Absolutely crushed by what I've seen. Need advice on what to do. :(

onomatopoeia99

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I'm an online gamer too, but I know people are very very different in real life. May one tenth of those I have met in RL that I used to raid with were anything like they presented themselves.

Entirely different from my experience. When I was playing EQ our guild held real life meetings all over Europe and everyone was pretty much the same face to face as they were in game in personality terms. Tended to be people in their 30s and 40s though.

*max*

What 18 year old in a love crisis is going to come on MSE and specifically look for the Relationships forum and post?


Come on people.

suki1964

*max* wrote: »

What 18 year old in a love crisis is going to come on MSE and specifically look for the Relationships forum and post?


Come on people.

Aww come on Max, don't be so sensible

This one has enough to run and run

emberlyn

Thank you for all your responses.

I came on here because I noticed this is a very active community. I've posted this issue on a few online forums actually so I can get as much feedback as possible.

What you all say is what I feared, but the hopeful side of me believes he doesn't have feelings for her anymore and is just looking out for her as a friend and just feels guilty about hurting her.

He's been talking to me constantly since I got back home, so I know he wants to be with me. At the end of the day, if he wanted to be with her he would, wouldn't he? She made it clear to him in her text she wanted more than friendship but he's not with her, he's with me.

Bogalot

emberlyn wrote: »

Thank you for all your responses.

I came on here because I noticed this is a very active community. I've posted this issue on a few online forums actually so I can get as much feedback as possible.

What you all say is what I feared, but the hopeful side of me believes he doesn't have feelings for her anymore and is just looking out for her as a friend and just feels guilty about hurting her.

He's been talking to me constantly since I got back home, so I know he wants to be with me. At the end of the day, if he wanted to be with her he would, wouldn't he? She made it clear to him in her text she wanted more than friendship but he's not with her, he's with me.

He's constantly talking to you because he wants you, or because he's bored?

This relationship is set in cyber space. You have no idea what he's doing while you're not there.

heartbreak_star

emberlyn wrote: »

What you all say is what I feared, but the hopeful side of me believes he doesn't have feelings for her anymore and is just looking out for her as a friend and just feels guilty about hurting her.

I'm actually inclined to believe this. I worried about my ex a LOT when we broke up as he was battling anxiety and depression. Thankfully he's much improved now, but I was scared for him then.

HBS x

Guest101

emberlyn wrote: »

Thank you for all your responses.

I came on here because I noticed this is a very active community. I've posted this issue on a few online forums actually so I can get as much feedback as possible.

What you all say is what I feared, but the hopeful side of me believes he doesn't have feelings for her anymore and is just looking out for her as a friend and just feels guilty about hurting her.

He's been talking to me constantly since I got back home, so I know he wants to be with me. At the end of the day, if he wanted to be with her he would, wouldn't he? She made it clear to him in her text she wanted more than friendship but he's not with her, he's with me.

I think to be honest the problem is you aren't in that 'cant keep hands of eachother' phase

emberlyn

Guest101 wrote: »

I think to be honest the problem is you aren't in that 'cant keep hands of eachother' phase

How do you mean exactly?

We haven't slept together yet because of my age and lack of experience, but we do cuddle and make out a lot etc. We also have affectionate and exciting conversations online if you know what I mean.

FBaby

He's been talking to me constantly since I got back home, so I know he wants to be with me. At the end of the day, if he wanted to be with her he would, wouldn't he? She made it clear to him in her text she wanted more than friendship but he's not with her, he's with me.

Talking to you doesn't mean he wants to be with you, it means he wants to talk to someone. He is indeed with you, but the question is whether he would still be if she texted him to say that she wants him back? Or more what you should wish for, do you think he would tell her that he will never ever get back with her because he is now with you and only wants to be with you.

The fact that he was the one doing the chasing strongly suggests that this response is highly unlikely.

Guest101

emberlyn wrote: »

How do you mean exactly?

We haven't slept together yet because of my age and lack of experience, but we do cuddle and make out a lot etc. We also have affectionate and exciting conversations online if you know what I mean.

Ok, look it's your relationship and you shouldn't ever do what your not comfortable with.


You're 18, not 15, and you aren't going to magic up experience (well if you did I think he might have some questions!), but he's 27 and is used to being in an intimate relationship (im presuming anyway), so in that sense his thought will go back to his last experience, his ex.


Kissing, cuddling, sexting it's all foreplay basically.


I'm not saying sleep with him, that's got to be when you're ready. I'm just saying that there's a big gap here and whilst he might want to be chivalrous and say you can take it slow, he's also a sexually active adult and you aren't, so expectations are different in the sub conscious.