Would you marry again if you were widowed?

pineapple

Robisere wrote: »

A good question OP, but you are aware that Coronation Street is not actually real life, are you not?

What an unnecessary snide comment.

pineapple

catkins wrote: »

I must admit I never wanted to marry anyone that had been divorced or widowed or had children. If I were likely to remarry (I am not) I don't think I would particularly want anyone with grandchildren

I would look at it from the opposite point of view. If someone had no history of commitment I would be very very wary....

seven-day-weekend

pineapple wrote: »

What an unnecessary snide comment.

Precisely why I ignored it.

pineapple

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Precisely why I ignored6 it

Sign of being the better person :beer:

izoomzoom

amersall wrote: »

I have been married for 34 years and would not get married again, I could not get used to someone else and their "ways" as another poster said.

I told my Hubby, if I die before he does and he meets someone, that is fine I would want him to be happy, but... if he moves her in our house and marries again, he should make a will and leave the house to our Daughter and Son, no one is "sharing" what I put into it or I will come back and haunt him that is my only fear really, irrational as it sounds .

Wanted to say this, before I carry on reading the rest of this thread.

If that is what you want, make sure you own your property as tenants in common and make sure you write your own will leaving your portion of the house to your child, with residence rights to your husband.

If your house is owned as joint tenants, when the first person dies, the other automatically becomes the sole owner. If that person then marries, any previous Will will no longer be valid and if that person dies, the new wife gets everything (up to £250K). Its called sideway disinheritence.

Make sure you protect your child, through your own actions.

Lily-Rose_3

I guess you can never say never........

But I genuinely don't think I would get married again.

Not sure I'd even want to live with someone, or even be in a relationship again. The whole idea of starting over is just daunting. I think after so many years with the same person, it would be difficult to adapt to someone new. I guess it's the same if you have been single for many years.

Probably more likely/easier if you're young ish. I imagine the older you are, the less likely you would be to want someone else.

As a few people have said, I may consider a friendship/close companionship with another man - eventually - but that would be I think.

Prothet_of_Doom

I haven't read all 9 pages, but if asked this question by their long suffering wife after 25 years of happy marriage, all men should be taught that the answer is not :

Hell no, why would I put myself through that a second time?

I'm sure there is a "right" answer, but at the time I got confused, and blurted out the "wrong" one.

Just to be clear, if I were suddenly single again, I'd sell the house, buy something falling apart with a barn (for the knackered cars I'm going to collect) on the Welsh Borders, some 60 miles away, and make beer wearing only my underpants.

I certainly would not seek out someone who would interfere in my decision making.

Robisere

pineapple wrote: »

What an unnecessary snide comment.

Why is it?
People judging and comparing life to what happens in a Soap Opera, is ridiculous. Coronation Street is not real. Full stop. It's a false version of reality, performed by actors and acted to a script written by people who know very little about real life, and too many people talk about it as if it's real.

Robisere

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

I haven't read all 9 pages, but if asked this question by their long suffering wife after 25 years of happy marriage, all men should be taught that the answer is not :

Hell no, why would I put myself through that a second time?

I'm sure there is a "right" answer, but at the time I got confused, and blurted out the "wrong" one.

Just to be clear, if I were suddenly single again, I'd sell the house, buy something falling apart with a barn (for the knackered cars I'm going to collect) on the Welsh Borders, some 60 miles away, and make beer wearing only my underpants.

I certainly would not seek out someone who would interfere in my decision making.

Now that's something for you critics to get your knickers in a twist about! I love it!

thorsoak

Person_one wrote: »

Its a bit harsh, but my grandmother has always said that if she dies first we will have to get my grandfather married off again pretty quickly, otherwise he'll live off cheese toasties and bananas, wear the same clothes for a fortnight and call one of his younger relatives every time he wants to use a machine more complicated than the Breville!

He is in his eighties, I think most younger men could probably manage a bit better.

If that's what he wants - then why shouldn't he? After all, that's how a lot of students live!