The Talk! Uni parents.

lisa110rry

This is a really amusing thread to me!

When my son went to Ibiza with school friends at 16, I went to the chemist and bought a selection of condoms and gave them to him in front of the others.

At 17, he said [girl's name] is going to give me a lift home and stay the weekend if she passes her test and she's not staying in the spare room. My reply was, oh no she is not. You will go to bed in your bedroom and she will go to bed in the spare room.

When, at about 27, our son brought his bride to be home to meet us he said he would rather also be in the spare room and I said of course, you are now an adult and responsible for yourself.

mumps

We had a letter home from the school my kids went to saying they would be taking girl for morning after pill if they asked for it. I suggested that handing out condoms on a Friday afternoon would be a lot better than the morning after pill on a Monday morning. This did not go down well.

I also thought that the short bus ride/half hour walk to the local clinic should be manageable for anyone old enough/mature enough to be having a sexual relationship.

Apparently I am irresponsible.

Person_one

mumps wrote: »

We had a letter home from the school my kids went to saying they would be taking girl for morning after pill if they asked for it. I suggested that handing out condoms on a Friday afternoon would be a lot better than the morning after pill on a Monday morning. This did not go down well.

I also thought that the short bus ride/half hour walk to the local clinic should be manageable for anyone old enough/mature enough to be having a sexual relationship.

Apparently I am irresponsible.

Better that both are available with support from trained staff who the pupils trust and feel able to talk to.

The morning after pill is very useful if a condom breaks, that's why I had to take it.

Person_one

lisa110rry wrote: »

At 17, he said [girl's name] is going to give me a lift home and stay the weekend if she passes her test and she's not staying in the spare room. My reply was, oh no she is not. You will go to bed in your bedroom and she will go to bed in the spare room.

I don't really get this, at 17 were you trying to stop them having sex (why?) or were you well aware that there would be soon tiptoeing across the landing but preferred to keep up the pretence, again why?

Peter333

lisa110rry wrote: »

This is a really amusing thread to me!

When my son went to Ibiza with school friends at 16, I went to the chemist and bought a selection of condoms and gave them to him in front of the others.

At 17, he said [girl's name] is going to give me a lift home and stay the weekend if she passes her test and she's not staying in the spare room. My reply was, oh no she is not. You will go to bed in your bedroom and she will go to bed in the spare room.

When, at about 27, our son brought his bride to be home to meet us he said he would rather also be in the spare room and I said of course, you are now an adult and responsible for yourself.

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really get this, at 17 were you trying to stop them having sex (why?) or were you well aware that there would be soon tiptoeing across the landing but preferred to keep up the pretence, again why?

I am with you Person One, but do know a young woman who is 23 who started dating her 22 year old boyfriend (in January...) he still lives with his mum (so does she) and although HER mum lets them share a room, HIS mum is having none of it LOL. 22 and 23, and she won't let them share. Probably thinks they're still virgins LOL!

onlyroz

My parents never talked to me about sex, preferring to leave it up to the school. I went onto the pill when I started Uni - at the suggestion of the Uni surgery (which we were made to enrol with). Condoms were also freely available at the surgery.

Guest101

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Even one is quite shocking these days.:(

Of course and each is an individual.


I just wouldn't class it as a social problem.

mumps

I think my mother's talk was basically she didn't want me to have an illegitimate baby but if it happened she would support me. I think it was a very effective tactic as I felt loved and supported and didn't want to let her down.

mumps

Person_one wrote: »

Better that both are available with support from trained staff who the pupils trust and feel able to talk to.

The morning after pill is very useful if a condom breaks, that's why I had to take it.

I felt that the condom protected from more than just pregnancy but the schools view was that giving out condoms was endorsing (or maybe it was encouraging) underage sex. It didn't make much sense to me as I felt they should either stay our of such personal matters or be responsible. We never agreed on it but they did acknowledge that there was sense in what I was saying but they felt most parents would disagree with me.

Peter333

OldMotherTucker wrote: »

Naive is probably the wrong word - but she's never gone out with a boy/been kissed! We've always talked about stuff anyway (and she has Big Bruv and Bossy Sis to keep her in check:rotfl:) I've never felt need to sit down and be serious.

It's the alcohol side I'm more worried about - she's not a drinker at all!!

I messaged her last night mentioning the programme and asked if she was 'cool';)

The response I got was:-

Bloody hell Mum!
And stop watching This Morning - it's Sh1t3!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yeah it is! :rotfl:

.Gigolo_Aunt wrote: »

You've summed it up perfectly, Peter.

Thanks GA.

Dill wrote: »

At 18 I couldn't think of much worse (or more embarrassing) than my parents buying condoms for me. My boyfriend's mother buying him condoms would have been equally weird :eek:

This. ^^^ :T