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Engaged without proposing.

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  • duchy
    duchy Posts: 19,511 Forumite
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    I am sorry, but I'd be very uneasy about how your gf has handled this, in spite of five years of living with her, in spite of her terrible situation. It still doesn't make all right her trying to force you to marry her. I've a lot of experience with manipulation.., and it never has a good outcome because the manipulated always knows it has happened, even when its something you would have done anyway., but as your choice and at your speed.

    You did pick up that they had agreed to marry long before this blew up and it was timing was the issue ? Anyway OP s happy going ahead now and admits some of it was a touch of cold feet and he's happy so perhaps he's not feeling manipulated the way you did ?
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  • Dird
    Dird Posts: 2,703 Forumite
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    Erm, no, didn't say that anywhere!
    Anyone who says cringe like they can't live without someone is just fooling themself
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