Teenage hormines

JReacher1

mum2one wrote: »

Yes it's all true.... it's not that she is a terrible parent she has a kind heart treats people as she expects to be treated and I guess she wasn't expecting to be facing this

It's not responsible parenting to spend a holiday where you allow a 22 year old guy to kiss your 14 year old daughter. As soon as that happened she should have broken off contact, certainly she shouldn't have allowed him back to their hotel room!

Keeping in touch afterwards was ridiculous and the fact she's decided to go back next year literally defies belief.

mum2one

Mojisola wrote: »

Those are the photos Mum knows about - is her daughter in direct contact with the man? Would she tell her Mum if she was contacting him separately?

The mum has checked f/b messages - just the general chit chat, think she would tell mum as she told her about the incident

mum2one

JReacher1 wrote: »

It's not responsible parenting to spend a holiday where you allow a 22 year old guy to kiss your 14 year old daughter. As soon as that happened she should have broken off contact, certainly she shouldn't have allowed him back to their hotel room!

Keeping in touch afterwards was ridiculous and the fact she's decided to go back next year literally defies belief.

As I explained earlier the 1st thing the mum knew about the kiss was when they were back home, literally as far as she was concerned he was treating her daughter like a sister - with the exception of the balcony she was present 24/7

ska_lover

JReacher1 wrote: »

It's not responsible parenting to spend a holiday where you allow a 22 year old guy to kiss your 14 year old daughter. .

I am unsure how you came to the conclusion that the mother allowed the kiss. What do you suppose, mother was asked permission? or they were necking whilst the mother looked on? Do either of those scenarios sound likely?

Statements like this are ludicrous and only intended to be inflammatory. Not helpful whatsoever

System

ska_lover wrote: »

What do you suppose, mother was asked permission? or they were necking whilst the mother looked on? Do either of those scenarios sound likely?

Nothing useful to add other than run fast and run far but the word 'necking' i ain't heard that word for years.:D

LEJC

The best thing to do is delete him as a facebook friend and move on....

the mother has been naive and the daughter caught up in an alluring teen holiday romance.

back to reality and uk life now and just put it down to experience

paddy's_mum

mum2one. Personally, I find it reassuring that the girl herself seems to be using a bit of common-sense. She stopped the overly intimate stuff from going any further, has confided 'everything' to her mother and appears not to be hiding heaven knows what.

If nothing else, your alarm and warnings ought to have alerted Mother and, since it had the potential to shatter your friendship, those are the actions of a real friend. Well done, you.

tea_lover

If she wasn't aware of what was going on until they got home, why did she have a word with him while they were still there? That doesn't add up at all.

JReacher1

mum2one wrote: »

As I explained earlier the 1st thing the mum knew about the kiss was when they were back home, literally as far as she was concerned he was treating her daughter like a sister - with the exception of the balcony she was present 24/7

You posted

"He gets a bit to hands on - mum basically told him hands off she's 14... "

That doesn't sound like a way someone treats their sister!

There were obviously some indication that he had romantic intentions towards this 14 year old!

onomatopoeia99

I think that though rather the way on here, forensic cross-examination of the OP on the details of a story that has been recounted by a concerned friend is not terribly helpful.