The Talk! Uni parents.

baby_lemonade

mumps wrote: »

I felt that the condom protected from more than just pregnancy but the schools view was that giving out condoms was endorsing (or maybe it was encouraging) underage sex. It didn't make much sense to me as I felt they should either stay our of such personal matters or be responsible. We never agreed on it but they did acknowledge that there was sense in what I was saying but they felt most parents would disagree with me.

There was a time, believe it or not, when women couldn't get the contraceptive Pill from the doctor unless they were married or engaged to be married.

Now they're handing out condoms and morning-after Pills to 13 year olds without their parents knowledge or consent.

I do feel as a society we've gone from the sublime to the ridiculous.

Guest101

baby_lemonade wrote: »

There was a time, believe it or not, when women couldn't get the contraceptive Pill from the doctor unless they were married or engaged to be married.

Now they're handing out condoms and morning-after Pills to 13 year olds without their parents knowledge or consent.

I do feel as a society we've gone from the sublime to the ridiculous.

Surely everyone should be able to access medical care, regardless of age.


Whether that's sexual health or not.

baby_lemonade

Guest101 wrote: »

Surely everyone should be able to access medical care, regardless of age.


Whether that's sexual health or not.

Societal problem, isn't it? Why are 13 year old children wanting or needing access to contraception.

As for the OP, handing out condoms to your offspring is a kind of covert pressure. You're saying (or This Morning is saying..) that 1) you're 18 and going to uni, therefore you should be sleeping with people, and 2) that despite the above, you're not capable or intelligent enough to go online and get yourselves some decent condoms.

Bonkers. But hey-ho, as has been said by other posters, it's only moron telly, with Phillip and Holly.

Guest101

baby_lemonade wrote: »

Societal problem, isn't it? Why are 13 year old children wanting or needing access to contraception. - Because they're hormonal and horny teenagers and that through out history this has been the case. It's hardly societal, when its biological. 13 has often been used as the age of adulthood.

As for the OP, handing out condoms to your offspring is a kind of covert pressure. You're saying (or This Morning is saying..) that 1) you're 18 and going to uni, therefore you should be sleeping with people, and 2) that despite the above, you're not capable or intelligent enough to go online and get yourselves some decent condoms. - Or is it that the parent wants the child to know they are there to discuss any problems, particularly given the (usual) distance involved in going to uni. Therefore the parents opens the door by saying: I'm aware that you'll be having relationships, whether 1 night or 1 year, and im here for you.

Bonkers. But hey-ho, as has been said by other posters, it's only moron telly, with Phillip and Holly.

I don't see what the issue is to be honest

baby_lemonade

Guest101 wrote: »

I don't see what the issue is to be honest

If you're adult enough to be having sex, you're adult enough to sort out your contraception. If you're relying on mummy to buy them for you, something's wrong somewhere.

And not everyone feels the urge to sleep around just because they're at university

Guest101

baby_lemonade wrote: »

If you're adult enough to be having sex, you're adult enough to sort out your contraception. If you're relying on mummy to buy them for you, something's wrong somewhere.

And not everyone feels the urge to sleep around just because they're at university

But that's not what im saying. Providing contraception opens a door that many may otherwise find difficult to open themselves. The parent is saying 'you can talk to me about your relationships, im not going to judge'


Your statement is hypocritical anyway, as you were previously saying it was wrong for 13 year old to be sorting out contraception.


Using contraception doesn't mean 'sleeping around' it means taking responsibility for your own health. Sex is a normal aspect of an adult relationship.

ViolaLass

baby_lemonade wrote: »

If you're adult enough to be having sex, you're adult enough to sort out your contraception. If you're relying on mummy to buy them for you, something's wrong somewhere.

Physical maturity and emotional maturity are separate things. We might hope that they develop together but they don't necessarily and to pretend that they always will is naive.

missbiggles1

Guest101 wrote: »

But that's not what im saying. Providing contraception opens a door that many may otherwise find difficult to open themselves. The parent is saying 'you can talk to me about your relationships, im not going to judge'


Your statement is hypocritical anyway, as you were previously saying it was wrong for 13 year old to be sorting out contraception.


Using contraception doesn't mean 'sleeping around' it means taking responsibility for your own health. Sex is a normal aspect of an adult relationship.

13 year olds aren't adults.

newcook

I think its only sensible for a parent to discuss with their children about the dangers of alcohol, sex, drugs etc - sure they may all be a bit embarrassed by it but surely its better than having a discussion about being pregnant and not knowing who the dad is because you were so drunk you slept with a couple of guys the same weekend? or in future years being infertile because you caught an STD because you didn't use protection and were too embarrassed to have a check up at the uni clinic?

Guest101

missbiggles1 wrote: »

13 year olds aren't adults.

No but neither are 16 year olds.