Climbing the Mountain

MistyMountainTop

I'm finding the 15 min thing helpful for evilbay, it's much less stressful to tell myself I'll just list one quick item using my phone. If I can list several items this way each day, it will make a big dent in the clutter and should really help with the finances. In the past I have gathered up a pile of things to sell, but finding the motivation to take loads of photos, crop them, upload them etc. made it very easy to put off until later. Using my phone and the app make it quicker. The auctions may not be quite as nice looking as when I use the laptop but I need to get used to good enough rather than perfect. Perfect wastes too much time and I don't know if it brings in any more money.

Here's hoping I can keep this up!

Scott_Weiland_2

One at a time Misty is fine i know what you mean about messing on listing loads on ebay its a time waster. I listed 5-6 cds on there last week ten mins later and none sold.

MistyMountainTop

Thanks Scott, I'm also finding it helpful to wrap the item then and there, not seal it completely in case anyone wants more photos etc., but weigh it to make sure I don't end up paying extra postage.

I've been let down quite badly by a good friend and a family member (separate incidents) over the weekend and am having a bit of a "what's the point?" moment. Instead of feeling angry at them, I feel stupid and naive for having counted on them in the first place. I don't want to be a bitter old woman who doesn't trust anyone but at the moment am feeling like I can only truly count on myself.

Financially things have stalled, the money from evilbay is paying the bills. My tiny savings is gone and selling the side line equip is a real possibility. I think this is as much of the cause of my feeling blue as being let down, I still haven't found a full time job and can feel my sideline dream slipping away. Maybe I should just let it go and get rid of everything associated with it. Being let down has made me fiercely determined to do whatever it takes to own a little flat outright, which I see as a very a positive thing. If I were younger it would be different, but soon I will be too old to get a mortgage so need to make it happen while I still can. Funny, just writing this has made a lot of the blue feelings dissappear and made me more determined to turn things around!

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MistyMountainTop wrote: »

Thanks Scott, I'm also finding it helpful to wrap the item then and there, not seal it completely in case anyone wants more photos etc., but weigh it to make sure I don't end up paying extra postage.

I've been let down quite badly by a good friend and a family member (separate incidents) over the weekend and am having a bit of a "what's the point?" moment. Instead of feeling angry at them, I feel stupid and naive for having counted on them in the first place. I don't want to be a bitter old woman who doesn't trust anyone but at the moment am feeling like I can only truly count on myself.

Financially things have stalled, the money from evilbay is paying the bills. My tiny savings is gone and selling the side line equip is a real possibility. I think this is as much of the cause of my feeling blue as being let down, I still haven't found a full time job and can feel my sideline dream slipping away. Maybe I should just let it go and get rid of everything associated with it. Being let down has made me fiercely determined to do whatever it takes to own a little flat outright, which I see as a very a positive thing. If I were younger it would be different, but soon I will be too old to get a mortgage so need to make it happen while I still can. Funny, just writing this has made a lot of the blue feelings dissappear and made me more determined to turn things around!

GRR there's nothing worse than family and friends letting you down!

Did your benefits get reinstated? Or are they still on hold?

Yay to your determination, you can do it!!

MistyMountainTop

No reinstated benefits, the payments are nil until the renewal date next year. I have been over to the council and also the CAB but gave up fighting because it was causing so much stress and getting nowhere. The benefits will stop soon enough anyway with DD getting older, so maybe it's best to just learn to cope without them. It feels like we are living well below the poverty line and one more mishap could see us on the street. It's funny how when you are younger you assume your life will get better and better as you get older... we are far worse off now than we were 25 years ago. I never thought things would be this bad in my 50's, I genuinely thought I'd be settled in a nice little cottage somewhere looking forward to retirement. I'm worried about our basic survival in the future - back then I would happily scavenge for wood for a fire if needed, grow food in the garden or help out someone at their allotment in return for some of the produce. I can't physically do those things easily anymore and it's really scaring me.

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MistyMountainTop wrote: »

No reinstated benefits, the payments are nil until the renewal date next year. I have been over to the council and also the CAB but gave up fighting because it was causing so much stress and getting nowhere. The benefits will stop soon enough anyway with DD getting older, so maybe it's best to just learn to cope without them. It feels like we are living well below the poverty line and one more mishap could see us on the street. It's funny how when you are younger you assume your life will get better and better as you get older... we are far worse off now than we were 25 years ago. I never thought things would be this bad in my 50's, I genuinely thought I'd be settled in a nice little cottage somewhere looking forward to retirement. I'm worried about our basic survival in the future - back then I would happily scavenge for wood for a fire if needed, grow food in the garden or help out someone at their allotment in return for some of the produce. I can't physically do those things easily anymore and it's really scaring me.

That's scary that they can't/won't give you anything to help you.

You're determined, so you will come out of this at the other side intact.

MistyMountainTop

Thanks Purplemum02, I know now that it's down to me alone to make things better and am going to focus on it entirely. Too often I've put other people's wants and needs before my own but have had a huge wake-up call this weekend. From now on (or at least until I get my flat/house and pay it off) I need to make securing my own future my top priority and let other people sort themselves out.

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MistyMountainTop wrote: »

Thanks Purplemum02, I know now that it's down to me alone to make things better and am going to focus on it entirely. Too often I've put other people's wants and needs before my own but have had a huge wake-up call this weekend. From now on (or at least until I get my flat/house and pay it off) I need to make securing my own future my top priority and let other people sort themselves out.

That's my way of thinking too and so far it works

MistyMountainTop

Feeling very positive today, just sorting out my goals for August

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MistyMountainTop wrote: »

Feeling very positive today, just sorting out my goals for August

That's a good start, look forward to seeing them

Have a lovely day x