

justme111

So how does it exactly show that ?
Remember, she is trying to get over him. How his words and texting her again and again are benefitial to her?

emberlyn

I don't understand why it's gullible of me

I've never broken up with anybody before but I can imagine it's a common emotion to feel after a break up especially when you know they are sad. He's the type of guy who would be really upset if someone hates him.

Pop_Up_Pirate

emberlyn wrote: »

Thank you all for your comments, you've all been very helpful and given me things to think about.

The fact that he misses the time he had together with his ex is the only real red flag and thing that's bothering me. I'm not particularly bothered about the what the rest of the texts said and that he asked her if she was okay as that shows he's a caring guy and just worried about her. I do wonder why he keeps texting her with no response from her though. We always have such wonderful conversations so it's a little upsetting there may still be a void only his ex can fill.

I'm going to be careful but I don't want to give up on him.

You don't want to "give up on him" because you're holding on to a fantasy.

You don't know there was no response from the ex when he texted her. She may very well have phoned him.
Him texting her to she is she is ok is not a sign of him caring at all. Its a sign of him still being in love and not accepting they have split up.
He carries on with you because, hey, why not? Nothing else going on for him. He might as well see if he can 'Bed the Virgin'.

Besides anything to do with his ex, Why would you want a guy who spends all his time playing an online game and flirting with other girls whilst his gf is left out of it?
Do you honestly think that he wouldn't do the same to you?

There is no future with this guy. You're only 18. Find someone who actually cares about you and someone nearer your own age.

Pop_Up_Pirate

emberlyn wrote: »

I do get where you're coming from and I definitely feel that way about the other people in our guild. I couldn't even imagine meeting them in RL. I'd be way too shy. How I feel about my boyfriend is different to all the others though. We talk all day and night. Apart from when I'm sleeping or at college, we haven't even gone an hour without speaking. Our instant message conversations are endless daily. I know that's not real life but we don't live in the same city so we don't really have a choice.

The messages to his ex are still bothering me though, more so as time is going on as I keep ruminating over it. The fact that he said he's missing their time together just really worries me. From the joy he gets from our conversations and the amount of time he invests in me, it just surprises me. Someone on another forum said that his messages sound like what a caring person would send after a breakup, and that he wasn't asking her to get back together or that he loves her, he was just reassuring her. I'm just hoping that's the case.

Forget my previous message.

You;re not 18 at all are you?